Stan Tatkin
Born: November 04, 1954 – Los Angeles, California, United States
Stan Tatkin is an American psychotherapist, researcher, and teacher specializing in couples therapy, attachment, and interpersonal neurobiology. He developed A Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT) and wrote Wired for Love, Wired for Dating, We Do, and In Each Other’s Care. Through the PACT Institute, he has trained clinicians internationally.
Biography & Author's Journey
Stan Tatkin built his career at the intersection of clinical psychology, attachment theory, and neuroscience. Educated in Southern California, he studied at Pepperdine University’s Malibu campus, earned a Bachelor of Liberal Arts with an emphasis in clinical psychology and then a master’s in clinical psychology from Antioch University Los Angeles, and completed a PsyD in clinical psychology at Ryokan College. Early in his career he worked extensively with adolescents and adults facing personality disorders and addiction, including clinical roles at the Bradshaw Center and Charter Hospital. The decisive turn in his professional life came when his interests moved from individual pathology toward the psychoneurobiology of intimate bonds, especially the ways early attachment patterns and arousal states shape adult romantic relationships. ((https://s3.amazonaws.com/kajabi-storefronts-production/sites/49347/themes/1992532/downloads/dqIwqCRjm8SwxgDszN4Q_Stan_Tatkin_CV_9.22.22.pdf))
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In Each Other's Care
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Speak truth without wounding: neuroscience's revolutionary path to relationship repair
Wired for Dating
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A neuroscience-based guide to finding your ideal partner and building a secure, lasting romantic relationship.
Wired for Love
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Discover how neuroscience and attachment styles impact relationships, and learn strategies to build a secure, loving partnership.
In Each Other's Care
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Community Voices
"Stan Tatkin is a brilliant couples therapist and thinker"
— Gwyneth Paltrow
"Getting to great in your relationship is much easier with guidance from the brilliant couples therapist, Stan Tatkin"
— Brooke Bibeault
"Stan Tatkin is one of the leading figures in relationship counseling"
— Jeffrey K. Zeig
"Stan Tatkin can be entirely followed into the towering infernos of our most painful relationship challenges"
— Alanis Morissette
"What I admire about Stan Tatkin as a psychotherapist is that he writes from a neurobiological perspective"
— Scott Steindorf
"Stan Tatkin has succeeded in integrating attachment and neuroscience research as he takes us on a wonderful journey through dating, mating, and love"
— Marion F. Solomon
"Stan Tatkin is one of the world’s most brilliant couples therapists, making his classic, Wired for Love, essential"
— Elise Loehnen
"Stan Tatkin is one of the most important voices in couple relationships today"
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