What is *Love Sense* by Dr. Sue Johnson about?

*Love Sense* explores the science of lasting romantic relationships through attachment theory, arguing that love is an evolutionary survival mechanism rooted in emotional bonding. Dr. Sue Johnson combines neuroscience, psychology, and clinical research to explain how secure attachments reduce stress, enhance resilience, and foster lifelong partnerships. The book outlines practical strategies for rebuilding trust and intimacy using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) principles.

Who should read *Love Sense*?

This book is ideal for couples seeking deeper connections, therapists interested in evidence-based relationship therapies, and individuals curious about the biology of love. It’s also valuable for those navigating breakups or wanting to understand recurring relationship patterns.

Is *Love Sense* worth reading?

Yes—it offers a transformative, research-backed perspective on love, challenging myths about浪漫 relationships as fleeting or illogical. Readers gain actionable tools to improve communication and emotional responsiveness, making it a staple for anyone invested in sustaining long-term partnerships.

How does attachment theory apply to romantic relationships in *Love Sense*?

Dr. Johnson reframes adult love as an attachment bond akin to parent-child relationships, where emotional accessibility and responsiveness are critical. Secure attachments in romance reduce fear and stress, creating a “safe haven” for partners to thrive. The book cites studies showing how attachment styles from childhood influence adult relationship behaviors.

What does *Love Sense* say about the neurochemistry of love?

The book details how hormones like oxytocin and dopamine drive bonding, while the prefrontal cortex regulates emotional responses during conflicts. Dr. Johnson explains that love activates brain regions linked to reward and safety, reinforcing why emotional disconnection can feel physically painful.

What are the benefits of secure love according to *Love Sense*?

Securely attached couples experience lower cortisol levels, improved immune function, and greater emotional resilience. These partnerships also foster personal growth, as partners support each other’s goals and buffer against life’s stressors.

How does *Love Sense* recommend repairing relationship conflicts?

Dr. Johnson emphasizes “emotionally focused conversations” to address underlying attachment fears (e.g., abandonment). Partners learn to express needs vulnerably and respond with empathy, breaking cycles of blame. Case studies show how this approach rebuilds trust.

What is the “love sense” mentioned in the book?

“Love sense” refers to the ability to cultivate and maintain secure emotional bonds. It involves recognizing attachment needs, regulating emotions during conflicts, and prioritizing relational safety over short-term gratification. Dr. Johnson argues this skill is learnable, not innate.

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The Science of Connection: How Love Shapes Our Lives

In a world where we increasingly prize independence, one truth remains stubbornly persistent: humans need deep emotional bonds to thrive. Susan Johnson's groundbreaking work "Love Sense" challenges our cultural cynicism about lasting love with revolutionary scientific findings. The book has become a cornerstone text in relationship psychology, cited by celebrities from Esther Perel to Brene Brown, and has transformed how therapists approach couples counseling worldwide. Johnson's Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) boasts a remarkable 70-75% success rate in healing troubled relationships-far outpacing traditional approaches. What makes this work so powerful? Johnson reveals that our primary human instinct isn't sex or aggression but the need for emotional connection. This insight has sparked nothing short of a revolution in how we understand our most intimate bonds, suggesting that stable, loving relationships aren't just nice to have-they're essential for our mental and physical wellbeing, more powerful than diet for health and more effective than exercise for longevity.

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Attachment: The Foundation of Human Connection

The revolutionary discovery transforming our understanding of love is that adult romantic relationships function through the same attachment system that connects parents and children. John Bowlby, an unlikely pioneer described as an "uptight, aristocratic English psychiatrist," established that humans are biologically wired to seek and maintain close emotional bonds. This wasn't just a psychological theory but a biological survival mechanism-human infants, born remarkably helpless with oversized brains, require years of protection and nurturing. Nature's solution was an automatic call-and-response system connecting child and caregiver through behaviors like crying, gazing, and smiling. What's truly groundbreaking is that this same attachment system operates in adult romantic relationships. Our need to depend on someone who will respond when called never disappears; we simply transfer it from parents to partners. Unlike children, adults can maintain connection through mental images of partners during separation, but the fundamental need remains the same. Perhaps most surprisingly, secure attachment actually creates better sex, not the reverse-despite what countless magazine headlines promising seduction techniques might suggest. This understanding gives us a "unified field theory of love" that explains why relationships succeed or fail. When troubled couples argue about money, in-laws, or parenting, they're actually expressing frightened protests against eroding emotional connection. Happy relationships, by contrast, feature deep trust that partners matter to each other and will respond when needed. Love becomes "a constant process of tuning in, connecting, missing and misreading cues, disconnecting, repairing, and finding deeper connection"-a dance of meeting, parting, and reconnecting. This insight explains why previous therapeutic approaches often failed. Analytical digging into childhood or practical communication training missed the core issue: fear of losing emotional connection. Johnson's Emotionally Focused Therapy succeeds by dismantling destructive interaction patterns and constructing emotionally open ways of connecting where partners can safely confide fears and longings. Studies consistently show EFT produces better, longer-lasting results than other therapies by harnessing our wired-in longing for contact and care.

