What is *Lessons for Living* by Phil Stutz about?

*Lessons for Living* provides actionable psychological tools to transform life's challenges into opportunities for growth. Drawing from his 40+ years as a psychiatrist, Phil Stutz offers practical frameworks for building resilience, overcoming fear, and cultivating creativity. The book emphasizes forward motion through adversity, with techniques tested in his clinical practice and featured in the Netflix documentary *Stutz*.

Who should read *Lessons for Living*?

This book is ideal for individuals facing career transitions, relationship struggles, or existential uncertainty. Entrepreneurs, creatives, and anyone seeking evidence-based self-help strategies will benefit from Stutz’s direct approach. It’s particularly valuable for readers who prefer structured exercises over abstract theory.

Is *Lessons for Living* worth reading?

Yes – the book condenses Stutz’s decades of clinical experience into concise, implementable lessons. Fans of *The Tools* will appreciate new applications of his signature methods, while newcomers gain access to proven techniques for managing modern stressors like decision fatigue and perfectionism.

How does *Lessons for Living* compare to *The Tools*?

While both books share Stutz’s results-oriented approach, *Lessons for Living* focuses specifically on applying his frameworks to adult developmental challenges. It expands upon concepts like “The Shadow” and “Inner Authority” with fresh case studies and updated exercises for digital-age anxieties.

What are the key tools in *Lessons for Living*?

Core techniques include: - **Fear Mapping**: Visualizing anxiety pathways to disrupt avoidance patterns - **Possibility Stacks**: Building incremental confidence through micro-actions - **The Mirror Principle**: Using external conflicts to identify internal growth areas These tools help convert stagnation into purposeful momentum.

Can *Lessons for Living* help with career changes?

Absolutely. Chapter 4 (“Navigating Professional Crossroads”) provides a 5-step protocol for: 1. Identifying transferable core strengths 2. Reframing impostor syndrome 3. Creating “failure immunity” through experimental mindset shifts Real-world examples show applications from tech startups to creative industries.

How does Phil Stutz approach fear in *Lessons for Living*?

Stutz rejects fear suppression, teaching readers to harness anxiety as a guidance system. His “Fear Ladder” technique helps users systematically confront discomfort zones while maintaining emotional regulation. The approach combines cognitive behavioral principles with Jungian shadow work.

What metaphors does *Lessons for Living* use?

Key metaphors include: - **Emotional Weather Systems**: Framing moods as temporary atmospheric conditions - **The Growth Spiral**: Visualizing progress as ascending circles rather than linear paths - **Decision Binoculars**: Techniques to clarify long-term vs short-term tradeoffs

Lessons for Living

What Only Adversity Can Teach You

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Overview of Lessons for Living

In "Lessons for Living," celebrity therapist Phil Stutz reveals transformative wisdom gained through adversity. Gwyneth Paltrow's go-to psychological guru offers counterintuitive tools that turn life's painful challenges into profound growth opportunities. What painful truth might unlock your breakthrough?

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Chapter 1

The Life-Changing Power of Facing Reality

When Phil Stutz's Netflix documentary premiered in 2022, millions discovered the straight-talking psychiatrist whose unconventional approach had already made him a legend among Hollywood's elite. Jonah Hill, who directed the film, credits Stutz with transforming his life. Jennifer Aniston, Gwyneth Paltrow, and countless other celebrities have sought his guidance. What makes his approach so revolutionary? Unlike traditional therapy that analyzes your past indefinitely, Stutz offers practical "tools" - visualization exercises that create immediate change when practiced consistently. His methods combine psychological insight with spiritual wisdom, challenging our culture's obsession with comfort and immediate gratification. In "Lessons for Living," Stutz distills four decades of psychiatric practice into profound insights about what truly creates a meaningful life - and it's not what our achievement-obsessed society would have you believe.

