What is *You're Not Enough (And That's Okay)* about?

*You're Not Enough (And That's Okay)* critiques modern self-love culture, arguing that human inadequacy is inherent and cannot be solved through self-affirmation. Author Allie Beth Stuckey dismantles five toxic myths (e.g., “You determine your truth”) and offers a Christian alternative: finding purpose through reliance on God rather than self-improvement.

Who should read *You're Not Enough (And That's Okay)*?

This book targets Christians seeking biblical responses to secular self-help trends, conservatives disillusioned with progressive cultural narratives, and anyone battling anxiety or feelings of inadequacy. It’s particularly relevant for young adults navigating social media’s “cult of self-affirmation”.

Is *You're Not Enough (And That's Okay)* worth reading?

Yes, readers praise its countercultural message as “refreshing” and “biblically grounded,” particularly for exposing how self-love frameworks fail to address human limitations. Critics note its blunt tone may challenge progressive audiences, but supporters call it vital for reclaiming Christian values in a narcissistic culture.

What are the key myths addressed in the book?

Stuckey confronts five cultural lies: - “You are enough” - “You determine your truth” - “You’re perfect the way you are” - “You’re entitled to your dreams” - “You can’t love others until you love yourself” She replaces these with scriptural teachings on humility and God’s sufficiency.

How does *You're Not Enough* critique modern Christianity?

The book warns churches against blending secular self-love psychology with faith, arguing this dilutes the gospel. Stuckey criticizes “prosperity gospel” adjacent teachings that prioritize self-actualization over repentance or reliance on Christ.

What’s the significance of the title *You're Not Enough (And That's Okay)*?

The phrase rejects the pressure to achieve self-sufficiency, reframing human limitation as an opportunity to embrace God’s grace. Stuckey argues true peace comes from acknowledging insufficiency rather than fighting it.

How does this book approach mental health struggles?

While affirming real mental health challenges, Stuckey cautions against conflating clinical issues with spiritual needs. She argues overemphasis on “self-care” often exacerbates anxiety by centering solutions on personal effort rather than divine support.

What practical takeaways does the book offer?

Key actions include: - Rejecting self-sufficiency as a moral ideal - Evaluating cultural messages through Scripture - Redirecting focus from self-improvement to God’s character - Building identity on Christ’s worthiness rather than personal achievements

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Dans « You're Not Enough (And That's Okay) », Allie Beth Stuckey défie avec audace la culture actuelle de l'amour de soi. Et si le véritable épanouissement ne venait pas d'une amélioration constante de soi, mais de l'acceptation de ses imperfections ? Ce contrepoint controversé au bien-être moderne a déclenché des débats acharnés sur la foi face à l'autosuffisance.

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Chapitre 1

The Self-Love Myth That's Keeping You Stuck

In a world where Lizzo's anthems of self-empowerment top the charts and Instagram feeds overflow with affirmations like "you are enough," Allie Beth Stuckey's counter-cultural message has struck a nerve. Her book "You're Not Enough (And That's Okay)" became a bestseller by challenging the very foundation of modern self-help culture. As Reese Witherspoon called it "the wake-up call our generation needs," the book has sparked conversations across political and religious divides about the limitations of self-love philosophy. Stuckey, whose "Relatable" podcast reaches millions, combines her Harvard theological training with relatable storytelling to expose what she sees as the dangerous paradox of our time: the more we focus on ourselves, the more miserable we become. Her work arrives at a critical cultural moment when, despite unprecedented focus on self-care and self-acceptance, rates of anxiety, depression, and loneliness have reached epidemic proportions.

