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    The Psychology of Friend Poaching and Digital Monitoring

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    Explore why we compulsively check the profiles of social 'enemies' and learn how to break the cycle of digital triangulation to reclaim your mental peace.

    The Psychology of Friend Poaching and Digital Monitoring

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    Monitoring is a subconscious attempt to take back control, but by watching them, you’re actually giving them more power over your time and emotions. True winning is total indifference—deciding you are done and refusing to be the audience for someone who doesn't deserve your attention.

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    Why do I keep checking other people‘s profile or some people that I had originally planted sea town on their post and they always post or they keep in the background the guy that was my op when I got there because he basically picked up all the people I planted seats on and tried to claim them as his, but they kind of share with me on what he’s doing because they know what he did. It’s weird to explain.

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