Explore 'The Soup' concept with Lena and Nia to understand how we maintain cycles of self-criticism and learn how to stop stirring the pot of negative self-talk.

We think we are still being served these negative messages by our past, but the reality is that we have taken over the kitchen. We are the ones stirring the pot, making sure the soup tastes exactly like it always has, even if it tastes bitter.
Section 4: The “Soup” Concept The soup is not the problem. The problem is you keep repeating the recipe. They don’t make the soup for you anymore—but you make it yourself. “You’re not capable.” “You’re disorganized.” You don’t notice, but you repeat it to yourself.


The Soup is a powerful concept that suggests we are often swimming in a recipe of self-criticism written a long time ago. While we might feel like we are simply reacting to life's current circumstances, the concept highlights that we are actually living out a script or 'recipe' that reinforces our worst fears and negative mental loops.
According to the podcast, we often take over the 'kitchen' from the people who originally created our negative self-perceptions. Even if the messages from our past were bitter, we continue to stir the pot and add the seasoning ourselves. We become the ones responsible for maintaining the cycle and making sure the soup tastes exactly like it always has.
Feeling stuck in a loop often happens when we believe the world is confirming our worst fears about ourselves every day. This podcast episode explains that this feeling is like reading a script you didn't realize you were following. By looking deeper under the surface, you can identify the 'soup' you are swimming in and begin breaking the cycle of self-sabotage.
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