Loyalties by Delphine de Vigan: The Weight of Silence
When childhood promises become prisons, how do we break free? Explore the hidden burdens and invisible contracts that shape our most painful connections.
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Loyalties are silent fidelities or contracts we make with ourselves, often without even realizing it; they are both our wings and our yokes, the things that give us strength to resist but also the trenches where we bury our dreams.
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In the script, loyalties are described as invisible threads or silent contracts we make with ourselves, often unconsciously. They are "silent fidelities" that can act as both wings and yokes—providing the strength to resist difficult circumstances but also acting as a burden that imprisons an individual. These loyalties often manifest as a "pact of silence," particularly in children who feel a primitive need to protect their parents even at the cost of their own well-being.
Twelve-year-old Théo uses alcohol as an "exit strategy" to achieve a state of unconsciousness. He is caught in the middle of a bitter divorce, acting as a "vault" for his mother’s hatred and a caretaker for his father’s depression. This emotional pressure creates what the script calls a "Larsen effect"—a high-pitched internal noise or psychological feedback. He drinks specifically to turn off this noise and find a moment of peace from the "ultrasound" of his family's dysfunction.
Hélène is driven by a loyalty to her own childhood self, having been a victim of paternal abuse. Because of her history, she is hyper-attuned to the "signs" of trauma in her students. However, this becomes an obsession that causes her to lose her professional common sense. She projects her own past onto Théo, searching for physical bruises like the ones she had, while failing to realize that Théo is suffering from a different, invisible form of psychological maltreatment.
The "pact of silence" is a central theme where characters choose to hide painful truths to maintain the integrity of a relationship or a family image. For Théo, it means hiding his father’s collapse from his mother to prevent further conflict. For Mathis, it means staying silent about Théo’s dangerous drinking to remain a loyal friend. The script suggests that while these pacts are intended to protect, they often lead to "toxic loyalty" that prevents necessary intervention and can lead to catastrophe.
The script highlights how patterns of behavior and emotional debts are transmitted from parents to children, often despite their best intentions. For example, Théo’s mother reproduces the very schemas of damage she thinks she is rejecting by using her son as a shield in her divorce. Similarly, Mathis learns how to deceive and keep secrets by observing the "defective gears" of his own parents' marriage. This suggests that becoming an adult is a continuous process of trying to repair the "losses and damages of the beginning."
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