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3장

The Three Attachment Styles That Shape Our Relationships

Adults bond in three primary attachment styles formed in childhood. Secure attachment develops when we grow up knowing caregivers will be accessible and responsive, making us comfortable with closeness and interdependence. Insecure attachments develop from inconsistent or neglectful caregiving, manifesting as either anxious styles (heightened emotions, fear of abandonment, constant reassurance-seeking) or avoidant styles (suppressed emotions, fear of dependency, connection avoidance). These patterns aren't just theoretical-they play out in predictable ways during relationship stress. Psychologist Jeff Simpson's groundbreaking studies revealed how attachment styles predict behavior under pressure. When facing external threats, secure and anxious individuals seek comfort from partners, while avoidant people withdraw. During relationship conflicts, secure individuals discuss issues calmly but warmly, anxious partners catastrophize and become confrontational, while avoidants maintain emotional distance. Simpson's longitudinal research further demonstrated attachment continuity from childhood to adulthood, with mother-child attachment at age one predicting conflict resolution skills with romantic partners at twenty-one. Similarly, Deborah Davis's research on breakups showed attachment patterns predicting behavior during relationship dissolution-anxious individuals becoming obsessive and sometimes hostile, avoidants withdrawing completely, and both types more likely to use substances to cope than secure individuals. When relationships end, we experience a predictable distress sequence: first comes anger and protest, where we demand attention and connection. Second is clinging and seeking, where we desperately pursue comfort. Third comes depression and despair as we begin grieving the connection. Finally, detachment occurs when we accept the relationship cannot fulfill our needs and emotionally disengage-a point from which Johnson has never seen recovery in thirty years of practice. This distress cascade isn't arbitrary-neuroscientist Jaak Panksepp has identified brain pathways specifically dedicated to registering the "primal panic" triggered by attachment figure loss. In secure relationships, this cascade can be halted early through vulnerable communication about fears and needs. For troubled relationships, EFT helps couples understand their disconnection patterns, slow down their negative cycles, and learn to reveal their deeper attachment fears and longings.

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Emotions: The Intelligence of Love

Strong emotion forms love's essence, though we often embrace only its positive aspects while fearing its painful dimensions. This emotional whiplash exemplifies our complicated relationship with love's intensity-craving its highs while dreading vulnerability when we realize we're "out on some kind of limb" and "not in charge" of what happens. Contrary to Western civilization's long-standing distrust, emotion isn't an irrational force but nature's exquisitely efficient information-processing system. Far from being our base animal nature that must be controlled by reason, emotion rapidly reorganizes behavior for survival by sorting through thousands of stimuli to identify what truly matters. It's our great motivator-the word derives from Latin "movere" meaning "to move out." Without emotion, we have no compass for decisions, as seen in brain-damaged patients who can't make even simple choices. Despite our perception of countless emotions, scientists identify only six innate, universal ones: fear, anger, happiness/joy, sadness, surprise, and shame. Each naturally leads to action-anger prompts approach, surprise triggers exploration, fear causes freezing or fleeing. Paul Ekman's groundbreaking research with the isolated Fore tribe of New Guinea proved Darwin right: emotional expressions transcend culture. People worldwide can read certain key facial expressions and assign identical meanings to them, creating a universal emotional language. Fear, not happiness, is the most fascinating emotion in love relationships. As our basic survival mechanism, fear sounds the alarm when threats appear-including threats to our vital bonds. Researcher Mario Mikulincer discovered that securely attached people fear death less, revealing how our connections serve as our strongest defense. The amygdala processes fear when loved ones seem unavailable, triggering what Jaak Panksepp calls "primal panic" in mammals. When partners disconnect, our brains code it as danger, releasing stress hormones and preparing for flight. The hurt we feel in relationships isn't just metaphorical-it's neurologically real. Research by Naomi Eisenberger shows that social rejection activates the same brain regions (anterior cingulate cortex) as physical pain. This neural overlap explains why Tylenol can reduce hurt feelings and emotional support lessens physical pain. Hurt itself is a composite emotion: surface anger covering deeper sadness about not feeling valued, with fear of rejection at its core. While we often focus on negative emotions due to their survival relevance, positive emotions are equally powerful forces. Joy doesn't just signal flourishing-it creates it, expanding our thoughts and urging us to explore and engage. Unlike negative emotions that narrow focus, happiness broadens our thought-action repertoire. Positive emotions also counteract negative ones, helping us bounce back from adversity. Love, at its best, delivers a bounty of positive emotions: joy, contentment, safety, trust, and curiosity-creating an upward spiral of well-being.