Chapitre 2

When Self-Love Becomes Self-Destruction

I sat in my counselor's office, the words hanging heavy in the air: "You're going to die. This is going to kill you." Though I knew my eating disorder was serious, I hadn't wanted to admit just how dangerous it had become. What began as innocent calorie restriction and excessive exercise after a devastating breakup my senior year had evolved into full-blown bingeing and purging. I'd started going out more, drinking heavily, and seeking validation from men to numb the persistent fear that I simply wasn't enough. The more weight I lost and attention I received, the easier it became to ignore this haunting inadequacy. The behavior I thought I controlled had become an addiction affecting every aspect of my life. I'd lie to friends about needing the bathroom at restaurants so I could purge. When caught once by a friend, I vehemently denied it. Even after graduation and starting my career, I couldn't break free from this destructive cycle. When I finally called a Christian counselor, I expected quick tips to fix myself. I'd absorbed our culture's message that we have everything we need inside to solve our own problems. Instead, she helped me uncover that beneath my destructive behaviors was a crippling fear of insufficiency. After my breakup, I'd abandoned my faith to "focus on myself," seeking quick relief rather than God's healing. Her warning that I was killing myself broke me completely. In my car afterward, I cried out to God with questions about how to stop. And remarkably, He helped me break the cycle immediately. The culture of self-love had failed me entirely. Doing what I wanted and focusing on my desires in pursuit of my "best life" had nearly destroyed me. Whatever you're facing now - addiction, rejection, depression - you're not enough to heal yourself. Your self-contrived solutions won't work. The first step to breaking unhealthy cycles is realizing how insufficient you are and letting go of the responsibility to be your own source of fulfillment.

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Chapitre 3

The Dead End of Self-Sufficiency

The world tells us self-love will solve our problems, but it can't. When a fan asked Lizzo how she could still hate herself despite listening to Lizzo's empowering messages, Lizzo responded that self-love takes time and she's still not there yet. But that's not the real reason. Self-love is inherently unsatisfying because it depends on our ever-changing feelings, which fluctuate based on circumstances, performance, and others' opinions. Self-love is unreliable, conditional, and limited - chasing it always leads to a dead end. Consider Cecily's story. Abandoned by her mother at a young age after witnessing domestic violence, she was raised by her father who provided stability. But the question haunted her: "Why doesn't my mom want me? Why am I not enough for her?" When Cecily became a mother herself, she was determined to be everything her children needed - what her own mother never was. But with a colicky baby and then a second child just a year later, she found herself overwhelmed despite her desperate efforts. She refused help, believing she needed to be there for her children at all times. Following advice from mom influencers, she tried self-care - shopping, working out, dinners with friends - but found these temporary fixes unreliable. Some days she felt confident, others inadequate. The self-empowerment messages drained rather than energized her. After locking her keys and baby in the car one day, she broke down completely, even contemplating suicide. It was only when Cecily embraced her "not-enoughness" and turned to God that she found peace. She realized God made her not enough - she would never have what it took to be everything her family needed. By drawing strength from her Creator rather than herself, she found freedom. Our generation's obsession with personal happiness and self-discovery hasn't made us happier. Despite living in the most prosperous era in the most prosperous country, we can't find fulfillment because we're looking in the wrong places. The self can't be both our problem and our solution. We need something bigger - we need God. When we place ourselves on the throne of our lives, we end up exhausted and confused.

