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Finding Freedom in Being Your Authentic Self
When Tabitha Brown's viral video about a vegan sandwich exploded across social media in 2017, few knew the decades-long journey that led to that moment. After battling a mysterious illness for nearly two years that left her in chronic pain, a 30-day vegan challenge transformed her health and launched her into unexpected stardom. Now known as "America's Mom," Tabitha has become a cultural phenomenon, with millions following her warm Southern wisdom and plant-based cooking. Her debut book "Feeding the Soul" quickly became a #1 New York Times bestseller, resonating with readers seeking authenticity in a world of carefully curated personas. What makes Tabitha's message so powerful is her radical authenticity - she refuses to code-switch her Southern accent or temper her expressions of faith, creating a unique space where soul food meets soul wisdom. As Ava DuVernay noted, "Tabitha's genuine warmth feels like a hug from someone who truly sees you." Let's explore the wisdom that has made this former actress, UPS supervisor, and nursing assistant into one of today's most beloved voices.
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Your Gifts, Your Business: Embracing Your Natural Talents
What gifts were you born with that you're not using? We all have natural talents meant to be shared with the world, not carried silently to the grave. The cemetery truly is the richest place because too many people leave without letting their brilliance shine.
Growing up, Tabitha always knew she could make people laugh. Her father bought her first joke book in third grade, and she'd test her material at family gatherings, bringing relatives to tears with laughter. But she had another gift she feared discussing - what folks in her hometown called "second sight." Since childhood, she experienced dreams and visions that came true, like when she dreamed about getting stuck in automatic sliding doors at the grocery store, only to have it happen days later.
This gift followed her to Los Angeles in 2004, where she lived with her husband Chance in a Baldwin Hills apartment. While with her neighbor Kim and baby Devon, Tabitha suddenly saw a vision of a coffin with a man inside - somehow knowing it was the child's father. Minutes later, Kim mentioned losing Devon's dad during pregnancy. Months later, while driving Kim's car with their children, Tabitha had a terrifying vision of her daughter Choyce falling onto the freeway. Despite assurances the doors were locked, moments later they heard wind rushing in as Choyce had somehow opened her door.
Tabitha realized she needed to embrace this gift rather than fear it. After her mother's passing, she remembered her mother telling her, "God has chosen you for things that He can trust you with." Though she once prayed for this gift to disappear, when it temporarily did, she felt incomplete. Since her illness in 2016, the dreams and visions returned stronger, and she's learned to welcome them.
At forty-two, Tabitha realized her dreams of becoming a performer and helping people through her art were just manifesting. This affirms we're never too old for our dreams to come true. No matter how many mistakes you've made or rejections you've faced, you remain worthy, and your dreams can still happen if you keep believing. Don't fall for the lie that you can't have the desires of your heart. And if you think your dream is too big, it's probably too small. God often says to our modest dreams, "That's it? Let me show you what I can do." But we must hold on, regardless of age. It took Tabitha twenty-three years pursuing acting before her breakthrough, and the detour taught invaluable lessons.
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Taking Ownership: Faith Without Works Is Dead
Sometimes we need to hear the hard truths: Taking ownership of your life might mean you have to stop saying "Oh, fix it, Jesus!" while continuing to do the same things that are breaking it. Too many people pray for healing while eating what makes them sick, or ask God to heal their lungs while still smoking. That's insanity-doing the same thing repeatedly and expecting different results. Whatever changes we want, we must do our part.
When Tabitha moved to Los Angeles pursuing her acting dreams, nobody was waiting to discover her. She had to start from scratch, understanding that faith without works is dead. Acting was like breathing to her-an opportunity to disappear into characters and tell stories of people who might not otherwise have voices. She studied acting for years and still takes classes today. She auditioned constantly and took unpaid roles for experience. While waiting for her big break, she was working. God honors our commitment to our calling.
Her appearance on Will & Grace gave her new life. After nailing her lines and hearing the audience laugh, the creator Max Mutchnick told her, "You're so funny, and you really made the show tonight." A year later, he reached out to develop her own show where she could be "America's mom" and tell funny, relatable stories. Even when she tried giving up on acting, God made sure she couldn't stop.
Acting gave Tabitha and her sister the power to explore emotions when they made a short film about their mother. Her sister, who wasn't an actress, played their mom during her illness when she was on a ventilator. They both broke down crying because she brought their mama back to them for a moment. Acting gave them freedom to grieve and create art that could help others find light in their darkness.
