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Lori Gottlieb

Born: December 20, 1966 – Los Angeles, California, USA

Biography & Author's Journey

Lori Gottlieb was born on December 20, 1966, in Los Angeles, California, where she grew up immersed in stories that would later define her career. She studied language and culture at Yale University and Stanford University, exploring global beliefs and traditions. In her twenties, she pivoted to visual storytelling as a film and television executive, working on shows like ER at NBC. This phase marked her early fascination with narrative structure, but a desire for deeper impact led her back to Stanford for medical school, where she published her first book, solidifying her commitment to writing about the human condition.

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Quotes

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Happiness equals reality minus expectations
-Maybe You Should Talk to Someone
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Don't judge your feelings; notice them. Use them as your map. Don't be afraid of the truth
-Maybe You Should Talk to Someone
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Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom
-Maybe You Should Talk to Someone
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We tend to think that the future happens later, but we’re creating it in our minds every day. When the present falls apart, so does the future we had associated with it. And having the future taken away is the mother of all plot twists
-Maybe You Should Talk to Someone
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As a therapist, I know a lot about pain, about the ways in which pain is tied to loss. But I also know something less commonly understood: that change and loss travel together. We can’t have change without loss, which is why so often people say they want change but nonetheless stay exactly the same
-Maybe You Should Talk to Someone
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Sometimes in their pain, people believe that the agony will last forever. But feelings are actually more like weather systems – they blow in and they blow out
-Maybe You Should Talk to Someone
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There’s a difference between pain and suffering. You’re going to have to feel pain- everyone feels pain at times- but you don’t have to suffer so much
-Maybe You Should Talk to Someone
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Suffering shouldn’t be ranked, because pain is not a contest
-Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

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"Lori Gottlieb is an American writer and psychotherapist who authored the New York Times bestseller Maybe You Should Talk to Someone"

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"Lori Gottlieb writes the weekly “Dear Therapist” advice column for The Atlantic and is co-host of the Dear Therapists podcast"

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"Lori Gottlieb, a 40-something single mom, sought advice from matchmakers and psychologists in her quest for a husband as detailed in Marry Him"

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"Lori Gottlieb is a psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, which has sold over three million copies"

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"Lori Gottlieb is a psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author who writes the weekly 'Dear Therapist' advice column for The Atlantic"

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