Chapitre 4

The Cult of Self-Affirmation

What I call the "Cult of Self-Affirmation" is a pervasive network of self-help gurus, development experts, and even some Christian teachers who populate social media, bestseller lists, pulpits, and political offices - all affirming the supremacy of self. This movement has gained unprecedented momentum through social media platforms like Instagram and TikTok, where influencers regularly preach messages of unlimited self-actualization. This cult promises peace and salvation if you follow its doctrines, with self as god, "doing you" as righteousness, and "following your heart" as salvation. Its two key tenets are Authenticity and Autonomy - being true to yourself and maintaining control over your life. Anything limiting who you believe you are gets labeled "toxic" and "judgmental." The movement has created its own vocabulary, with phrases like "speak your truth," "set boundaries," and "protect your energy" becoming modern mantras. The cult's influence extends beyond personal development into politics and social issues, reshaping cultural conversations about identity, truth, and morality. When "the god of self rules," facts and science become irrelevant compared to personal desires. The author cites examples including gender identity cases like James Younger, a seven-year-old boy caught in a custody battle where his mother wanted to pursue gender transition treatments against his father's wishes. Similar cases have emerged across the country, highlighting how personal feelings increasingly override objective reality. This mindset particularly targets mothers through "mommy media," making them feel entitled to breaks and recognition while subtly depicting motherhood as something that happened to them rather than a blessing. Popular mom influencers promote "self-care" as the highest virtue, while parenting websites and social media accounts constantly reinforce messages about "putting yourself first." While mothers do need breaks and appreciation, the underlying premise that we're entitled to rewards simply for doing our job subtly frames motherhood as something that happened to us rather than a blessing we received. The movement has even infiltrated religious spaces, where traditional teachings about sacrifice and service are being replaced with messages about self-fulfillment and personal happiness. Unlike the cult's emphasis on "not losing yourself" to motherhood, true joy comes from seeing even mundane parenting moments as opportunities to grow closer to Christ. Taking breaks isn't wrong - God designed us to need rest - but our mentality matters. When rest enables better service to God and others, it isn't self-centered but rather a means of sustainable caregiving and spiritual growth. The consequences of this self-focused worldview are evident in rising rates of anxiety, depression, and social isolation, suggesting that making the self supreme paradoxically leads to decreased well-being rather than the promised fulfillment. This cult of self-affirmation ultimately offers a hollow substitute for genuine purpose and meaningful relationships.

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Chapitre 5

The Dangerous Myth of "Your Truth"

As a child, I believed my dental sealants contained invisible Backstreet Boys stickers - a comforting lie my dental hygienist told to calm my fears. I maintained this belief for years before realizing it was false. This connects to other childhood disappointments when reality didn't match my expectations, like thinking side bangs would make boys like me or that removing braces would increase my popularity. These childhood examples illustrate how we all believe things that don't deliver on their promises of fulfillment. As adults, we don't outgrow this tendency - the lies just become more complex and consequential. Modern culture encourages us to embrace "what's true for us" even when it contradicts objective reality. Take Chloe's story - a college rape survivor who turned to alcohol, sex, and drugs to cope with her trauma. After graduating, her parents convinced her to enter rehab, where she was diagnosed with PTSD and reconnected with her Christian faith. Upon leaving rehab, she committed to sobriety and staying single while rebuilding her life. However, Chloe soon became overwhelmed by uncertainty about her future. Influenced by Instagram posts of friends traveling abroad, she became captivated by the idea of self-discovery through travel. Following accounts dedicated to wanderlust, she used her savings to buy a one-way ticket, leaving behind her family and hometown in Texas to "find herself" through global exploration. What looked inspiring on social media led to casual hookups, pregnancy, and returning home alone. Her pursuit of "her truth" only created more problems. I had a similar college experience following heartbreak - drinking, hookups, and developing an eating disorder while appearing successful externally. Without God's moral standard, we become our own gods, creating chaos. True healing only begins when we submit to God's standards rather than our feelings. The problem with "Hipster Jesus Christianity" is its denial of biblical authority in favor of personal truth. Both prosperity gospel and Hipster Jesus Christianity are "self-worship disguised as genuine faith" that focus on what we think we deserve rather than who God is.

