How to Say Babylon: A Memoir

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   Breaking Free from Paradise's Shadow

   

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   Standing on a veranda at midnight, a young woman searches for the distant sea beyond a veil of trees. She has just defied her father for the first time, driving him from the house in fury. In the mist below, she glimpses her possible future-a voiceless woman cowering under a Rastaman's gaze. This powerful moment captures the essence of Safiya Sinclair's journey: to cut that submissive woman out of herself and forge her own path. Named one of Barack Obama's favorite books of 2023, her memoir resonates with anyone who has struggled to find their voice against oppressive traditions. What happens when the paradise of childhood becomes a prison? When does religious devotion cross into control? These questions form the backbone of a story that shows how poetry can become a lifeline when everything else is taken away.

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   The Roots of Rastafari and Early Childhood

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   In April 1966, a hundred thousand Rastas gathered at Kingston's airport awaiting Ethiopian Emperor Haile Selassie. When his plane appeared, the torrential rain ceased. Though Selassie denied his divinity, the Rastas saw this as divine confirmation. This visit would shape both Jamaica's history and one family's destiny. Safiya's parents, Esther and Howard, met as orphaned teenagers in 1980. Esther, who'd lost her mother at four, was told she was infertile. Howard, a deportee from America who'd found Rastafari, rejected this "Babylon system" diagnosis. A year later, Esther conceived and committed herself to Howard at twenty-one. Safiya's childhood began in White House, a fishing village, where she hunted hermit crabs and ate sea grapes in her mother's handmade dresses. At five, they moved to Bogue Heights above Montego Bay. Her father deepened their Rastafari practice, taking the name Djani and giving them African names: Safiya Jamila ("Clear-minded, pure, beautiful"), Lij Tafari ("Blessed child"), and Ife Kibibi ("Little Lady of Love"). While her father warned against Babylon's influence, her mother nurtured their love of nature and learning. Books became Safiya's refuge as her father's growing frustration with Babylon strained their home.

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   The Tightening Grip of Control and Growing Contradictions

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   As Safiya turned ten, her father intensified his efforts to mold her into a proper Rastawoman, banning tights and pants in favor of modest skirts despite her young age. At St. James College, her dreadlocks made her stand out, and when a teacher mocked her, her father advised silence to protect her scholarship. Their new inland home revealed deepening family tensions and her father's contradictions - he privately mocked neighbors while being cordial to them, rejected Babylon while desiring its comforts. After catching the children picking unripe cherries, he harshly disciplined them with his new leather belt, prompting Ife to sing their ancestral hymn of comfort the next morning. By ninth grade, Safiya found solace in the library. Her friend Cassandra's teenage pregnancy strengthened her resolve to break from tradition. Her faith in her father finally crumbled upon discovering him viewing explicit content of Black women, exposing the hypocrisy in his teachings.

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   The Breaking Point and Family Fractures

   At fourteen, Safiya's first menstruation became a turning point when her father's cold response - palm raised to keep her at distance - created a growing divide between them. "Don't ever talk to me about that stuff," he said, leaving her feeling disconnected from the father who had created her. When her father introduced Primrose as a potential "second mother," both children rejected her. Their mother attempted to flee with just a bag of clothes, but despite looking down the road to freedom, she returned to her crying children, clutching her stomach as if yanked by an invisible tether. After this failed escape, beatings became unpredictable and without reason. The house only felt free during their father's absences, when their mother would spring back to life, recreating her protective shield around them. The final straw came when Safiya expressed dislike for new sneakers her mother brought home. Her father exploded, lashing her with his red belt while her mother blocked her escape. Later, when Safiya showed her mother the welts, seeking comfort, she was dismissed with "You're so funny," left alone to process her pain.

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   Poetry as Salvation and Self-Discovery

   After the beating, Safiya withdrew until her principal, Mrs. Newnham, gave her a notebook to express her feelings. She wrote about her self-loathing-her dreadlocks, broken tooth, poverty, and life-finding unexpected solace in the process. Post-graduation depression left Safiya directionless until she found purpose in a donated computer. Through Encarta encyclopedia and the internet, she self-educated, immersing herself in philosophy, astronomy, botany, and literature, particularly drawn to Sylvia Plath's poetry. One night, contemplating suicide, poetry emerged: "Silver flows through my veins." Writing became her anchor in chaos. She submitted three poems to the Jamaica Observer Literary Arts supplement, leading to a connection with the Old Poet, who became her mentor. With her mother's blessing, Safiya moved to her grandmother's house in Spanish Town, attending poetry workshops in Kingston. Away from her father's influence, she thrived, writing poems by candlelight.

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   Breaking Free and Finding Her Voice

   The freedom Safiya found with the Old Poet sparked her drive for independence. She joined Saint International modeling agency while continuing poetry, despite her militant father's disapproval. When he expressed shame over her wearing a short skirt to a casting, she chose her own path over his approval. At nineteen, after her father called her a "Jezebel" and ordered her to leave, her mother made a pivotal stand: "As long as I'm living, no child of mine will ever be on the street." Her mother backed these words by declaring she would go wherever Safiya went. When Safiya returned home with relaxed hair, lipstick, and gold earrings, her father's stunned silence marked his recognition that "nothing Rastafari moved through me anymore." He wouldn't speak to her for a year afterward. Finally, Safiya received acceptance to Bennington College with financial aid - her ticket to freedom after six years of confinement. At last, she could "study. I would write and dream and kiss and learn."

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   Reconciliation and Release

   At her Bennington graduation, Safiya became her family's first female college graduate. Her mother marked the occasion by cutting off her dreadlocks, symbolizing liberation. A violent final confrontation with her father occurred when she confronted him about damaging her reputation. When he attacked her, splitting her lip, she and her siblings sought refuge with their brother. Six years after leaving Jamaica, Safiya returned in 2018 to read at the Calabash Literary Festival. Her father traveled hours to attend. She addressed him directly with a poem about his harshness, ending with "Father/Let me in." After the emotional performance, her father embraced her for the first time in a decade, saying, "I'm listening. And I hear you." Swimming at dawn in Montego Bay, Safiya experienced a vision of her ancestral line - generations of resilient women who had persevered. Facing the horizon, she embraced her inheritance, seeing before her only "unending waves" and "all of tomorrow's sun."

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