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    Wondering where the term blow job came from? Explore its surprising history and learn how to build intimacy through better communication and technique.

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    The term has a surprising military history. In the 1950s, "blow job" was an innocent slang term used to describe military jet aircraft. It wasn't until around 1961 that the phrase began to emerge as slang for fellatio, eventually moving from underground Navy reports into mainstream dictionaries by the early 1970s.

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