What is *Bringing Up Girls* by James C. Dobson about?

*Bringing Up Girls* offers faith-based parenting advice focused on raising daughters with strong moral values amid modern cultural pressures. It emphasizes protecting girls’ innocence, fostering father-daughter relationships, and countering societal influences like premature sexualization. A central parable involves a girl preserving a charm bracelet representing her virtue until marriage.

Who should read *Bringing Up Girls*?

This book targets Christian parents seeking guidance on instilling traditional values in daughters. It’s particularly relevant for those concerned about media influences on self-image or seeking strategies to navigate adolescence within a conservative framework.

What is the charm bracelet story in *Bringing Up Girls*?

A 16-year-old girl receives a charm bracelet where each jewel symbolizes a romantic milestone (holding hands, kissing). Parents instruct her to give charms to boys who initiate these actions. The story aims to discourage early physical intimacy, culminating in her giving the intact bracelet to her fiancé.

How does *Bringing Up Girls* address modern cultural challenges?

Dobson critiques media and peer pressure for promoting premature sexualization (“sexpots”) and unrealistic beauty standards. He advises parents to actively counteract these influences through open communication, boundary-setting, and emphasizing inner character over external validation.

What role do fathers play in *Bringing Up Girls*?

Fathers are portrayed as critical to daughters’ self-worth, with their affirmation directly shaping girls’ confidence and future relationships. Dobson warns against emotionally absent fathers, linking their involvement to reduced susceptibility to unhealthy romantic attachments.

Are there criticisms of *Bringing Up Girls*?

Critics argue the book prioritizes virginity over holistic development and perpetuates gender stereotypes (e.g., girls as “sugar and spice”). Some find its tone paternalistic, overly focused on sexual purity, and dismissive of girls’ autonomy during adolescence.

How does *Bringing Up Girls* compare to *Bringing Up Boys*?

Both books stress traditional gender roles and parental vigilance, but *Bringing Up Girls* uniquely addresses beauty culture, peer pressure, and father-daughter dynamics. While *Boys* focuses on discipline and leadership, *Girls* emphasizes emotional protection.

What parenting strategies does Dobson recommend in *Bringing Up Girls*?

- **Boundary-setting:** Clear rules for dating and media consumption. - **Affirmation:** Frequent verbal reassurance to build self-esteem. - **Cultural vigilance:** Monitoring friendships and social trends. - **Faith integration:** Using biblical principles to guide decisions.

Bringing up Girls

Practical Advice and Encouragement for Those Shaping the Next Generation of Women

James C. Dobson

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In Dr. James Dobson's bestselling guide, discover how fathers crucially shape daughters' self-worth in today's hypersexualized culture. This New York Times hit offers practical wisdom for navigating puberty, princess culture, and emotional development - sparking vital conversations about protecting girls' innocence while building their strength.

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Chapter 1

The Princess Phenomenon: Why Girls Need Special Guidance

In a world increasingly hostile to traditional femininity, Dr. James Dobson's "Bringing Up Girls" arrives as both a warning and a roadmap. Since its publication, the book has become a touchstone for parents navigating the treacherous waters of raising daughters in contemporary culture. Dobson, founder of Focus on the Family and advisor to multiple U.S. presidents, brings his psychological expertise and parental experience to this companion volume to his bestselling "Bringing Up Boys." The book resonates particularly with conservative Christian families seeking to preserve traditional values while preparing their daughters for modern challenges. What makes this work so compelling is Dobson's ability to blend scientific research with heartfelt personal anecdotes-like the story of his own daughter standing tearfully in the doorway as he left for work, saying "It's all right, Daddy. I forgive you." Such moments capture the essence of his message: our daughters need protection, guidance, and most importantly, our presence.

