Good Boundaries and Goodbyes
『Good Boundaries and Goodbyes』の概要
Discover how to love without losing yourself in Lysa TerKeurst's 7-time NYT bestseller. When is a goodbye actually good? This compassionate guide blends faith, psychology, and raw honesty to help you set boundaries that heal - not walls that isolate.
『Good Boundaries and Goodbyes』の主要テーマ
- biblical boundary setting
- relational access management
- enabling vs loving
- toxic relationship dynamics
- faith-based emotional health
『Good Boundaries and Goodbyes』の名言
Sometimes we think we’re being loving when we’re really enabling.
The only person I can control is me.
I can love you and still say no.
Boundaries aren't about pushing people away-they're about protecting love.
『Good Boundaries and Goodbyes』の登場人物
- Lysa TerKeurstAuthor and subject sharing her personal journey
- Christine CaineSpeaker and author who provides spiritual context
著者について
『Good Boundaries and Goodbyes』の著者について
Lysa TerKeurst, New York Times bestselling author of Good Boundaries and Goodbyes, is a leading voice in Christian non-fiction and women’s spiritual growth. As president of Proverbs 31 Ministries, she blends biblical wisdom with relatable insights on relationships, emotional health, and faith-driven resilience.
Her expertise in addressing themes like forgiveness, self-worth, and personal boundaries stems from her own journey through divorce, betrayal, and healing, which she candidly shares in works like Uninvited and Forgiving What You Can’t Forget.
TerKeurst’s books, including six #1 New York Times bestsellers, have sold over six million copies worldwide. A sought-after speaker, she has been featured on platforms like Good Morning America and in The Today Show, translating complex spiritual concepts into accessible guidance. Her transformative approach to Christian living resonates globally, with her works translated into multiple languages and embraced by millions seeking faith-based solutions to modern challenges.
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この本に関するよくある質問
Good Boundaries and Goodbyes explores how to establish healthy relational boundaries using biblical principles, helping readers discern when to repair or release relationships. Lysa TerKeurst combines personal divorce experiences, therapeutic insights from her counselor Jim Cress, and Scripture to teach protecting love through limits, communicating needs clearly, and gracefully exiting destructive dynamics.
Christians struggling with toxic relationships, emotional burnout, or guilt over setting limits will find this book transformative. It’s particularly valuable for those navigating family conflicts, marital strain, or friendships where boundaries feel “unloving”. TerKeurst also addresses readers needing practical scripts to enforce boundaries without confrontation.
Yes—readers praise its actionable advice, biblical grounding, and compassionate tone. Reviewers highlight its effectiveness in reducing relational stress, clarifying unhealthy patterns, and providing therapist-approved strategies. Critics note some chapter overlap, but most consider it a vital resource for faith-based boundary-setting.
- Boundaries as divine protection: Align limits with God’s design for mutual respect.
- Five boundary factors: Assess emotional access, safety, sustainability, and biblical alignment before setting limits.
- “Goodbye” as stewardship: Leaving destructive relationships preserves your capacity to love healthily.
TerKeurst distinguishes “difficult” relationships (requiring boundaries) from “destructive” ones (requiring goodbyes). She offers diagnostic questions to identify manipulation, chronic disrespect, or abuse, paired with scripts like, “I can’t participate in conversations that disrespect my values”.
TerKeurst cites Proverbs 4:23 (“Guard your heart”) and Matthew 7:6 (“Don’t cast pearls before swine”) to show boundaries honor God. She clarifies misunderstood passages (e.g., “turn the other cheek”) that often enable harm.
Unlike Uninvited (rejection healing) or Forgiving What You Can’t Forget, this book focuses on proactive relational stewardship. It integrates more counseling insights and direct action steps versus devotional reflection.
Some readers find chapters repetitive in addressing boundary fundamentals. Others wish for more examples on workplace or parenting boundaries beyond marital/friend contexts.
TerKeurst’s counselor provides therapeutic commentary throughout, validating concepts like trauma-informed boundary-setting and differentiating guilt from conviction. His notes help readers avoid over-apologizing for necessary limits.
- “Boundaries protect the right kind of love”: They filter out dysfunction so healthy love remains.
- “You can’t set yourself on fire to keep others warm”: Prioritizing others’ comfort over your health harms both.
No—TerKeurst clarifies boundaries often save marriages by stopping enabling behaviors. However, she biblical justifies leaving relationships where repentance is absent and harm persists.
While focused on personal ties, its frameworks apply to professional settings: setting communication hours, declining inappropriate requests, and exiting toxic teams using scripts like, “I’ll need to redirect this conversation to stay on topic”.
