Ian Kerner
Born: May 01, 1966 – New York, New York, United States
Ian Kerner is an American psychotherapist and sex counselor whose work focuses on sexuality, relationships, and intimacy. He is best known for the New York Times bestseller She Comes First and has also written Passionista and So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex, helping popularize frank, pleasure-centered sex education.
Biography & Author's Journey
Ian Kerner built his public career at the intersection of literature, therapy, and digital media. Born and raised in New York City and described earlier in life as a fourth-generation New Yorker, he studied theater at Brandeis, earned an MFA in dramatic writing at New York University, later completed an MFT at Mercy College, and went on to earn a doctorate in clinical sexology from the American Academy of Clinical Sexologists. Before he became widely known as a sex therapist, he worked as a playwright, taught interactive writing at NYU, and was already experimenting with online storytelling in the 1990s through projects for America Online and Microsoft. A more personal turning point came from his own struggles with early ejaculation, which helped redirect him toward sexology and a more clinical approach to intimacy. ((https://www.chronicle.com/article/a-professor-at-new-york-u-brings-writing-talent-to-cyberspace/))
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Community Voices
"Dr. Ian Kerner is one of the most recognizable voices in clinical sex therapy"
— Esther Perel
"It’s refreshing and reassuring to know that Ian Kerner is out there in the world showing people how to love"
— Helen Fisher
"Sex counselor and psychotherapist Ian Kerner gained renown for first book, 2004’s She Comes First, and has published several since"
— Publishers Weekly
"Ian Kerner is a voice of equal parts compassion and logic"
— Emily Nagoski
"Ian Kerner is the real deal"
— Terrence Real
"Ian Kerner is a licensed couples therapist, writer and contributor on the topic of sex for CNN"
— CNN
"Ian Kerner is that rare man who truly loves women and wants to help them"
— Amy Sohn
"Ian Kerner is a licensed psychotherapist, nationally recognized sexuality counselor and best-selling author"
— TED
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