Chapter 2

The Modern Crisis Facing Our Daughters

Today's girls face unprecedented challenges their mothers and grandmothers never encountered. They're bombarded with messages to grow up too quickly, sexualize themselves prematurely, and navigate complex social landscapes without proper guidance. The consequences are alarming: eating disorders have swept through Western nations like an epidemic, while depression, anxiety, and self-harm behaviors have skyrocketed among young females. Child development experts warn that parents may be unwittingly endangering their daughters by allowing or encouraging provocative clothing and behaviors. The American Psychological Association has identified the hypersexualization of children as directly contributing to three of the most common mental health problems among girls: eating disorders, low self-esteem, and depression. What's particularly troubling is how many parents have abdicated their protective responsibilities. They spend millions on inappropriate clothing like thong underwear for elementary-aged girls, apparently oblivious to the signals such attire sends to potential predators. Meanwhile, teen promiscuity has become normalized to a degree that would have been unthinkable just a generation ago. As columnist Michelle Malkin urges parents: "Be 'prudes.' Be 'rude.' Be 'shrill.'" Our children desperately need boundaries for protection. They're like vulnerable little bunnies running through a meadow, unaware of the predators lurking nearby. Parents are their only true defenders-not schools, not even churches alone can save them. Only attentive, engaged parents can fill the void that would otherwise send bright-eyed kids searching desperately for guidance and affirmation in all the wrong places.

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Chapter 3

The Unique Nature of Femininity

Girls possess an innate beauty and tenderness that captures our hearts differently than boys do. While all humans have both positive and negative traits, God has placed within females a particularly winsome and caring nature that deserves recognition and cultivation. This compassionate temperament needs nurturing, like "pouring cool water at the base of a delicate flower." This sensitivity manifests early. When my daughter Danae encountered an abandoned dog during a family road trip, she sobbed inconsolably, begging me to rescue it. She never forgot that dog or fully forgave me for driving away. That same tenderness is why she now visits lonely elderly people in nursing homes-her heart naturally reaches toward the vulnerable. However, this sensitivity has a downside: girls and women are more easily wounded than males, and many experience lifelong feelings of inadequacy. In surveys with thousands of women, low self-esteem emerged as the most frequent source of depression. Even highly accomplished women struggle with this phenomenon. Tennis champion Chris Evert admitted feeling "completely lost" without wins to define her identity. Madonna described an "iron will" devoted to "conquering some horrible feeling of inadequacy." Oprah Winfrey confessed she "didn't feel worth a damn" without her achievements. These crises of confidence often begin in puberty and can persist throughout life. Joan Kennedy, despite her beauty and charm, struggled with self-worth issues, saying "The Kennedys are so good at everything and I'm a flop." Even my wife Shirley, who was homecoming queen and extremely popular in college, harbored secret doubts about herself that made no sense to me. As John and Stasi Eldredge explain in their work, every little girl fundamentally wants to know "Am I lovely?" While boys ask "Do I have what it takes?", girls twirl in skirts and dress up because they long to be seen as captivating. For most, the answer they received in youth was "No," leaving them haunted by this unanswered question throughout adulthood.

Chapter 4

The Science Behind Female Development

Understanding girls begins with recognizing the biological foundations of femininity. Despite the "unisex" notion promoted by the Women's Liberation Movement between 1965-1995, the inherent differences between males and females have always been evident to observant parents. Modern brain imaging technologies like MRIs and CAT scans have confirmed what parents intuitively knew-male and female brains differ structurally and functionally. Dr. Louann Brizendine's research reveals that boys and girls behave differently because their brains dictate these divergent behaviors. Even when parents provide gender-neutral toys, children's innate tendencies emerge-like the little girl who cradled her fire truck like a baby, or the boy who transformed bananas into pretend guns despite being raised without gender stereotyping. The developmental paths of males and females diverge at conception. Until about eight weeks, both brains appear "female," but then male brains undergo a testosterone surge that transforms them radically-killing some communication cells, reducing the corpus callosum's effectiveness, and increasing neurons in centers related to sex and aggression. Female brains retain intact communicative and emotional centers that grow larger and better networked. A girl's corpus callosum grows up to 25 percent larger than a male's, becoming an "eight-lane superhighway" for emotional information rather than a "country road." This makes girls more expressive and emotionally perceptive from birth, better at reading others' motives and responding to subtle environmental cues. Between six and thirty months, girls experience "infantile puberty" when their ovaries produce adult-level estrogen. This "intimacy hormone" bathes their developing brains, stimulating circuits that create urgent desires for bonding, nurturing, and communication. This biological foundation shapes their feminine tendencies toward friendship, emotional expression, and connection. Evidence of this hard-wiring appears immediately-infant girls gaze at faces for emotional expression shortly after birth and become confused by emotionless faces. Their mutual facial gazing increases 400 percent in the first three months, while boys show no such increase. Girls possess innate observational skills, including hearing human voices across broader frequencies. Harvard research found newborn females can distinguish baby cries from other room sounds within their first day, and toddler girls can detect even slight vocal tightening indicating displeasure. These biological realities create what researchers call the "intimacy imperative"-the yearning to live within a safe web of intimate relationships. This explains why young girls playing sports might stop to check on fallen opponents rather than pursue competitive advantage. For girls, especially young ones, friendship and connection typically matter more than winning.