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5장

The Brain in Love: Wired for Connection

Recent research reveals the brain as a profoundly social organ designed to connect with others. Our nervous systems are "constructed to be captured by the nervous systems of others," allowing us to experience others as if from within their skin. When we encounter someone attractive, our brain processes multiple signals-from familiar facial features to body language-creating that unmistakable feeling of connection that marks the beginning of love. Our brains develop through social connection from birth. Early loving interactions trigger biochemical processes that boost neural growth and connectivity. Studies show that without emotional interaction, brain development suffers, as seen in isolated infant monkeys and institutionalized babies. Research by Michael Meaney demonstrates that highly nurtured rat pups develop better stress regulation abilities than less-nurtured ones. Stephen Suomi found that even genetically "reactive" monkeys become well-adjusted when raised by attentive mothers. Oxytocin, the "cuddle hormone," functions as the master chemical of social connection. Present in both sexes but higher in females, it's released during breastfeeding, orgasm, and even when simply near loved ones. This powerful neurochemical increases trust and empathy while reducing fear and anxiety. In experiments, oxytocin helped insecurely attached men respond more securely to emotional situations, and couples given oxytocin showed reduced stress hormones and more positive behaviors during conflict discussions. Mirror neurons don't just mirror actions-they detect intentions, firing only when they sense purposeful goals. They act as an "intention radar" allowing us to coordinate responses with others and intuitively understand what loved ones will do. In relationships, these neurons help us instantly comprehend each other's intentions without conscious reasoning. This explains how therapists can quickly tune into clients' emotions by staying attentive to gestures, tone, and facial expressions, feeling what clients feel even when they cannot name it themselves. Research is dramatically reshaping our view of human nature. Rather than being selfish creatures needing rules to force consideration of others, we're biologically driven to be associative, altruistic beings responsive to others' needs-Homo empathicus. Empathy evolved from needs for adaptive parenting and group collaboration. Studies show that merely imagining a loved one in pain activates identical brain areas as if we were experiencing that pain ourselves-we literally hurt for others. The brain remains plastic throughout life-we grow new neurons and connections as we have new experiences. This means we can change behavior by creating new neural pathways. Walter Freeman identifies two events that naturally create massive neural reorganization: falling in love and beginning to parent. Since the brain is fundamentally an organ of socialization, these heightened periods of plasticity allow rapid adaptation to new circumstances.

6장

Sex and Attachment: Beyond the Physical

Mae West's insight that "sex is emotion in motion" captures the essential truth that the quality of emotional connection defines sexual experience. This challenges the cultural obsession with sex as the essence of love, arguing instead that adult love comprises three elements: sexuality, caregiving, and attachment-with attachment being most crucial. Our emotional connection directly translates to our sexual connection. Contrary to popular belief that sex creates emotional bonds, research shows attachment styles profoundly influence our sexual experiences. Those with avoidant attachment engage in "sealed-off sex"-self-centered, performance-oriented, technique-focused encounters with little emotional vulnerability or intimacy. This type of sex, exemplified by figures like James Bond and increasingly common due to internet pornography, requires constant novelty to remain exciting. Research shows this disconnected approach ultimately reduces arousal, decreases orgasm frequency, and undermines emotional bonds. The relationship between attachment and sex forms a reinforcing circle-strong emotional bonds lead to good sex, which strengthens bonds further, while weak connections create unfulfilling sex that further damages the relationship. This explains why distressed partners attribute up to 70% of their misery to sexual problems, while contented couples credit good sex for less than 25% of their happiness. Sexual dissatisfaction serves as a bellwether for the true issue: an unraveling emotional bond. Humans, like several other species, are biologically wired for attachment and produce oxytocin-the "molecule of monogamy." This hormone surges during emotional connection, reduces stress chemicals, and creates blissful feelings that reinforce bonds. Studies of prairie and montane voles demonstrate oxytocin's power in promoting fidelity-prairie voles with oxytocin receptors mate for life, while montane voles without these receptors don't bond. When researchers block oxytocin in prairie voles, they become promiscuous like their montane cousins. Around 30% of women report little or no sexual desire compared to 15% of men. While men's lack of libido typically links to physical illness, women's desire functions differently. The traditional linear model of sexuality (desire->arousal->orgasm->satisfaction) works for men but not women. For women, sex is more complex and emotionally driven-feeling safe is crucial for desire. Brain scan research revealed that when exposed to sexual images, women's prefrontal cortex (decision-making region) activates alongside arousal areas, suggesting they unconsciously assess safety during sexual situations. Porn addiction exemplifies the consequences of divorcing sex from attachment. Research shows avoidant individuals are more susceptible to addictions as substitutes for healthy attachment. Porn addiction leads to desensitization, with 70% of young men seeking help for sexual dysfunction admitting to routine porn use. The consequences are severe: erectile dysfunction, numbed sexual response, and inability to become aroused with real partners. Internet porn ultimately devastates capacity for close relationships, promoting isolation and shame.