After years of ups and downs, everything Tabitha worked toward has come to pass - bigger than she imagined. But only after she set her hand to the plow and nurtured those seeds God planted. She did her best, then God did the rest. So stop talking about what you could have, would have, or should have done and just go do it. Why wait until New Year's or Monday to start what you've wanted all year? Faith without works is dead. Decide today to get to work.
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Everyone Can't Go: The Courage to Walk Alone
One of the hardest truths to accept is that everyone can't go with you on your journey. Some people won't even go to the gym unless they have a workout partner - if they don't have one, they simply don't go. Why sacrifice your fitness goals because you're afraid to enter a building alone?
There will be parts of your journey you must walk alone. In fact, some things must be done on your own or you'll never see their fullness. The same people who won't work out alone are often the same ones who haven't started that business because they're waiting for a partner, or haven't moved from that town because they're waiting for permission. When will you just depend on yourself? The best bet you'll ever make is on yourself.
Tabitha's decision to go vegan was life-changing - and she had to do it alone. After watching "What the Health" and being sick for a year and seven months with no answers from doctors, her family agreed to a thirty-day vegan challenge. By day ten, her chronic headache disappeared. By week three, she felt better than she had in almost two years. On day twenty-nine, she told her husband she was going to stay vegan. He lovingly said, "That's so good for you. But tomorrow? I'm going to need a piece of chicken."
Similarly, she had to dream alone. Her husband struggled with visualizing the future or dreaming big dreams. Her mother's wisdom helped: "We can't get upset when others don't get our dreams. They don't get it because God didn't give it to them." God gave her the dream - it was her job to go after it, with or without support.
Even in grief, we often walk alone. Not because we aren't loved, but because everyone grieves differently. We can't expect others to understand unless they've experienced it, and even siblings don't experience grief the same way.
When we achieve success, we naturally want to bring everybody along, but that's often the quickest way to tear up dreams, finances, and relationships. Build your foundation solid and secure first, then bring the right people along at the right time. Don't be upset about traveling alone - some of your most successful moves will be ones you make by yourself.
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Secrets Make Us Sick: The Power of Speaking Your Truth
We often deny painful experiences because they're hard to face. But we must address these hidden things to find healing. Acting like something never happened keeps you bound and stunts your growth. Open your mouth. Tell your story - you never know whose chains you'll unlock, including your own.
When Tabitha was fifteen, she was raped by someone she knew - what we now call date rape. She said "No," but he didn't stop. For the longest time, she blamed herself, thinking that because she'd snuck out to a party, she somehow deserved what happened. For nearly twenty-five years, she kept this secret, not telling a soul, not even her husband Chance.
Then one day, the guy who'd hurt her sent her a friend request online. That fifteen-year-old girl inside her froze in terror. She became nauseous, couldn't breathe, felt searing chest pain. She realized how much his actions still held her hostage, how something she thought she'd tucked away was still very present.
A few days later, stuck in traffic on the 405 freeway, she heard God's voice clearly: "Your secrets are making you sick." She began to pray, asking why, and the response came quickly: "If your secrets could grab you and take control so suddenly, what other people are dealing with secrets making them sick?"
She knew she needed to tell her story publicly, though she was terrified. She'd never told her father, not wanting him to feel he hadn't protected her. She'd never told her husband, fearing he might look at her differently. But she could no longer deny what happened or let trauma control her.
That day, she shared her story on video, and received thousands of messages from people saying, "This was for me tonight. I've been keeping this a secret." By sharing, she helped others break their cycles and curses. Most importantly, she finally understood it wasn't her fault - regardless of sneaking out or going to a party.
Secrets fester into physical and mental ailments. The things we keep inside grow until something triggers us to realize what's been making us sick. You deserve freedom from that thing, no matter what your part in it was. You owe yourself the freedom to breathe again, to look in the mirror and be okay with who's looking back. It's time to release those secrets and get your freedom.
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We're Better Together: Moving Beyond Division
Growing up, church was a huge part of Tabitha's life. Her grandmother's Pentecostal (Holiness) church had strict rules - no pants for women, no pierced ears. Her mother balanced this with a more progressive attitude, telling her, "Baby, don't you ever focus on religion. Don't get caught up in it. You just get caught up in your relationship with God."
