
Dr. Faith Harper's revolutionary guide demystifies intimacy with science, humor, and inclusivity. Praised for addressing trauma and supporting LGBTQIA+ readers, this interactive journey transforms relationships through practical exercises. Ever wondered why traditional intimacy advice fails? This book delivers answers your therapist might avoid.
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We live in a paradoxical world - obsessed with sex yet terrified to discuss it honestly. This contradiction leaves many of us confused, ashamed, and disconnected from our intimate selves. But what if the problem isn't you? What if your struggles with intimacy stem from toxic cultural messages, unprocessed trauma, or simply never having learned the language of authentic connection? The journey to unfucking your intimacy begins with recognizing that you're not broken - you're human, navigating a complex landscape without a reliable map. Five pervasive myths sabotage our intimate lives. First, the hierarchy of "real sex" creates unnecessary shame - oral sex is sex, solo sex is sex, and the only categories that truly matter are good sex and bad sex, which you define for yourself. Second, the myth that great sex should be spontaneous and intuitive sets impossible standards. That slow-motion-running-through-fields-of-daisies experience? It typically happens with terrible matches in unsustainable relationships. Real intimacy takes communication and sometimes - yes - calendar management. Third, believing sex education isn't universally necessary keeps us ignorant about our own bodies. Fourth, dismissing sex as unimportant in relationships ignores a fundamental truth: if sex is good, it's about 10% of your relationship; if it's bad, it feels like 90%. It's not the foundation but rather the essential insulation that fills all the cracks. Finally, the myth that certain people are fundamentally undesirable creates needless insecurity. Unless you're an unbearable jerk, there's someone out there for you.