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    Breaking the Defensiveness Cycle

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    24 janv. 2026
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    Discover how to respond non-defensively when your partner shares feelings about your actions, even when you disagree with their interpretation. Learn practical tools to bridge the gap between intention and impact.

    Breaking the Defensiveness Cycle

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    When we respond defensively, we actually prove to our partner that they can't come to us with their feelings safely; we're essentially training them not to be vulnerable with us.

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    How to not get defensive when my husband says how he is feeling by my actions that I don't agree he should have a negative say on

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    Reduce defensiveness in conflict

    Reduce defensiveness in conflict

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    Reduce defensiveness in conflict

    2 h 33 m•4 Épisodes
    Accept criticism without becoming defensive

    Accept criticism without becoming defensive

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    Accept criticism without becoming defensive

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    Points clés

    1

    The Defensiveness Trap

    0:00
    0:19
    0:33
    0:38
    0:51
    1:02
    1:21
    2

    Why Your Brain Goes Into Battle Mode

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    3

    The Hidden Gifts in Your Partner's Complaints

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    5:27
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    4

    The Art of Listening Without Agreeing

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    When Your Inner Critic Gets Loud

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    6

    The Power of Owning Your Impact

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    13:39
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    7

    Breaking Free from the Blame Game

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    15:40
    15:56
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    The Emotional Aikido of Relationships

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    9

    Your Practical Playbook for Non-Defensive Listening

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    Moving Forward Together

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