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    We're not actually rational creatures who occasionally get emotional—we're emotional creatures who occasionally think rationally. That completely flips how we think about difficult conversations, doesn't it?

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    Why do I struggle to have difficult conversations? Especially ones that have conflict.

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    Conflict Communication
    Conflict Avoidance Psychology: Causes, Effects, and Strategies for Overcoming
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    How to Have Difficult Conversations (And Why We Avoid Them)
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    The Next Conversation
    This Is Why We Avoid Difficult Conversations - Psychology Today
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    https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-neuroscience-of-conversations/202109/this-is-why-we-avoid-difficult-conversations

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    Overcoming Defensiveness for Deeper Connection

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