Chapter 2

Confronting Life's Unavoidable Truths

Our culture perpetuates a dangerous illusion - that an ideal world exists where everything comes easily, unpleasant experiences can be avoided, and immediate gratification is always available. This fantasy suggests something is wrong with you if you're struggling. The reality couldn't be more different. Life contains unavoidable truths we must accept: pain and adversity are inevitable; the future is inherently uncertain; meaningful accomplishment requires discipline and effort; you are not special enough to avoid these aspects; and most importantly, this will never change. While love, joy, and creativity absolutely exist, they never occur separately from these challenging truths. Real life is a process with movement and depth, not a frozen postcard moment. Our culture destructively suggests we can perfect life and make it stand still, but authentic living embraces constant change. The key is accepting that life consists of events - the driving force of the universe reveals itself through these experiences. True mental health is the ability to accept our fate with enthusiasm rather than resistance. Preparing yourself with a life philosophy enables you to transform the meaning of negative events: adverse circumstances are supposed to happen; they don't indicate something is wrong with you; there's always opportunity hidden within negative events; and developing spiritual skills matters more than achieving specific results. By consciously labeling events, you find meaning in them rather than just wanting them to be over. The ultimate purpose of human life is to make real experience the foundation of your philosophy. This perspective shift changes everything. Instead of seeing challenges as evidence that life has gone wrong, you recognize them as essential components of being alive. When you stop fighting against reality, you free up enormous energy that can be directed toward creative response rather than futile resistance. The person who accepts life's unavoidable truths paradoxically becomes more capable of navigating them skillfully.

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Chapter 3

Depression: The Failure of External Solutions

Sometimes as a psychiatrist, the harder choice is not prescribing medication. I once treated Joe, a successful English professor and writer who would fall into paralyzed funks between public appearances. Antidepressants would have reinforced his problematic mindset - the belief that external things should regulate his internal state. Believing that circumstances outside yourself will make you happy is false hope. Either the hoped-for thing doesn't happen, or its effect quickly wears off, leaving you worse than before. Viktor Frankl observed in Auschwitz that prisoners who pinned hopes on liberation by Christmas died in greater numbers when it didn't happen. Human beings can never be made happy by the material world alone. We are spiritual beings who need connection to higher forces, but maintaining this connection requires constant work. Depression essentially represents the failure of the outer world to take care of you - and can become a profound teacher if you're willing to learn from it. The solution involves taking responsibility for your own mood regardless of external conditions. This requires monitoring yourself every moment and counteracting depression immediately when it appears. Your life force consists of a series of habits that can be changed through consistent practice of inner tools. One powerful tool is Transmutational Motivation. Begin by fully feeling your depressed state, then imagine a powerful flow of energy above your head. Picture yourself taking a specific action representing forward movement in your life. Visualize flying up into this picture by feeling yourself take that action. Tell yourself nothing else matters except taking this step. Feel yourself rise until you enter the picture, sensing your purpose and powerful energy. Open your eyes with determination to take the pictured action. With practice, this fifteen-second exercise can transform your emotional state when done consistently during dark moments. The key insight is that waiting for external circumstances to change your mood is a losing strategy. Your emotional state is your responsibility - and the good news is that you have far more control over it than you realize. By consistently practicing tools that shift your internal state, you develop the ability to generate motivation and energy regardless of what's happening around you.

