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    Taming Your Defensive Reflex

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    23 janv. 2026
    PsychologyPersonal DevelopmentCommunication skill

    Discover why defensiveness is a normal brain response and learn practical strategies to regulate your emotions when receiving criticism, transforming feedback from a perceived attack into an opportunity for growth.

    Taming Your Defensive Reflex

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    Feeling defensive is largely involuntary—it's a set of emotions like anger, anxiety, or shame that just happens. What we can control is how we respond to those feelings.

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    Question posée

    I have a tendency to react in a defensive way when I get a bad mark, or receive any feedback or critisicm. I tend to say and do things that almost proves myself wrong and dig in. I'd like help with regulating my emotional reactions so I can reply or take in the information without feeling like I need to prove them right or wrong.

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    Fait partie d'un plan d'apprentissage

    Stop being defensive & communicate better.

    Stop being defensive & communicate better.

    PLAN D'APPRENTISSAGE

    Stop being defensive & communicate better.

    2 h 56 m•4 Épisodes
    Reduce defensiveness in conflict

    Reduce defensiveness in conflict

    PLAN D'APPRENTISSAGE

    Reduce defensiveness in conflict

    2 h 33 m•4 Épisodes
    Accept criticism without becoming defensive

    Accept criticism without becoming defensive

    PLAN D'APPRENTISSAGE

    Accept criticism without becoming defensive

    2 h 9 m•4 Épisodes

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    Defensiveness: Normal Feeling, Controlled Response

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    The Brain's Alarm System: Why Feedback Feels Like Danger

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    The Neuroscience of Emotional Regulation

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    The Power of Separating Self from Performance

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    Practical Strategies for Real-Time Regulation

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    The Art of Receiving Feedback Like a Pro

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    Your Feedback Transformation Playbook

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    Building Your Feedback-Ready Future

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