Chapitre 6

The Perfect Imperfection Paradox

The third myth of self-love culture tells us we're perfect just as we are. This creates what I call "the paradox of perfectionism" - being told we're perfect while simultaneously being sold products and programs to help us realize that perfection. I recall my middle school awkwardness and my disastrous attempt to shape my eyebrows before school pictures. This was the beginning of what I call "the paradox of perfection" - being told we're perfect while simultaneously believing we need to change something to manifest that perfection. Popular self-help messaging exemplified by books like Jen Sincero's "You Are a Badass" claims we're perfect yet sells steps to realize this perfection. This philosophy blames external forces - society, capitalism, patriarchy - for repressing our "true perfect self," while selling the idea that self-discovery leads to self-acceptance. While acknowledging some societal expectations can be harmful, I firmly reject the premise that we're perfect deep down. Drawing from Scripture, I contrast the biblical view of two selves: the "old self" (sinful, lost, depraved) and the "new self" (redeemed by Christ). God's expectations aren't hindrances but good boundaries set by a loving Father, and recognizing our imperfection leads to necessary repentance. I also challenge the popular notion that "all feelings are valid." While feelings are real, they aren't necessarily legitimate or based in truth. I've experienced countless emotions - from teenage resentment toward my parents over curfews to jealousy of others' accomplishments - that had no basis in reality. What about feelings of worthlessness despite weight loss? Crippling anxiety over exams? Attachment to abusive partners? Lust for someone else's spouse? These feelings may be real, but they're not valid because they're not grounded in truth. Scripture warns that our hearts are "deceitful above all things" (Jeremiah 17:9). Unlike self-love culture that tells us to trust our feelings unconditionally, the Bible teaches us to subject our emotions to truth. Those worshipping the god of self have no choice but to validate every emotion, leading to selfishness and broken relationships. But Christians know God has the final say.

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Chapitre 7

The Empty Promise of Body Positivity

During my pregnancy, I gained sixty pounds - well beyond the recommended twenty-five. I wasn't particularly self-conscious until I read cruel comments on a Facebook video I'd posted: "You're freaking fat" and "Okay - there's baby weight, and then there's BABY WEIGHT." These comments devastated me. I could have sought comfort in "body positive" messages that tell me I'm perfect regardless of size. But having overcome an eating disorder in college, I knew superficial affirmation offers limited relief. Instead, I reminded myself of deeper truths: God created me with the miraculous ability to carry a child. The body positivity movement, while representing diverse body types in media, ultimately fails with its "you're perfect as you are" message. Take Angelica's story: After losing her father at eight, she sought validation through men's attention. Despite achieving her thinnest body through keto and dating frequently, she was drinking heavily every night, still empty inside. Society's solution is more self-love - positive thoughts and affirmations. But what happens when self-love runs out? When we still don't like what we see? When we've done something shameful? As Nancy Pearcey explains in "Love Thy Body," obsession with our bodies creates an adversarial relationship with them. True confidence comes from God - understanding our bodies as gifts requiring stewardship, not worship. Unlike confidence derived from others' opinions, God's confidence is permanent and real. We can exercise and diet, but motivation matters - glorifying God, not ourselves. Our identity comes not from the mirror but from who God says we are: new creations worth Christ's sacrifice. These truths are longer-lasting than the superficial lie that we're perfect as we are. We're not. And that's okay.

Chapitre 8

The Entitlement Trap

One reason I'm so familiar with self-love culture is my upbringing in the related world of self-help. My entrepreneurial parents invested heavily in leadership tapes, business books, and motivational seminars. These resources benefited me greatly, sparking my desire for public speaking and entrepreneurship. But I now recognize troubling similarities between self-help and toxic self-love culture. Both promise that doing and saying the right things guarantees success. Growing up, I assumed career success was guaranteed for me without much effort - a symptom of our age's self-centered entitlement mentality, captured in messages like "You deserve to have everything you want." In college, my motto was "Never turn down a conversation for homework" - a philosophy that served me well. I graduated with honors and was chosen to deliver the student speech at graduation. This reinforced my unconscious belief that I could achieve my dreams without trying too hard. After giving that speech, I thought, "This is what I want to do for the rest of my life." I assumed things would fall into place quickly after graduation. My first job as a publicist and social media manager quickly shattered my self-assurance. Despite having no experience writing press releases, managing clients, or understanding Twitter, I believed I'd master the job within weeks. Reality hit when I completely forgot a quarterly social media report for a client, resulting in a painful phone conversation where my boss rightfully questioned my competence. This experience taught me a valuable lesson: I'm not entitled to success, even in areas where I typically excel. The #girlboss culture makes young women feel we must be both obsessed with and fulfilled by our work. But meaningful work doesn't require finding your dream job. Colossians 3:23 says, "Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for man." God-honoring work simply needs to be done well, meet real needs, and contribute to others' good. After settling into my PR job, I never forgot the feeling I had while standing on stage at graduation. In 2015, during the presidential primaries, I created a nonpartisan presentation for sorority chapters about voting. Though unpaid, these talks confirmed my suspicion about what I was meant to do. I started a blog called "The Conservative Millennial" while working full-time, posting videos that eventually garnered hundreds of thousands of views. After moving to Texas in 2017, I joined TheBlaze and Fox News began booking me too. In 2018, I launched my podcast "Relatable" to provide biblical perspective on culture and news for women in my generation. Yet despite living my dream, my work still doesn't fulfill me completely. When I became pregnant in 2018, everything came into clearer focus. No career titles could compare to "mom" and "wife." Though I love what I do and am grateful, I've realized that success can't be my identity. Whether your dream is career-focused or family-oriented, no role or achievement can fill the God-shaped void in your heart.

