The State of Affairs by Esther Perel Summary
Overview of The State of Affairs
In "The State of Affairs," renowned psychotherapist Esther Perel boldly reframes infidelity as a window into desire and commitment. What if betrayal could spark growth? This provocative bestseller challenges our romantic expectations, offering insights that have transformed countless relationships since 2017.
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Infidelity represents one of life's most devastating emotional earthquakes. The moment of discovery - when evidence of a partner's affair comes to light - instantly shatters a shared reality. Yet despite being universally condemned, affairs persist across all cultures and throughout history. This contradiction reveals something fundamental about human nature and relationships. For nearly three decades, I've explored the complex landscape of love and desire. What I've found challenges our cultural scripts about infidelity. Affairs aren't simply moral failings or relationship death sentences - they're complex human experiences that force us to confront unsettling questions about commitment, desire, and identity. Most affairs involve ordinary people with ordinary values who never imagined crossing boundaries they held sacred. Their stories typically stem from loneliness, sexual deadness, or craving attention rather than pathological behavior. When couples come to me after an affair, I tell them: "Your first marriage is over. Would you like to create a second one together?" This framing acknowledges both the devastation and the possibility that follows betrayal. While our culture once stigmatized divorce, today choosing to stay when you can leave carries its own shame - a rush to judgment that makes no allowance for human error, repair, or growth.
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Creado por exalumnos de la Universidad de Columbia en San Francisco
"Instead of endless scrolling, I just hit play on BeFreed. It saves me so much time."
"I never knew where to start with nonfiction—BeFreed’s book lists turned into podcasts gave me a clear path."
"Perfect balance between learning and entertainment. Finished ‘Thinking, Fast and Slow’ on my commute this week."
"Crazy how much I learned while walking the dog. BeFreed = small habits → big gains."
"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."
"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."
"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."
"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."
"BeFreed replaced my podcast queue. Imagine Spotify for books — that’s it. 🙌"
"It is great for me to learn something from the book without reading it."
"The themed book list podcasts help me connect ideas across authors—like a guided audio journey."
"Makes me feel smarter every time before going to work"
"Instead of endless scrolling, I just hit play on BeFreed. It saves me so much time."
"I never knew where to start with nonfiction—BeFreed’s book lists turned into podcasts gave me a clear path."
"Perfect balance between learning and entertainment. Finished ‘Thinking, Fast and Slow’ on my commute this week."
"Crazy how much I learned while walking the dog. BeFreed = small habits → big gains."
"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."
"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."
"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."
"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."
"BeFreed replaced my podcast queue. Imagine Spotify for books — that’s it. 🙌"
"It is great for me to learn something from the book without reading it."
"The themed book list podcasts help me connect ideas across authors—like a guided audio journey."
"Makes me feel smarter every time before going to work"
"Instead of endless scrolling, I just hit play on BeFreed. It saves me so much time."
"I never knew where to start with nonfiction—BeFreed’s book lists turned into podcasts gave me a clear path."
"Perfect balance between learning and entertainment. Finished ‘Thinking, Fast and Slow’ on my commute this week."
"Crazy how much I learned while walking the dog. BeFreed = small habits → big gains."
"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."
"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."
"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."
"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."
"BeFreed replaced my podcast queue. Imagine Spotify for books — that’s it. 🙌"
"It is great for me to learn something from the book without reading it."
"The themed book list podcasts help me connect ideas across authors—like a guided audio journey."
"Makes me feel smarter every time before going to work"
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