Getting The Love You Want by Harville Hendrix Summary
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Unlock the secrets of lasting love with the relationship bible that saved Oprah's partnership. Two million copies sold, "Getting the Love You Want" transforms childhood wounds into conscious connection. What hidden patterns are sabotaging your relationship right now?
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Why We Keep Choosing the Wrong Person and the Beautiful Lie That Binds Us
Have you ever wondered why that perfect first date turned into years of the same exhausting arguments? Why the person who once made your heart race now makes your blood boil? Here's the unsettling truth: you didn't accidentally fall in love with the wrong person. Your unconscious mind chose them with laser precision, selecting someone uniquely equipped to reopen your oldest emotional wounds. This isn't a cruel joke-it's actually your psyche's attempt at healing, though it rarely feels that way when you're fighting about whose turn it is to do the dishes for the third time this week. We enter relationships carrying invisible scars from childhood, and our brains maintain a detailed composite image-an Imago-of the people who shaped us earliest. This template includes everything from your mother's tone of voice to your father's emotional availability. When you meet someone who matches this blueprint, your old brain lights up with recognition, flooding you with dopamine and creating that intoxicating feeling we call falling in love. The quiet partner reminds you of your distant father. The critical spouse echoes your demanding mother. We're drawn to the familiar, even when the familiar once hurt us, because our unconscious believes: this time, I can get it right. Romantic love creates an altered state of consciousness more powerful than most drugs. Colors seem brighter, problems feel manageable, and suddenly you're the kind of person who writes poetry or stays up all night talking. Your brain releases a cocktail of dopamine, norepinephrine, and oxytocin that makes you feel whole, complete, and utterly convinced you've found your soulmate. For a brief, glorious period, your partner seems to instinctively know exactly what you need. They offer the affection your parents withheld, the freedom your family denied, the validation you've craved since childhood. But this paradise rests on denial. Like Psyche gazing at Eros by lamplight only to watch him flee, the moment we truly see our partner-flaws and all-the castle of illusion crumbles. The romantic phase serves a crucial evolutionary purpose: it gets us to commit before we realize what we've signed up for. Because here's what romantic love obscures: the very traits that initially attracted you will eventually drive you crazy. The "spontaneous" partner becomes "irresponsible." The "strong, silent type" turns "emotionally unavailable." The "passionate" one now seems "volatile." These aren't different people-you're just seeing them clearly for the first time, and your old brain is panicking because they're starting to act exactly like the parents who wounded you.
When Paradise Becomes a Prison and the Dance of Turtles and Hailstorms
The Hidden Curriculum of Your Complaints and Converting Criticism to Healing
The Dialogue That Rewires Your Brain and Creates Safety
Becoming the Person Your Partner Needs Through Stretching Beyond Fear
Creating the Sacred Space Through Zero Negativity and Deliberate Care
Reclaiming the Love You've Always Wanted Through Conscious Partnership
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