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Chapter 5

The Art of Raising Ladies in an Uncivil World

John Adams, America's second president, believed that women's manners were the "most infallible Barometer" for measuring a nation's morality. He understood that mothers bear primary responsibility for transmitting moral principles to the next generation, writing that "the foundations of national Morality must be laid in private Families." Unlike previous centuries when families prioritized teaching social graces, today's culture often encourages girls to be "brash, rude, crude, profane, immodest, immoral, loud, and aggressive." Modern parents, often distracted and overworked, have neglected teaching basic civility at a time when society has reached "an all-time low" regarding manners. Mothers must take responsibility for acculturating their daughters into becoming ladies by teaching specific social skills and behaviors. Girls should learn proper eating techniques, conversation skills, respectful responses to adults, good posture, and table manners. Parents should require "please" and "thank you," cultivating an attitude of appreciation rather than entitlement. One effective technique for teaching conversation skills involves using a tennis ball to demonstrate the back-and-forth nature of good dialogue. The parent stands six feet from the child, bounces the ball to them, and then explains that conversation, like the ball game, only works when both people participate by "throwing the ball back" rather than giving minimal responses that "hold the ball." Teaching manners develops confidence and poise in girls, helping them navigate unfamiliar circumstances with grace. These social skills are crucial in an increasingly uncivil world. One effective approach is holding tea parties, where mothers can teach table settings, proper eating techniques, conversation skills, and general politeness in a fun setting. Karen Santorum, a lawyer and nurse who chose to be a full-time mother to her eight children, advocates teaching manners through classic literature and storytelling. Rather than presenting children with lists of rules, she believes they learn best through role modeling and identifying with story characters. Her book "Everyday Graces" compiles stories, poems, and fables that illustrate moral lessons, followed by brief commentaries explaining their applications. Teaching girls to be ladies doesn't mean returning to an era when women had to hide their intelligence or accomplishments. Femininity and strength of character can coexist beautifully. Women can be both confident and undeniably feminine, modeling relationships of mutual respect where men are protective and supportive while women maintain their dignity and independence.

Chapter 6

The Dignity Revolution: Reclaiming Feminine Worth

We live in a culture that has become increasingly assaultive to women who consider themselves ladies. As columnist Peggy Noonan observes, we are "embarrassing the angels" with our crude cultural behaviors that diminish human dignity. Parents must work diligently to teach their daughters dignity and ladylike behavior, as they won't learn these values from the wider culture. If MTV, Hollywood, the pop music industry, and peers have their way with your girls, they are likely to curse, dress provocatively, behave like uncultured waifs, and have no sense of personal dignity. The princess movement, while criticized by some feminists, actually offers a counterbalance to this degradation by promoting positive values like purity, femininity, and kindness. Our culture's obsession with beauty damages young girls in profound ways. Consider the disturbing example of a fourth-grade reader that featured a story about three little girls where two beautiful ones were given kingdoms while the unattractive one was banished to live with animals. Is it any wonder so many girls develop severe self-image issues? Yet extraordinary beauty brings its own struggles. Despite being "drop-dead gorgeous" with a red bathing suit poster that sold 8 million copies, Farrah Fawcett considered her beauty a curse that made her uncomfortable in public and prevented people from taking her seriously. Similarly, Anna Nicole Smith, Playboy's Playmate of the Year in 1993, died of a drug overdose at 39, prompting writer Marc Gellman to reflect on how beautiful women are often treated as "pieces of meat" in our culture. The path forward requires helping girls recognize their inherent worth beyond physical appearance. When teacher Kim Davis wore a simple rhinestone crown pin, it sparked meaningful conversations with her middle school students about self-respect. She discovered many girls had no concept they could "expect to be treated like ladies," often coming from homes without positive male influences or moral guidance. Through focusing on femininity and inherent value, Davis helped girls understand their worth isn't determined by their appearance or others' opinions. As Proverbs 31:30 reminds us, "charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting," but true worth comes from spiritual values. Initiatives like Dove's "Campaign for Real Beauty" represent encouraging steps toward challenging unrealistic beauty standards in a society where only 2% of women consider themselves beautiful and more than half feel disgusted by their bodies.

