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How to Hug a Porcupine
June Eding
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Communication Skill
Relationship
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How do you connect with the prickly people in your life? "How to Hug a Porcupine" offers psychological wisdom from Dr. Debbie Joffe Ellis on disarming defensive behaviors. Like actual porcupines, difficult people don't shoot quills - they just need the right approach.

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When Every Interaction Feels Like a Minefield

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We all have them in our lives-those people whose very presence makes us tense up. The colleague who criticizes everything you do. The in-law who always has a cutting remark. The friend who takes offense at the slightest comment. These "human porcupines" carry their defensive quills everywhere they go, and one wrong move can leave you feeling the sting. But what if these challenging relationships could become your greatest teachers? Just like their animal counterparts, human porcupines don't develop their defenses overnight. Those 30,000 protective quills evolved for a reason-survival. Similarly, difficult people arm themselves with emotional defenses designed to keep threats at bay, developed through past hurts, disappointments, and trauma. The boss who explodes over minor issues might be carrying wounds from previous professional failures. The spouse who withdraws into icy silence may have learned early that expressing needs led to rejection. What's fascinating is that both animal and human porcupines follow predictable patterns before deploying their full defenses. They give warning signs-raised voices, aggressive body language, emotional withdrawal-signals that something has triggered their protective instincts. And here's the crucial insight: these defensive behaviors aren't personal-they're protective, rooted in survival instincts and learned responses. Have you ever wondered why certain people consistently bring out your worst reactions? Understanding the porcupine nature means recognizing that under certain circumstances, we all have the capacity to raise our own quills. This awareness creates the foundation for genuine empathy rather than mere tolerance.

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Reading the Warning Signs Before Getting Pricked

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Finding the Soft Underbelly Through Genuine Connection

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Communication That Disarms Rather Than Provokes

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Professional Porcupines: Navigating Workplace Quills

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The Porcupine in the Mirror: Recognizing Your Own Quills

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Embracing the Prickly Parts of Human Connection

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