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7장

Navigating Life's Transitions Together

Relationships aren't static but living organisms that evolve through distinct phases, each with critical transitions that challenge even secure couples. Johnson identifies four key relationship stages: the Spellbound phase of initial infatuation; Formal Bonding when commitment becomes explicit; Parenthood with the arrival of children; and Mature Love when children leave home. These transitions represent potential bonding crises where the emotional balance wavers and trust may be questioned. The initial phase of love combines sexual desire with emotional yearning. This period is filled with tension and anxiety as we wonder, "Does this person want me?" Our vulnerability pushes us to take risks, and when met with positive responses, the other gradually becomes "irreplaceable." Research by Lane Beckes shows that threats automatically activate our attachment systems, making potential sources of comfort more attractive. Despite 41% of U.S. couples now cohabiting before marriage (up from 16% in 1980), formal commitment remains significant. Research shows cohabitation often stops short of complete emotional linkage and may even create a "hangover effect" of greater marital dissatisfaction. Marriage transfers attachment from parents to partner and allays anxiety about commitment. Modern marriage has transformed from a primarily economic alliance to an emotional venture centered on support and friendship. When two become three, relationship quality typically plummets. Studies show marital satisfaction drops significantly in two-thirds of couples during the first three years after childbirth. New parents face financial pressure, sleep deprivation, increased workload, and parenting conflicts. Role shifts occur as men focus on providing financially while women's home workload triples. Without extended family nearby for support, couples become isolated from each other. Relationship satisfaction drops most dramatically about one year after the first child's birth, with intimacy and sexual connection suffering. Attachment styles significantly impact how couples navigate parenthood. Insecurely attached partners struggle most with this transition, as their pre-existing connection problems become magnified. Anxiously attached individuals feel abandoned when partners withdraw during stressful moments, while avoidantly attached parents respond with emotional distance when feeling superfluous or incompetent. Securely attached couples also face challenges during transitions but recover more easily from periods of disconnection. As relationships age, they must adapt to critical transitions: children leaving home, retirement, and physical aging. When children leave home, some couples celebrate this transition as a second honeymoon while others face grief, depression, and conflict often leading to divorce. For many, children serve as emotional bridges over attachment gaps in their marriage. Once this buffer disappears, their disconnection becomes inescapable. Retirement often reveals emotional breaches in long-term relationships, challenging the traditional U-curve model of marital satisfaction. Despite evidence that older couples fight less and show more affection, "gray divorce" rates are rising, especially among those over 65. When couples retire, they're suddenly thrown together after years apart, often discovering their goals and needs dramatically differ. A positive, close relationship is one of the best predictors of longevity and health in our later years. Howard Friedman's eight-decade study revealed that "long-lived avoid serious ailments altogether through a series of steps that rely on long-lasting, meaningful connections with others." When illness strikes, emotional support-not just practical help-makes the difference. Studies show that disabled elderly people with responsive mates have higher self-esteem and lower depression.

