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    The Emotional Pause: Mastering Emotional Self-Regulation

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    Learn to master emotional self-regulation on The Emotional Pause. Discover how to manage triggers and understand the evolutionary roots of feelings like jealousy.

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    Emotional self-regulation is the ability to find that tiny bit of space between the trigger and the response, allowing you to put thought between the feeling and the speaking so you can choose a response that aligns with your values.

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    I want to be strong i want to control my emotions jealousy comparing or blurting out without thinking out of annoyance bursting from anger or annoyance i want to not be emotionally triggered

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    Sources de connaissances
    How To Deal With Jealousy
    link
    https://health.clevelandclinic.org/how-to-deal-with-jealousy
    Are You a Blurter? | Psychology Today
    link
    https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/stronger-at-the-broken-places/201812/are-you-a-blurter
    Emotional Self-Regulation: What This Is and How You Develop It
    link
    https://www.healthline.com/health/emotional-self-regulation/
    Self-regulation for adults: Strategies for getting a handle on ...
    link
    https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/self-regulation-for-adults-strategies-for-getting-a-handle-on-emotions-and-behavior
    21 Tools to Maximize Self-Control and Self-Regulation
    link
    https://positivepsychology.com/self-control-regulation-tools/

    Foire aux questions

    The Emotional Pause focuses on mastering emotional self-regulation to help individuals stop being 'reaction machines' when triggered. The podcast explores how to think before acting, allowing listeners to view situations clearly rather than being hijacked by intense internal tailspins. By developing emotional intelligence, you can learn to manage sharp reactions and navigate moments where you feel like a walking nerve ending.

    According to evolutionary psychology, emotions like jealousy are often adaptive behaviors rather than just toxic traits. Miles explains that jealousy can be viewed as a protective fear response or a signal that something valuable feels threatened. This perspective reframes the 'green-eyed monster' as a deep-seated instinct meant to help us protect the relationships we care about most in our lives.

    Practicing emotional self-regulation provides the ability to pause and think before reacting to emotional triggers. This skill helps prevent the exhaustion of being hijacked by emotions or blurting out sharp comments during stressful interactions with partners or coworkers. By understanding emotions as adaptive signals, you can stay in control and avoid becoming vindictive or reactive when you feel hurt or threatened.

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    Points clés

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    The Moment Between the Spark and the Flame

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    Understanding the Roots of Emotional Turbulence

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    The Science of the Surge and the Power of the Pause

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    Identifying Your Personal Triggers and Patterns

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    Practical Tools for Building the Self-Control Muscle

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    Navigating Relationships with Mature Self-Regulation

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    Your Personal Playbook for Emotional Strength

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    Final Reflections on the Journey Inward

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