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Chapter 7

The Irreplaceable Father-Daughter Bond

Nothing shapes a daughter's self-concept more profoundly than her relationship with her father. While mothers are vital, a girl's self-worth depends significantly on how her father sees and treats her. As pediatrician Meg Meeker explains, daughters are never lukewarm in their fathers' presence-they light up or cry, watching intensely and hanging on their words, hoping for attention and approval. When college women at the Focus Leadership Institute were invited to discuss any topic related to raising girls, they consistently focused on their relationships with their fathers. Their testimonies revealed a common "soul hunger" for paternal affirmation. Many described feeling unaffirmed by distant fathers who were physically present but emotionally unavailable. One young woman identified her father's lack of affirmation as "the foundation of all my insecurities," while another shared how her father's critical comments about her appearance led to disordered eating habits. The testimonies about divorce were particularly heartbreaking. One woman described becoming "like the dad of the family" when her father, a coach, prioritized his career over family. After her parents divorced, she emotionally shut down, refusing to tell either parent she loved them. Another young woman shared how her biological father stopped asking questions about her life after divorce, making her feel unimportant. Yet some relationships were eventually healed. One woman tearfully explained how her father "worked his tail off" to rebuild their relationship after divorce. Another described how her father, despite coming from an abusive home himself, affirmed her through her battle with clinical depression, telling her "I love you just the way you are." Particularly moving testimonies came from women with attentive fathers. One described her father, a pastor who made her feel "worthy of him wanting to be with me" through regular lunch dates and backpacking trips. Another shared how her father, despite having ten children, would take each child to breakfast monthly, and every night would sit on their beds, scratch their backs, and pray the same meaningful prayer: "Heavenly Father, thank You for a daughter like Sherrie... Help her to find a godly husband in Your time." To build connections with daughters, fathers should emphasize conversation (as girls connect emotionally through words) and appropriate physical affection, even during awkward adolescent years. One-on-one time, small gestures like notes or flowers, and consistent expressions of love make a tremendous difference. Research confirms that women often seek partners resembling their fathers, emphasizing how parental relationships shape children's futures.

Chapter 8

Navigating the Hormonal Hurricane of Adolescence

The transition from childhood to adolescence begins when the hypothalamus signals the pituitary gland to release LH and FSH hormones, triggering the ovaries to produce estrogen, progesterone, and other hormones. This hormonal surge dramatically transforms a girl's body and emotions, developing secondary sex characteristics and influencing everything from mood to memory. Parents must prepare daughters for these changes to prevent fears about breast development, menstruation, and emotional fluctuations. The hormonal barrage creates emotional instability that can last five years or longer, with moods swinging wildly between anxiety, depression, giddiness, and elation. Dr. Louann Brizendine describes the adolescent girl's experience as "drama, drama, drama," with estrogen driving new feelings of power, righteousness, and blindness to consequences. A girl's monthly cycle creates predictable emotional patterns that parents must understand. During the first week after menstruation (spring), rising estrogen produces energy, ambition and optimism. In the second week (summer), estrogen peaks and levels off, maintaining confidence and creativity. Mid-cycle (fall) brings ovulation, a brief estrogen rebound, and peak sexual desire due to testosterone and progesterone, the "bonding hormone." The fourth week (winter) sees plummeting hormone levels causing depression, hypersensitivity, and "brain fog"-classic PMS symptoms. Parents should respond with attachment and comfort rather than logic when daughters experience these hormonal fluctuations. The "cuddle hormone" oxytocin further complicates matters, creating feelings of trust and bonding after just twenty seconds of hugging-a biological mechanism that helps ensure human reproduction but can lead to premature emotional attachment. Despite the challenges, puberty need not be the nightmare it's often portrayed to be. Parents can guide their children through these early experiences with wisdom and supervision, keeping relationships fun and appropriate. Adults must help adolescents understand their unstable emotions are temporary while maintaining connection, especially during difficult periods. Today's children are indeed maturing earlier than previous generations. American records show the average age of menarche dropped from 14.6 in 1920 to 12.2 in 1992, with recent studies finding an average of 12.43 years. This earlier maturation appears influenced by multiple factors including improved nutrition, family dynamics, and environmental factors. Research from Vanderbilt University revealed that girls with close, positive relationships with their fathers tend to mature later than those whose fathers are distant or uninvolved. Early puberty presents significant challenges. Girls who mature first among peers may struggle socially, being physically advanced while emotionally still children. They face greater risks of early sexual activity, STDs, pregnancy, depression, substance abuse, and even higher rates of breast cancer as adults. Parents can help by minimizing family stress, delaying adolescent activities until appropriate, and fostering warm father-daughter relationships.

