Exploring why we stay connected to those who hurt us, this episode examines betrayal trauma theory and ambiguous loss—psychological phenomena that explain our complex responses when attachment figures become sources of harm.
When Attachment Becomes Betrayal最佳语录
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For children, the attachment figure is their shore—even when that's where the threat is coming from. Our minds prioritize relationship preservation over accurate reality processing because, from an evolutionary perspective, attachment is survival.
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输入问题
Betrayal trauma (Freyd) and ambiguous loss (Boss): how trauma operates when the source is an attachment figure, and why losses without closure — where the person exists but is gone, where the past turned out to be false — resist normal processing.
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Lena
Blythe
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