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Chapitre 9

The Myth of Loving Yourself First

Victoria Osteen claims "you can't love others if you don't love yourself first," echoing her husband Joel's teaching that proper self-love enables neighbor-love. This idea has circulated in Christian circles since the 1970s through books like Walter Trobisch's "Love Yourself" and Cecil Osborne's "The Art of Learning to Love Yourself," which argued that self-esteem determines our capacity to love others. Jen Hatmaker reinforces this in "For the Love," claiming "we love people the way we love ourselves." Even Miley Cyrus questioned why we're "trained that love means putting yourself second," arguing that self-love means "you come first" - notably, her marriage ended within a year. This thinking misinterprets Jesus's command to "love your neighbor as yourself." This isn't a command to love ourselves - it assumes self-love is already innate. We're born with self-love, not necessarily as self-affection, but as instinctively pursuing our own interests. As Blaise Pascal observed, all people seek happiness without exception - it motivates all actions, even suicide, which seeks to end pain. Self-love manifests as self-gratification, self-preservation, and self-justification. As C.S. Lewis noted, "In our own case we accept excuses too easily; in other people's we do not accept them easily enough." We quickly justify our actions while condemning others for the same. The love Christians show to others, even the unlovable, reflects God's love for us. Despite our own unlovability, God made a way through Christ to have a relationship with us while we were still sinners. This frees us to love people right now rather than waiting until we feel better about ourselves. When we delay loving others because we think we need self-improvement first, we disobey God, leave needs unmet, and miss opportunities to become more like Christ. I learned this in high school through my relationship with my autistic brother Daniel, who has always been an outsider despite his kind, funny nature and love of history. At Camp Barnabas, a summer camp for people with special needs, I served as a "buddy" to campers with various disabilities. The following year, I worked as staff, co-leading a cabin and experiencing the exhaustion and joy of caring for women with diverse spiritual, emotional, and physical needs. This required self-denial and self-forgetfulness that transformed my typically self-focused teenage mindset. The lie that we must love ourselves before loving others causes us to miss life's most joyful experiences. Consider the souls untouched if missionaries waited for perfect self-love before helping others, the lives unsaved if soldiers delayed service until they could celebrate their flaws, or the homeless left without shelter if volunteers prioritized self-esteem work over lending a hand.