Chapter 4

Harnessing the Power of Gratitude

Negative thinking is a formidable force that can quickly spiral out of control. What begins as rational concern becomes obsessive, painful thoughts that hound you relentlessly. These thoughts are dynamic (seeking to displace anything healthy), irrational (exaggerated or disconnected from reality), and habitual (strengthening with practice). To control this inner demon, you need gratefulness - a force stronger than negative thinking. Gratefulness appreciates immediate reality, replacing negative thoughts with awareness of what's actually happening. Unlike "positive thinking" which focuses on future events, gratefulness connects you to the present moment and the moving force of wholeness that exists right now. The Grateful Flow exercise involves spending thirty seconds thinking of things you're grateful for - from major blessings to everyday conveniences like hot water or transportation. This practice teaches your mind to work in a creative motion analogous to the universe itself. As grateful thoughts emerge, you feel one with the universe and gain confidence in controlling your mind. Without realizing it, this practice prepares you for prayer - not necessarily religious prayer, but a bridge connecting your mind to something higher. Gratitude creates an opening where higher forces can enter your consciousness. What makes this approach different from typical "gratitude practices" is that it's not just about feeling better - it's about actively engaging with a different kind of intelligence. When you generate grateful thoughts, you're aligning yourself with the creative motion of the universe itself. This isn't just positive thinking; it's a fundamental shift in how your mind operates. The beauty of the Grateful Flow is its simplicity and immediate effectiveness. Even thirty seconds can interrupt a negative thought spiral and create space for a different perspective. With consistent practice, you develop the ability to shift your mental state at will, rather than being at the mercy of automatic negative thoughts. This skill becomes increasingly valuable as life presents inevitable challenges.

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Chapter 5

Understanding Your Inner Adversary

Our symbolic sky - the societal safety net of institutions we rely on - feels like it's falling. Rising anxiety, widespread insomnia, and a sense that something is terribly wrong pervade society. But the real adversary isn't some external villain; it's a part of ourselves. This inner adversary, which I call Part X, uses dissatisfaction as its weapon in a chronically dissatisfied world where nobody knows how to be satisfied. Part X can be identified by four characteristics (PRIM): Primitive (keeping you stuck in comfort without growth), Reward (promising magical fulfillment through achievements), Injury (perpetuating the sense the world is against you), and Must (creating impulsive reactions you feel compelled to follow). Part X invents problems we don't really have and creates solutions that only make those problems worse. Yet paradoxically, problems are necessary for growth. The universe speaks to us through events - personal challenges show exactly what we need to work on, while societal crises offer opportunities to develop relationships with higher forces. Think about how Part X operates in your own life. When you're about to take a risk or step outside your comfort zone, it whispers that you should stay safe and avoid potential pain. When you achieve something, it quickly shifts the goalposts, ensuring you never feel satisfied. When something goes wrong, it convinces you that you're being uniquely victimized. And when you feel an impulse - whether for food, distraction, or escape - it creates an overwhelming sense that you must act on it immediately. Fighting our personal X is the only path to true satisfaction. This isn't about eliminating this part of yourself - that's impossible. Rather, it's about recognizing when Part X is operating and making conscious choices rather than automatic reactions. The more aware you become of this inner adversary, the less power it has over you. The greatest trick of Part X is convincing you that external circumstances are the source of your dissatisfaction, when the real problem is this inner force that would remain dissatisfied in any circumstances. By recognizing this pattern, you gain the freedom to make different choices - choices that lead toward growth rather than comfortable stagnation.

Chapter 6

Reclaiming Sacred Time

Time has become our adversary - something we never have enough of despite our technological advances. In fact, the more machines we own, the less time we seem to have. We've forgotten that time is sacred. To the ancients, time was a divine gift to be revered, not controlled. They honored time through rituals that brought meaning to life. Without these rituals, we've lost our rhythm and live in a frantic, meaningless world. Three tools can help restore our proper relationship with time: Submission means treating activities as sacred, bringing them to proper conclusion without interruption. This requires making the activity higher than our immediate personal impulses. When you commit to completing a task without checking your phone or allowing other distractions, you're practicing submission to the activity itself. Commitment connects past, present and future by keeping promises to ourselves, even in small timeframes. When we commit to something and follow through precisely, life becomes a rhythm that creates continuity and confidence. This might be as simple as saying "I'll work on this project from 2:00 to 3:30" and honoring that commitment completely. Patience accepts that creation happens over time through co-creation with something larger. By observing how solutions evolve naturally over time, we develop faith in time's creative power. This means resisting the urge to force immediate results and instead allowing processes to unfold at their natural pace. Time also affects family relationships. A family can be defined as people who must relate to each other over time. When activities become rituals and life has structure and rhythm, families find peace and coherence, creating space for higher forces to enter. Consider how differently you experience time when fully engaged in meaningful work versus anxiously watching the clock. In the former state, time becomes expansive and generative; in the latter, it becomes an enemy to be fought. By treating time as sacred rather than a resource to be maximized, you transform your entire relationship with life itself.