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Chapter 9

Protecting Girls in a Digital Danger Zone

Today's technology presents unprecedented challenges for parents trying to protect their children's innocence. Children ages 8-18 spend an astonishing 44.5 hours weekly with media, making it a powerful "super-peer" influencing values and behaviors. Internet pornography poses a significant threat with over 300,000 pornographic websites, and one in seven children using the internet have been sexually solicited online. Even religious teens aren't immune-many regularly view R-rated films, and those consuming sexualized media are twice as likely to have sex by age sixteen. The RAND Corporation found adolescents who consumed sexualized media content were twice as likely to initiate sexual intercourse than peers who consumed less. Both television programming and music with sexual content demonstrably influence young people's behavior. Parents don't need to become tech experts-they just need to understand what their children are using and establish appropriate oversight. Regular monitoring of children's online activities, including emails, social networking profiles, and internet browsing history isn't snooping but wise parenting in an age where harmful content constantly targets children. Several technological tools can help parents protect their families: DVRs for recording only positive programming and watching shows at convenient times; ClearPlay machines that edit offensive content from movies; and internet filters that restrict access to inappropriate sites while notifying parents of attempted access to such content. To navigate today's entertainment landscape safely, parents should base media decisions on godly standards, model discernment themselves, create a written family media covenant, encourage positive alternatives rather than banning all media, and host family movie nights. Teaching children to develop their own discernment is crucial-as demonstrated by high school student Caroline who wrote about learning to evaluate media content despite living in a culture where few peers consider its impact. The consequences of failing to protect children from sexual content are severe. Studies show sexually active teens are significantly more likely to attempt suicide, with many girls engaging in self-harm due to feeling used. STDs represent another major consequence, with 19 million new cases annually. HPV affects 50% of sexually active individuals, with some strains causing cervical cancer. Most teens wrongly view oral sex as casual and non-intimate, unaware that incurable STDs like herpes and HPV can be transmitted this way. Medical research now shows that casual sex with multiple partners actually changes brain wiring through the action of neurotransmitters, permanently damaging bonding ability for future relationships.