8장

When Love Unravels: Understanding Relationship Breakdown

Love relationships don't simply die of natural causes-they unravel through specific patterns we can now identify. The erosion of love begins with emotional deprivation-the absence of attunement and responsiveness that leaves partners vulnerable. As connection declines, conflict escalates. Partners become filled with emotions they don't understand, finding themselves out of sync. Research confirms that relationship deterioration begins not with fighting but with missing emotional support. Studies by Pasch and Bradbury found that unsupportive behaviors predict distress more than anger during conflicts. Ted Huston's 14-year study revealed that lack of affection and responsiveness in newlyweds, not negativity, predicted later breakups. The demand-withdraw pattern Johnson calls the "Protest Polka" emerges as a desperate objection to disconnection, with one partner pursuing through criticism while the other retreats into stonewalling-two relationship toxins that destroy emotional balance and inflame insecurity. Criticism from loved ones acts like "low-grade punches to the brain." John Gottman notes there's no such thing as constructive criticism-all criticism hurts. Harvard psychologist Jill Hooley's research shows how devastating disparagement from attachment figures can be, potentially triggering relapse in conditions like depression. In her studies, previously depressed women showed impaired brain function in the DLPFC region when hearing maternal criticism, preventing them from self-soothing. While temporary withdrawal can be a healthy pause, habitual stonewalling poisons relationships. Complete stonewalling-turning to stone, silent and inaccessible-represents total negation of the bond. As attachment theory shows, any response is better than none. Ed Tronick's "Still Face" experiments with mothers and infants demonstrate this dramatically: when mothers suddenly become unresponsive, babies progress from attempts to engage, to shrieking, to withdrawal, and finally to panicked wailing. Johnson witnesses this exact sequence with adult couples-when one partner shuts down completely, the other tries to engage, becomes aggressive, attempts to turn away, and ultimately dissolves into despair. As criticism and stonewalling cycles become ingrained, they define the relationship. These aversive interactions are so destructive that positive moments get discounted. Partners shrink in each other's eyes, reduced to a few noxious traits-"she's a carping bitch; he's a withholding boor." Every action gets interpreted in the worst possible light through a process of escalating negative appraisal. Both become hypervigilant for slights and rejection, unable to give each other the benefit of doubt. While many couples disconnect gradually through minor incidents that spiral downward, others experience abrupt breaks triggered by relationship traumas. These cataclysmic events shatter safety, leaving only pain and despair. Everything the injured partner assumed about their relationship is overturned. Psychologist Judith Herman calls these "violations of human connection," resulting in helplessness made worse because the injury comes from one's safe haven.

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9장

Rebuilding Connection: The Path to Secure Love

When we find connection again, the universe lights up. These moments leap from novels, burn in our brains when watching movies, and entrance us in our own relationships. But how do we get there? Love relationships constantly ebb and flow between harmony and disharmony. Misattunement isn't failure but normal-even happily bonded mothers and infants miss each other's signals 70% of the time. What matters is repair. Relationship stability depends on mending constant small tears rather than avoiding fights. Our earliest attachment experiences teach us whether disconnection is tolerable or catastrophic. Studies show secure partners help buffer insecure ones through conflicts, creating a "buffer, balance, bounce effect" where couples recover together. Secure bonds require accessibility, responsiveness, and engagement. Partners learn to recognize destructive cycles as patterns both contribute to rather than blaming each other. When partners see signs their loved one is trying to understand their feelings, they create a safety zone where they can take risks. The second step in renewing bonds is more significant-withdrawn partners must open up emotionally, and blaming partners must risk asking for what they need from vulnerability. These deeply emotional "Hold Me Tight conversations" create positive bonding cycles where partners reach for each other in ways that pull forth tender, compassionate responses. Research shows a couple's ability to shape these emotional moments is the best predictor of stable relationship repair years later. In Hold Me Tight conversations, partners must accomplish several mini-tasks: staying with softer emotions, regulating feelings to remain open, turning emotions into clear signals, tolerating fears while staying engaged, explicitly stating attachment needs, hearing and accepting the other's needs, reacting in balanced ways to responses, and exploring the partner's reality without dismissal. These powerful interactions allow couples to reshape inevitable disconnections into deeper trust, making future miscues unpleasant rather than catastrophic. Once partners learn to communicate on this attachment level, they develop a secure base that helps address other triggering areas like sexuality and traumatic injuries. Hold Me Tight conversations can heal traumatic attachment injuries from shattering events like affairs. Research shows distressed couples with single attachment injuries can achieve reconciliation in just twelve or thirteen EFT sessions. The forgiveness process follows specific steps: first, the hurt partner courageously communicates their pain without attacking character; second, the injuring partner listens without defensiveness while exploring what prevented their responsiveness; third, feeling heard, the hurt partner articulates clearer messages about the injury, prompting sincere apology; fourth, partners share vulnerabilities and needs; finally, they create a new story of the injury that includes how they healed.