Chapitre 10

Finding Freedom in Self-Forgetfulness

My most miserable seasons have been defined by self-centeredness, while peace and fulfillment came when I removed myself from the center and reoriented around God and his truth. Camp Barnabas, discovering biblical wisdom in high school, turning from destructive behaviors, my marriage, and motherhood - these brought contentment through sacrifice and acknowledging my inadequacy. Marriage offers joy that self-focused delay denies us. I met Timothy at a gym, and after weeks of conversation, I just knew he was my husband - we were engaged in five months and married four months later. We didn't wait until we "loved ourselves" to choose each other. Marriage isn't the goal of Christian life, but it's one beautiful path of sacrifice. Parenthood completely transforms your universe. Every decision revolves around your child's well-being - from bathroom breaks to meals. Your schedule centers on naps, feedings, baths, and diaper changes while juggling other obligations. I remember taking that pregnancy test after five months of trying, seeing "Pregnant" and being doubled over in disbelief. Though motherhood leaves me with virtually no time for myself (I wrote parts of this book at 2 a.m.), I wouldn't trade the sleepless nights and diapers for anything. God has humbled me through motherhood, bringing me to my knees as I ask for things I can't provide myself. Making ourselves the center of our universe leads to confusion and chaos. It convinces us of our "enoughness" only to disappoint when that proves a mirage. It tells us we determine our own truth but leaves us unable to distinguish right from wrong. It pushes us toward unattainable perfection and promises dreams we "deserve," causing bitterness when they don't materialize. Following Jesus isn't about self-love but self-forgetfulness - taking up our crosses to follow him. As Tim Keller explains, "gospel-humility is not thinking more of myself or thinking less of myself, it is thinking of myself less." This self-forgetfulness brings blessed rest, freeing us from constantly connecting everything to ourselves. Instead of exhausting self-esteem that depends on changing factors like job performance or weight, we choose self-forgetfulness and replace self-love with God's unchanging love based on our salvation in Christ. Through self-forgetfulness in Christ and humble obedience, we find the "enoughness" we've been seeking all along.

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Thèmes clés dans Tu ne te suffis pas

theological self-acceptance
self-help critique
modern secularism
spiritual dependency
toxic positivity

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The more we focus on ourselves, the more miserable we become.
Self-love is inherently unsatisfying.
Self-love is unreliable, conditional, and limited.
The self can't be both our problem and our solution.
When we place ourselves on the throne of our lives, we end up exhausted and confused.

Personnages de Tu ne te suffis pas

Allie Beth StuckeyAuthor and podcast host who shares her story
CecilyMother who struggled with the burden of self-care
LizzoSinger used as a case study for self-love culture

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Allie Beth Stuckey, auteure à succès de You’re Not Enough (And That’s Okay): Escaping the Toxic Culture of Self-Love, est une commentatrice conservatrice chrétienne, animatrice de podcast et conférencière de renom. Elle est reconnue pour ses critiques incisives des idéologies progressistes.

Son travail mêle avec brio théologie, analyse culturelle et sagesse pratique, remettant en question les récits modernes de développement personnel à l'aide de la vérité biblique. Diplômée en communication, Stuckey anime le podcast quotidien Relatable sur Blaze Media, où elle décortique la politique, la foi et la culture pour plus de 143 000 abonnés sur Apple Podcasts.

Elle apparaît fréquemment sur Fox News et a témoigné devant le Congrès en 2019 sur les politiques anti-avortement. Son prochain livre, Toxic Empathy (octobre 2024), approfondit son exploration d'une vie centrée sur la vérité.

Née en 1992, les réflexions de Stuckey sont issues de son parcours éducatif chrétien et de son militantisme, incluant des discours sur les campus en faveur du mouvement pro-vie et de l'engagement politique conservateur. You’re Not Enough est devenu un texte fondamental dans les cercles chrétiens, salué pour son apologie contre-culturelle de la grâce face à l'autosuffisance.

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Tu ne te suffis pas

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The Self-Love Myth That's Keeping You Stuck

When Self-Love Becomes Self-Destruction

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The Dead End of Self-Sufficiency

The Cult of Self-Affirmation

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The Dangerous Myth of "Your Truth"

The Perfect Imperfection Paradox

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The Empty Promise of Body Positivity

The Entitlement Trap

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The Myth of Loving Yourself First

Finding Freedom in Self-Forgetfulness

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The Self-Love Myth That's Keeping You Stuck

When Self-Love Becomes Self-Destruction

Voyez chaque mot au fil de l'écoute

The Dead End of Self-Sufficiency

The Cult of Self-Affirmation

Profitez davantage de Tu ne te suffis pas

The Dangerous Myth of "Your Truth"

The Perfect Imperfection Paradox

Voyez chaque mot au fil de l'écoute

The Empty Promise of Body Positivity

The Entitlement Trap

Profitez davantage de Tu ne te suffis pas

The Myth of Loving Yourself First

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