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John Gottman

出生: April 26, 1942 – Santo Domingo, Distrito Nacional, Dominican Republic

John Gottman is an American psychologist and relationship researcher known for decades of work on marriage, divorce prediction, and emotional communication. He co-founded The Gottman Institute and coauthored The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. His longitudinal studies and concepts such as the “Four Horsemen” have strongly influenced couples therapy worldwide.

传记与作者历程

John Gottman built his career from an unusual foundation: mathematics first, relationship science second. Raised in Brooklyn, he earned a bachelor’s degree in mathematics and physics at Fairleigh Dickinson University, a master’s in mathematics at MIT in 1964, and then turned toward clinical psychology at the University of Wisconsin, where he completed further graduate study and his doctorate. That shift from equations to human behavior became the defining turn of his life. Beginning in the 1970s he systematically observed couples in the lab, and in 1986, at the University of Washington, he helped create the apartment laboratory later known as the Love Lab. There he and his collaborators tracked conversation, emotion, and physiology, establishing the research program that made him a leading psychologist of marriage, divorce prediction, and long-term relational stability. ((https://onwisconsin.uwalumni.com/content/uploads/2016/05/Summer-2016.pdf))

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名言

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The first step toward improving or enhancing your marriage is to understand what happens when relationships fail
-The 6 Things That Predict Divorce
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By having high (but still realistic) standards, you are far more likely to achieve the kind of relationship you want
-The Truth About Expectations in Relationships
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If we believe we have information that is helpful to others, which we do, then it is our obligation to use this knowledge for good
-Tikkun Olam and the Mission of The Gottman Institute
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The most successful couples are kind to each other
-The Top 7 Ways To Improve Your Marriage
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Conflict is inevitable in all relationships
-Debunking 12 Myths About Relationships
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My research has identified choice points when love may either progress to a deeper place, or deteriorate
-The 3 Phases of Love
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In short, they turn toward one another with love and affection to connect emotionally and physically
-Building a Great Sex Life is Not Rocket Science
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Emotions are our internal “GPS” through life
-Emotional Intelligence Creates Loving and Supportive Parenting

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社区声音

"Time said John Gottman and Julie Gottman are the nation's leading marriage researchers and educators"

Time

"The New York Times called John Gottman "the dean of marriage experts."

The New York Times

"American Way said John Gottman stays refreshingly down to earth, rather than on Mars and Venus"

American Way

"The Atlantic said John Gottman and Julie Gottman are the renowned experts on marital stability"

The Atlantic

"Psychotherapy Networker named John Gottman one of the Top 10 Most Influential Therapists of the past quarter-century"

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"Psychology Today dubbed John Gottman "The Einstein of Love."

Psychology Today

"Newsweek said John Gottman has "the spirit of a scientist and the soul of a romantic."

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