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Chapter 7

Transforming Anger into Creative Energy

We live in an angry world where rage surfaces quickly in everyday interactions. Though it's easier to recognize anger in others, we all harbor this emotion. The savage beasts beneath our civilized surfaces emerge with surprising speed when triggered. Anger operates at a low level of consciousness, but it actually represents a striving for individuality - similar to how two-year-olds use negativity to establish selfhood. As adults, we must transform this raw energy rather than letting it simmer inside us. Holding onto anger stems from feeling the world treats us unfairly, but this creates a victim mentality that becomes an anchor holding us back. The solution involves three steps: self-assertion (intensifying the anger), self-control (visualizing yourself under the stars to dissolve the emotion), and active love (sending loving energy to the person who provoked you). This process doesn't repress anger but transforms it into a different kind of energy, strengthening your sense of self and freeing you from victimhood. To practice this transformation, first allow yourself to fully feel your anger without acting on it. Intensify it until you feel its raw power. Then imagine yourself sitting under an infinite night sky filled with stars, feeling how small your anger is compared to the vastness of the universe. Finally, visualize sending loving energy to the person who angered you - not because they deserve it, but because this act frees you from being controlled by negative emotions. This higher self expresses itself through love instead of hate, giving you the silent courage to move forward - infinitely stronger than all the screaming in the world. The transformed energy becomes available for creative purposes rather than being wasted on resentment and revenge fantasies. What makes this approach powerful is that it doesn't deny anger or pretend it doesn't exist. Instead, it acknowledges anger's raw energy while providing a pathway to transform it into something more constructive. With practice, this process becomes faster and more automatic, giving you mastery over emotions that might otherwise control your behavior.

Chapter 8

Breaking Free from Destructive Habits

Bad habits drain us of the energy needed to move forward in life. Whether reaching for food, drugs, or emotional outbursts, we seek immediate gratification through what I call the "lower channel" - a direct path to instant rewards without considering consequences. These habits are driven by our "Part X," a cunning adversary that puts us in an altered state where we believe we can't function without our indulgences. This inner force makes us act as if there are no consequences, disconnecting us from our future and making life meaningless. The solution involves understanding that we're spiritual beings who find true satisfaction by connecting to higher forces within ourselves. When we restrain our impulses, we close the lower channel and transform that energy through the "higher channel," connecting us to infinite forces that provide courage, creativity, and purpose. To overcome cravings, feel the pain they ultimately cause, call for spiritual help, and focus on being of service to the world. In our addicted society where immediate gratification is religion, changing our habits sets in motion forces that can transform our future. This approach differs from typical addiction treatment by focusing on the spiritual dimension of habits. When you reach for a substance or behavior that provides immediate relief, you're not just seeking physical pleasure - you're attempting to fill a spiritual void. The problem isn't the behavior itself but the disconnection from higher forces that makes the behavior seem necessary. By recognizing that every craving represents a misguided attempt to meet a legitimate spiritual need, you can begin addressing the real issue. Instead of fighting the craving directly (which often strengthens it), you can redirect that energy toward connection with something larger than yourself. This might be through service to others, creative expression, or direct spiritual practice. The most powerful realization is that restraining impulses doesn't just prevent negative consequences - it actually generates positive energy that becomes available for higher purposes. Each time you choose not to act on a destructive impulse, you're not just avoiding harm; you're actively creating the conditions for growth and transformation.