10장

Love in the 21st Century: Creating a More Connected World

Johnson warns that our failure to nurture emotional connections has led to alarming consequences: skyrocketing rates of anxiety and depression, with antianxiety drug use up 30% in a decade and one in five American adults taking medication for mental health issues. She suggests these epidemics signal our need to repair social ties. Even as we recognize our relational nature, face-to-face connection is becoming marginalized. Johnson describes witnessing children in an Italian restaurant completely absorbed in electronic screens while ignoring each other. She warns that our devices create an "illusion of connection"-shallow information-sharing rather than emotional engagement. Citing Sherry Turkle's research, Johnson argues technology has shaped us to "expect more from technology and less from each other." Johnson explores how we can apply love science both personally and societally. Individually, we can create reconnection rituals, like one client's "Where Are You?" game with her husband to share emotional states, or annual renewal of wedding vows. On a societal level, we must educate for connection, recognizing that our dependency on others, when handled well, creates empathy, kindness, and cooperation. Johnson highlights Mary Gordon's "Roots of Empathy" program where mothers with infants visit schools to teach children emotional literacy. Students learn to observe attachment interactions and discuss feelings. Research shows the program increases pro-social behaviors, decreases aggression, and improves academic success. Johnson challenges the notion that personal growth opposes our need for others, arguing that secure connection creates confident, resilient individuals. When securely attached, people are less self-absorbed and more empathetic toward others. Research shows that even briefly "priming" someone with thoughts of a loved one increases compassion and willingness to help strangers in distress. Secure attachment also promotes tolerance-when subjects visualized a loving attachment figure before viewing members of "foreign" groups, their negative attitudes disappeared. The revolutions of the 18th century enshrined liberty, equality, and fraternity, yet we've neglected this third pillar-the core values of empathy, trust and commitment. The science of human bonding offers a blueprint for societal reform, placing our interdependence at the core of human nature. To truly support secure relationships, governments and corporations must offer family-friendly workplace policies like paid parental leave and care time. Contrary to opponents' claims, these policies reduce costs and increase productivity, with employees becoming more engaged and creative. The greatest happiness exists not in the wealthiest nations but those with the highest levels of trust and bonding-friendly policies. Many see our time as a tipping point-shamans predict destruction or transformation, while modern commentators note a growing empathetic consciousness. Our interdependence on this small planet requires us to connect and cooperate for survival. The science of love relationships points toward optimism, suggesting that learning to love must be central to humanity's evolutionary leap forward.

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러브 센스의 핵심 주제

adult attachment theory
emotionally focused therapy
biological survival mechanism
emotional responsiveness
secure bonding

러브 센스의 명언

Love is not just a feeling; it is a biological imperative.
Humans need deep emotional bonds to thrive.
Our primary human instinct isn't sex or aggression but the need for emotional connection.
Secure attachment actually creates better sex, not the reverse.
Emotion isn't an irrational force but nature's exquisitely efficient information-processing system.

러브 센스의 등장인물

Susan M. JohnsonAuthor and developer of Emotionally Focused Therapy
Jeff SimpsonPsychologist who studied attachment under pressure
Deborah DavisResearcher focused on attachment and breakups
Jaak PankseppNeuroscientist who identified primal panic pathways

저자 소개

임상 심리학자이자 베스트셀러인 *러브 센스: 사랑에 관한 혁신적인 새로운 과학(Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships)*의 저자인 수잔 M. 존슨(Susan M. Johnson)은 성인 유대 관계를 이해하고 회복하기 위한 표준 모델인 정서중심치료(EFT)를 개척했습니다.

EFT 국제 우수 센터(International Centre for Excellence in EFT)의 설립자이자 저명한 연구 교수인 존슨(1947–2024)은 40년 동안 동료 검토 연구와 임상 실습을 통해 애착 과학이 어떻게 관계를 변화시키는지 입증하는 데 전념했습니다.

100만 부 이상 판매된 *홀드 미 타이트(Hold Me Tight)*와 *커넥션(Created for Connection)*을 포함한 그녀의 저작들은 복잡한 심리학을 사랑, 신뢰, 정서적 연결에 관한 실질적인 통찰로 풀어냈습니다. 캐나다 훈장(Order of Canada)과 미국 심리학회의 '올해의 가족 심리학자상'을 수상한 존슨의 프레임워크는 전 세계 치료사들의 지침이 되고 있으며, 그녀의 워크숍과 온라인 프로그램은 수많은 커플이 원만한 관계를 맺도록 돕고 있습니다.

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