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    The Bridge to Self: From Approval to Autonomy

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    12 févr. 2026
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    Explore the lifelong journey from seeking parental approval to becoming fully self-referential. Discover how to navigate the delicate balance between belonging and autonomy with compassion and practical wisdom.

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    The goal isn't to cut all ties, but to find that sweet spot where we can stay connected while being genuinely ourselves. It’s less about breaking away and more about growing into ourselves while staying in relationship.

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    What is the journey of crossing the bridge from dependent on parents and social approval to becoming fully individuated, self assured, self resourced, and self referential? How do we navigate and facilitate this process?

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