This perspective shaped her. She's a Christian who loves the Lord, but she's not religious. She's seen how religious institutions create unnecessary divisions between people who need each other.
In sixth grade, despite promising her friend Leander they wouldn't "catch the Holy Ghost" at a Baptist revival, the Spirit took hold of her. When she excitedly told her grandmother about this experience, she dismissed it entirely: "You ain't got no Holy Ghost at no Baptist church. If there's no hardwood floors in there, you ain't got no Holy Ghost."
We're all spiritual beings having human experiences, yet we create divisions through religious titles and doctrines. Whether Baptist, Holiness, Methodist, Buddhist - we're all connected through one Creator. Tabitha has caught the Holy Spirit in Baptist churches, Pentecostal churches, and in her home, because that's her business.
These divisions extend beyond denominations. Too many shun people unlike themselves, especially the LGBTQIA+ community. Just because someone differs from you doesn't make them wrong - it makes them different. We should all live as we were created without judgment or hate.
God can use anybody to deliver a message - the homeless person, the neighbor you dislike, coworkers, children. Keep your mind open and don't judge people by appearances. You might be blocking your own blessing by shutting someone out.
Everyone won't share your beliefs, appearance, or journey. Be okay with that. Remember: "We are the future ancestors. Behave accordingly." What legacy are you leaving? Work on your "dash" - that line between birth and death on your tombstone. Listen to those you normally wouldn't. Be kind to people different from you. You never know who you might be encountering.
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Freedom Is Knowing You're Enough: Embracing Authenticity
Everybody won't like you. That's a hard pill to swallow, but it's true. Like Tabitha's hair Donna, who sheds naturally as she grows, sometimes we must let people fall away from our lives. This natural shedding process is essential for growth and authenticity. Don't force folks to stay when their season is over - whether they're friends, romantic partners, or even family members. When God wants somebody out of your life, He'll remove them - no need for malice or dramatic confrontations. The key is recognizing when relationships have served their purpose and gracefully letting go.
Tabitha's personal journey with authenticity started early. In high school, she embraced her hippie style despite relentless teasing from classmates who didn't understand her eclectic fashion choices. Her signature love for earrings started remarkably young - feeling naked without them since age five, when her grandmother first pierced her ears. But upon entering Hollywood, like many actors, she found herself slowly compromising her identity. She straightened her naturally curly hair, changed her accent, and adopted a more "mainstream" persona until she barely recognized herself. This continued until her devastating health crisis in 2016 forced her to reevaluate everything.
During her illness, lying in that hospital bed, she made a profound promise to God: "If you heal me, you can have me. I'll be exactly who You created me to be." The process of stripping away false layers was terrifying but necessary - she was literally suffocating the true Tab beneath years of manufactured personality. To her surprise and relief, being her authentic self earned more respect, not less. Colleagues and casting directors responded positively to her natural accent and genuine personality, leading to more meaningful roles and connections.
The struggle with authenticity extends beyond personal expression to emotional honesty, particularly for men. We must stop perpetuating the damaging narrative that boys and men shouldn't cry or show vulnerability. This harmful societal rule leads boys to bottle up emotions until they inevitably act out or explode in destructive ways. Those little boys who aren't allowed to release their feelings often become problematic men who "blow their top" through aggression, substance abuse, or worse. Research suggests we'd likely see less violent crime and domestic abuse if men were taught early that being human means expressing emotions in healthy, constructive ways.
Being your own person requires courage, but it's worth the effort. You are enough - yesterday, today, tomorrow, forever. Just as Tabitha finally embraced her Southern accent instead of code-switching to make others comfortable, your authentic self deserves to be seen and heard. Your freedom to be genuinely you isn't just a personal choice - it's the greatest gift you can give yourself and an inspiration to others who might be struggling with their own authenticity. Live free, embrace your quirks and imperfections, and watch your whole world transform as you attract people who appreciate the real you.
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Multiple Routes to Your Destination: Finding Your Own Way
Stop letting people convince you your way is wrong just because they did something differently. Multiple routes lead to any destination. Whether you take the freeway or surface streets downtown, you'll reach the same place. Don't buy into the idea that you must talk, look, or dress a certain way to succeed.
