The Relationship Audit: When to Stay or Go & Sunk Cost Fallacy
Join Miles and Blythe on The Relationship Audit as they discuss the Sunk Cost Fallacy, emotional exhaustion, and how to decide whether to stay or go.
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It’s not the conflict that kills the relationship; it’s the lack of repair. In a healthy relationship, when there’s a rupture, both people work to reconnect, but in a harmful environment, repair attempts just fail.
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The Sunk Cost Fallacy is the feeling that you must stay in a relationship because you have already invested significant time and emotional energy into it. As Blythe explains, this often leads people to stay because they are mourning the past rather than looking at the future. It is like throwing good money after bad, where you feel unable to walk away simply because of the years already spent.
Miles and Blythe suggest that many people approach their relationships like drifting in a canoe without checking if the boat is seaworthy. Miles notes that asking 'should I stay or should I go' while experiencing total exhaustion or resentment is the wrong starting point. He compares this to trying to perform surgery on yourself while under the anesthesia of pain, making it impossible to see the situation clearly.
A Relationship Audit, as discussed by Miles and Blythe, is a way to evaluate if your relationship system is functioning or slowly sinking. Instead of just hoping for the best while bailing out water, the audit encourages individuals to stop and check if the hull is cracked beyond repair. This process helps high-achieving individuals move past survival mode to determine if a relationship is truly sustainable for the future.
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