Nia and Miles deliver harsh truths with humor about the real psychology behind "protecting others" by staying away. Spoiler: it's not noble, it's just fear dressed up pretty.

Romanticizing being alone to not hurt other people cause I’m not worth being with








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Nia: Hey everyone, welcome back to your personalized podcast from BeFreed! I'm Nia, and I'm here with Miles, and honestly, we're both really excited to dive into today's topic because it's something so many of us struggle with but rarely talk about openly.
Miles: Absolutely, Nia. And you know what? The question we're exploring today hits right at the heart of something I think we've all felt at some point-this idea of convincing ourselves we're protecting others by staying away, when really we're just protecting ourselves from potential hurt.
Nia: Right? It's like we create these elaborate stories about being noble martyrs when sometimes-and I say this with love-we're just scared. So today we're going to unpack this whole romanticizing of isolation, especially when it comes from that deep belief that we're somehow not worth being with.
Miles: And here's the thing-we're going to be real about it. No sugar-coating, no toxic positivity. We're talking about the actual psychology behind why we do this, what it's really costing us, and most importantly, what we can actually do about it.