Find your lane - highways have multiple lanes all heading the same direction. Some people arrive faster, others take their time, but everyone's on the same road. The failure isn't in taking a different approach but in trying to copy someone else. Even traditions were once innovations - what's stopping you from creating your own path? Not everyone will like it, but that's not your business.
Tabitha and her husband lived together before marriage, considered wrong by church standards, but God still honors their marriage and good hearts regardless of tradition. When she was told YouTube videos would hurt her acting career, she almost didn't make them - but where would she be now? You might create a new blueprint in your field or family, but you'll never know if you keep doing things the traditional way.
What you believe is truly your business. Months before Tabitha's mother passed away, they had a conversation about death. When she expressed her fear of living without her, her mother shared how after her own mother died, she would find nickels in strange places - signs of her mother's presence. She promised to leave Tabitha dimes. After her funeral, they returned home to find dimes in their bed, though no one had been in the house for weeks. The next morning, more dimes appeared in the shower. To this day, she still finds dimes during her roughest and happiest moments.
God speaks in many ways, and miracles still happen daily. Don't let others convince you your beliefs are wrong - if God puts something in your heart, trust it. People called Jesus crazy too. Guard your miracles and messages, even if others don't understand.
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Gratitude Changes Everything: The Power of Thankfulness
Standing on a luxury home balcony in View Park, Los Angeles, Tabitha could see the blue Baldwin Hills apartment building where her family lived for five years when they first moved to LA. Because of her past struggles, she lives in constant gratitude. Even now, writing from her dream home office with its gold chandelier, pink-and-gold couch, and walls adorned with magazine covers featuring her and her daughter, she's struck by God's goodness. But it's not about the possessions - they're just tangible markers of her inner transformation. The inside changes always manifest externally.
Practice gratitude daily by recognizing how far you've come. Never mistake deserving for entitlement. Yes, you deserve good things, but cradle that deserving in humility. Never forget the distance between your past and present is paved with essential life lessons.
An attitude of gratitude has countless benefits, especially for your family. When God elevates you, He often brings your entire family along. Tabitha gets to see her husband free from financial stress, her daughter Choyce living her modeling dream, her son enjoying childhood luxuries she and Chance never had, and her bonus daughter Ty-Leah pursuing professional track without rent worries. Your freedom and blessings can liberate those around you.
No matter where you stand today, find something to be thankful for. Remember when she promised God her life if He freed her from pain? These blessings are the result of that faithfulness. She'll remain thankful until her last breath because gratitude means you can be trusted with God's favor. The more thankful you are, the more blessings will come.
Don't let others dictate how you celebrate your victories, whether small or monumental. When people say "that's it?" or "don't celebrate too soon," ignore them. If you've accomplished something you're proud of, celebrate that moment because it's your business! You alone know how hard you worked and how you feel. When folks try to diminish your joy, tell them to get behind you. Your celebrations are your business.
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There's Always a Way: Finding Strength in Adversity
Tabitha's mother passed away from ALS (Lou Gehrig's disease), a rare neuromuscular condition that attacks muscles and can strike anyone without warning. It started in her hands, spread to her right foot, then her entire right side. But when she lost the use of her writing hand while working on her memoir, she taught herself to write with her left hand. When she could no longer write at all, she used a tape recorder. "I can't die with this stuff inside me," she'd say.
After she passed, Tabitha couldn't bear to listen to her recordings for twelve years. When she finally did, she heard her mother praying with gratitude despite her terminal diagnosis. She'd prophetically told Tabitha people would know her name through her. Her mama's name is Patricia Blackstock Johnson - remember it when you feel stuck. If she could put a pencil in her mouth to hit record, what can't you do? Where there's a will, there's a way.
God didn't take you through your journey so you could keep it to yourself. Your struggles and triumphs aren't meant to stay hidden - they're meant to help others. Part of Tabitha's purpose is helping save lives through healthier eating and kindness, but she must also share how her life changed in the process.
God is still in the healing business, unchanged from biblical times. When Tabitha felt an urgent prompting to go live and share her healing testimony, she obeyed, knowing someone needed to hear that God still heals - whether it's health, relationships, or finances.
Surrender control of your story. Someone is waiting to receive healing through your words. After you speak life to yourself, speak life to others. As you enter your winning season, share it with those still feeling stuck and scared. Pay the love forward - that's why we're here.