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Chapter 9

Making Decisions in an Uncertain World

Like Hamlet, indecisiveness plagues the modern soul. Stripped of traditional certainties and community support, we have unprecedented freedom but also experience anxiety our ancestors couldn't imagine. Despite having countless choices, we struggle with even the smallest decisions. The problem is our belief that reasoning can lead to the "right" decision, creating a false comfort that we've analyzed every aspect of a situation. In reality, we live in an unpredictable universe where complete knowledge is impossible. Even Lincoln and Eisenhower made major decisions without all the facts. Instead of seeking perfect decisions, we must see decision-making as an ongoing process, focusing on how we decide rather than the results. Every decision inherently involves loss - choosing one path means losing others. Though we try to avoid this reality, accepting limitation actually strengthens us spiritually. Good decision-makers expect losses, recover from them, and anticipate future ones. Freed from the need to be "right," they experience less fear and paralysis. Since complete information is impossible, proper decision-making requires identifying your highest value in any situation. This transcendent variable guides your choice, whether it's living near family despite harsh weather or choosing a difficult career path that serves what matters most to you. Even when decisions don't work out, you'll see the loss as worthwhile because you were guided by what you truly value. Instincts provide a different intelligence than reason, coming all at once and demanding action. To access them, use mind pictures instead of words and leverage sleep. Before bed, visualize different courses of action, then erase both pictures and sleep. Upon waking, notice any strong instinctual pull. Like Roosevelt taking naps before decisions, this non-logical technique taps into transcendent forces. Without acting on instincts, we lose touch with them, becoming paralyzed like Hamlet. This approach to decision-making liberates you from the impossible burden of trying to know the unknowable future. By focusing on your values, accepting inevitable losses, and honoring your instincts, you develop the ability to move forward decisively even in uncertainty. This skill becomes increasingly valuable in our complex, rapidly changing world where perfect information is never available.

Chapter 10

Finding True Success Beyond Achievement

Despite F. Scott Fitzgerald's claim that the rich are different, they face the same emotional and spiritual challenges as everyone else. Our cultural obsession with wealth stems from money's quality of flow - the dynamic force driving everything. But real success isn't about money; it's about creating something new. Success occurs when we connect with the universe's flow, feeling alive with endless possibilities. Its opposite is a failure universe where nothing new emerges and we feel burdened and victimized. Instincts are a form of intelligence that wants expression through action. Unlike logical thoughts, they connect to who you truly are. The only way to know your instincts is to exercise them through the creative action cycle. Even if following an instinct leads to "failure," what matters is training yourself to follow instincts repeatedly. Each attempt activates creation's magic, building confidence that constitutes true success. Instinctual intelligence has no value until acted upon. Rather than waiting for perfect motivation or less fear, we must act regardless of feelings. The purpose isn't achieving specific results but changing our state through action itself. Acting on instincts immediately connects us to the universe's creative forces, making success or failure irrelevant. Consequences aren't always positive, but they represent corrections rather than failure. Everything new is co-created between you and universal life forces. Negative outcomes simply mean you approached these higher forces incorrectly. Perhaps you're a novelist instead of a screenwriter, or need a different business model. By accepting this divine wisdom even in negative consequences, you can create daily for life - a feeling better than all the money in the world. This perspective completely redefines success. Rather than measuring achievement by external metrics like wealth, status, or recognition, true success becomes about your relationship with the creative process itself. Are you following your instincts? Are you taking action despite fear? Are you learning from consequences rather than being defeated by them? When these elements are in place, you experience the aliveness that comes from being in flow with universal creative forces - the only form of success that truly satisfies.

