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    Mating in Captivity
    Esther Perel
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    Esther Perel's provocative bestseller challenges conventional wisdom: can passion survive domesticity? Called "so honest it hurts" by Irish Times and recommended by therapists worldwide, this counterintuitive guide reveals why mystery - not intimacy - might be the key to rekindling desire in long-term relationships.

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