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I Hate You—Don't Leave Me
Jerold J. Kreisman
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The first book to demystify Borderline Personality Disorder for mainstream audiences, this groundbreaking classic has transformed mental health conversations for three decades. Dr. Kreisman's pioneering work, endorsed by leading specialists, reveals why emotional turbulence creates the ultimate relationship paradox.

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The Emotional Tightrope: Understanding Borderline Personality

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Imagine lacking emotional blood-clotting factors-where the slightest psychological wound causes you to bleed out emotionally. This is life with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). You've likely encountered people with these traits: the friend who ends relationships over perceived slights then acts as if nothing happened; the boss who alternates between lavish praise and harsh criticism; or the acquaintance who drastically changes their appearance and relationship commitments weekly. What defines these individuals is inconsistency-they are emotional chameleons, adapting to environments with remarkable fluidity. At the core of their experience is "splitting"-the rigid separation of positive and negative thoughts. While most people experience ambivalence, borderlines shift between contradictory emotional states, entirely unaware of one state while immersed in another. Their world contains only heroes and villains with no middle ground. This black-and-white thinking extends to relationships, where they desperately seek connections because solitude is intolerable, yet simultaneously fear intimacy. Too much closeness threatens suffocation while distance triggers abandonment fears. Like explorers with sketchy maps, they cannot gauge optimal distance from others, bouncing between clinging dependency and angry manipulation.

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The Perfect Storm: How BPD Develops

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A Reflection of Our Times: BPD and Society

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Speaking the Borderline Language: Effective Communication

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Living with the Borderline: Practical Strategies

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The Healing Journey: Treatment Approaches

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Finding the Middle Path: The Journey to Integration

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