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Chapter 11

Cultivating Authentic Love Relationships

Our culture's relentless pursuit of "better deals" extends destructively into our intimate relationships. We've brought an acquisitive, judgmental force into love's realm, leaving us emotionally exhausted and spiritually empty. I witnessed this in a patient - an actor who suddenly became famous and immediately felt entitled to "upgrade" his wife, despite her being beautiful, loving and creative. He pursued famous actresses, each disappointing him upon closer inspection. Only after his wife filed for divorce and took him back did he understand mature relationships. What he truly sought wasn't specific attributes but someone with magical ability to change reality itself - to make life effortless and painless. No human possesses this power; we merely project it onto others from a distance. As we get closer, the projection fades, revealing ordinary humans, leading to disappointment and new projections. Love is a process requiring endless work, not a magical solution. Accepting this is the first step to happiness. The work requires inspiration and belief in potential success. Three areas need attention: Fantasy Control involves interrupting unrealistic fantasies that drain energy from your real relationship. When you catch yourself elaborately fantasizing about other partners, consciously return your attention to reality. Though initially frustrating, each time you do this, you're affirming your commitment as an adult strong enough to face reality - making you more satisfied with yourself, which is essential for satisfaction with any partner. Judgment requires recognizing that our thoughts about partners are subjective, not objective truth. By accepting this, we become free to select thoughts that enhance our relationships. Control negative judgments that accumulate as a partner's failings become apparent. Dissolve negative thoughts and actively construct positive ones about their good attributes. This mental self-control creates contentment while building confidence and emotional stability. Emotional Expression recognizes that the emotions we express to partners not only reflect how we feel about them but actually determine those feelings. Try consistently speaking to and touching your partner as if they're tremendously desirable - with more passion than you might feel. Within a week, they'll become more attractive to you. Your partner will notice your effort and likely reciprocate. Beyond improving your relationship, you'll learn to inspire others through emotional self-expression. This approach to love relationships stands in stark contrast to our culture's passive consumer mentality. Rather than waiting to feel certain emotions before expressing them, you actively generate emotions through expression. Instead of allowing random judgments to determine your experience, you consciously select thoughts that serve your relationship. The result is a love that grows stronger through deliberate practice rather than diminishing through neglect.

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Key Themes in Lessons for Living

radical acceptance
visualization tools
internal locus of control
adversity as growth
transmutational motivation

Quotes from Lessons for Living

Life contains unavoidable truths we must accept.
True mental health is the ability to accept our fate with enthusiasm rather than resistance.
Believing that circumstances outside yourself will make you happy is false hope.
Depression essentially represents the failure of the outer world to take care of you.
Your emotional state is your responsibility.

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Phil StutzPsychiatrist and author of the book
Jonah HillDirector who credited Stutz with changing his life

About the Author

Phil Stutz, MD, is the bestselling author of Lessons for Living: What Only Adversity Can Teach You and a pioneering psychiatrist renowned for his action-oriented therapeutic tools.

A New York University graduate, Stutz shifted from traditional psychiatry—including work at Rikers Island and private practice—to develop "The Tools," a framework empowering individuals to confront life’s challenges through practical, spiritual, and psychological strategies. Co-authored with Barry Michels, his prior works The Tools and Coming Alive became New York Times bestsellers, resonating with readers seeking self-mastery and resilience.

His methodology gained mainstream visibility through the Netflix documentary Stutz (2022), which chronicles his innovative approach and personal journey with Parkinson’s disease. Lessons for Living reflects Stutz’s decades of clinical experience, blending memoir with actionable advice on transforming adversity into growth.

His concepts are embraced by high-profile clients and featured in major outlets like The Los Angeles Times, cementing his status as a trusted voice in modern mental health. The documentary and his books have collectively reached millions worldwide.

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Chapter 11

Lessons for Living

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The Life-Changing Power of Facing Reality

Confronting Life's Unavoidable Truths

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Depression: The Failure of External Solutions

Harnessing the Power of Gratitude

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Understanding Your Inner Adversary

Reclaiming Sacred Time

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Transforming Anger into Creative Energy

Breaking Free from Destructive Habits

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Making Decisions in an Uncertain World

Finding True Success Beyond Achievement

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Cultivating Authentic Love Relationships

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One book. Many ways to hear it.

The Life-Changing Power of Facing Reality

Confronting Life's Unavoidable Truths

See every word as you hear it

Depression: The Failure of External Solutions

Harnessing the Power of Gratitude

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Understanding Your Inner Adversary

Reclaiming Sacred Time

See every word as you hear it

Transforming Anger into Creative Energy

Breaking Free from Destructive Habits

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Making Decisions in an Uncertain World

Finding True Success Beyond Achievement

See every word as you hear it

Cultivating Authentic Love Relationships

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