Chapter 10

Hope on the Horizon: The Good News About Today's Girls

Despite the dark side of adolescent culture, there's significant good news about today's teens. CDC data shows 52% of high school students are still virgins-an improvement from the early 1990s. Nearly three-quarters of sexually active teen girls admit they wish they had delayed sexual activity, with regrets outnumbering satisfaction by nearly three to one. Young people are increasingly standing up against inappropriate cultural messages. Eleven-year-old Ella Gunderson wrote to Nordstrom about their immodest clothing options, sparking change and organizing a "Pure Fashion" show modeling decent clothes that drew 250 people. Similarly, the "Girlcott Girls" successfully protested Abercrombie & Fitch's sexist t-shirt slogans. Research confirms parental influence is crucial-teens with close relationships to parents, particularly mothers who clearly disapprove of premarital sex, are more likely to remain virgins. Quality time matters tremendously, with family dinners being especially important. Frank Luntz's research identified six key parental behaviors that help raise healthy children: having dinner together at least five nights weekly, taking children to religious services, checking homework nightly, demanding truthfulness, taking week-long family vacations without electronic distractions, and encouraging team sports participation. Initiatives like the Purity Ball, where fathers commit to protecting their daughters' purity while living lives of integrity themselves, represent powerful countercultural movements. During these events, fathers form a circle around their daughters, pray for purity, and sign a covenant. Daughters place white roses at a cross symbolizing purity, and fathers present swords symbolizing protection. The most important protection parents can offer their daughters is spiritual guidance. As John and Stasi Eldredge observe, women radiate beauty when they know they're deeply loved-a need ultimately fulfilled by God's unfailing love. Parents' most significant responsibility is introducing children to Jesus Christ, especially crucial in today's spiritually bankrupt youth culture. Effective spiritual training includes four essential components: talking to children about faith continually, teaching children to pray early, helping children memorize Scripture, and praying fervently for your children. Research shows children ages 5-13 have a 32% probability of accepting Christ, dropping to just 4% for teens, emphasizing the importance of early spiritual guidance. In this challenging cultural landscape, parents who commit to understanding their daughters' unique needs, protecting them from harmful influences, and guiding them toward true sources of worth and identity can still raise confident, secure, and morally grounded young women who will thrive despite the obstacles they face.

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Key Themes in Bringing up Girls

traditional femininity
female brain development
adolescent self-esteem
conservative parenting values
childhood hypersexualization

Quotes from Bringing up Girls

Be 'prudes.' Be 'rude.' Be 'shrill.'
Girls possess an innate beauty and tenderness.
Girls are more easily wounded than males.
Am I lovely?
Parents are their only true defenders.

Characters in Bringing up Girls

Dr. James DobsonAuthor, psychologist, and founder of Focus on the Family
Danae DobsonThe author's daughter, used as a primary case study
Shirley DobsonThe author's wife, discussed regarding self-esteem
Dr. Louann BrizendineResearcher focused on male and female brain differences
Michelle MalkinColumnist who provides guidance on parental boundaries

About the Author

James C. Dobson, Ph.D., is the bestselling author of Bringing Up Girls and a renowned psychologist, family counselor, and founder of Focus on the Family. A leading voice in parenting and child development, Dobson has dedicated his career to guiding families through cultural and societal challenges with an emphasis on traditional values. His expertise stems from decades of clinical work, including roles as a professor of pediatrics at the University of Southern California and a founding member of the National Institute of Mental Health’s child development research team.

Dobson’s influential works, such as Dare to Discipline, The Strong-Willed Child, and Bringing Up Boys, have shaped parenting discourse since the 1970s. His daily radio program, Family Talk, reaches millions globally, bolstering his reputation as a trusted advisor on family dynamics. A recipient of the Ronald Reagan Lifetime Achievement Award and inductee into the National Radio Hall of Fame, Dobson has advised U.S. presidents and served on federal commissions addressing juvenile justice and teen pregnancy.

Bringing Up Girls, a New York Times bestseller, combines research-backed insights with practical advice for raising emotionally resilient daughters. Dobson’s books have sold over 50 million copies worldwide and been translated into dozens of languages, cementing his legacy as a cornerstone of modern parenting literature.

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Bringing up Girls

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The Princess Phenomenon: Why Girls Need Special Guidance

The Modern Crisis Facing Our Daughters

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The Unique Nature of Femininity

The Science Behind Female Development

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The Art of Raising Ladies in an Uncivil World

The Dignity Revolution: Reclaiming Feminine Worth

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The Irreplaceable Father-Daughter Bond

Navigating the Hormonal Hurricane of Adolescence

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Protecting Girls in a Digital Danger Zone

Hope on the Horizon: The Good News About Today's Girls

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One book. Many ways to hear it.

The Princess Phenomenon: Why Girls Need Special Guidance

The Modern Crisis Facing Our Daughters

See every word as you hear it

The Unique Nature of Femininity

The Science Behind Female Development

Get more out of Bringing up Girls

The Art of Raising Ladies in an Uncivil World

The Dignity Revolution: Reclaiming Feminine Worth

See every word as you hear it

The Irreplaceable Father-Daughter Bond

Navigating the Hormonal Hurricane of Adolescence

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Protecting Girls in a Digital Danger Zone

Hope on the Horizon: The Good News About Today's Girls

You made it to the end of Bringing up Girls

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