What is *Boys & Sex* by Peggy Orenstein about?

*Boys & Sex* explores modern masculinity through interviews with over 100 young men, examining topics like pornography, consent, race, and emotional vulnerability. Peggy Orenstein highlights how societal norms and "bro culture" shape boys’ attitudes toward sex, relationships, and self-expression, while advocating for open dialogue and healthier sexual education.

Who should read *Boys & Sex*?

Parents, educators, therapists, and policymakers will benefit from this book, as it provides critical insights into the challenges boys face navigating sexuality and identity. It’s also valuable for teenagers and young adults seeking to understand societal pressures around masculinity and consent.

Is *Boys & Sex* worth reading?

Yes. Orenstein’s research-driven approach combines candid interviews with analysis of toxic masculinity, porn’s influence, and racial stereotypes. The book offers actionable solutions for fostering healthier conversations about sex, making it essential for anyone invested in youth development.

How does *Boys & Sex* address consent?

The book frames consent as an ongoing dialogue, emphasizing sober communication and mutual check-ins. Orenstein critiques misconceptions, such as assuming silence equals agreement, and highlights how alcohol complicates consent dynamics. Real-life anecdotes illustrate the need for explicit, enthusiastic mutual understanding.

What role does pornography play in *Boys & Sex*?

Porn is cited as a primary source of sexual education for many boys, leading to unrealistic expectations about performance and body image. Orenstein links frequent porn consumption to aggressive sexual behaviors and anxiety, urging critical discussions to distinguish fantasy from reality.

How does *Boys & Sex* explore race and masculinity?

Boys of color describe facing stereotypes—Black men are hypersexualized, while Asian men are desexualized. Orenstein analyzes how media representations and cultural biases compound these pressures, emphasizing the need for inclusive communities to challenge harmful norms.

What does *Boys & Sex* say about emotional vulnerability?

Many boys struggle to express emotions, often defaulting to humor or confiding only in girlfriends. Orenstein ties this to "bro culture," which stigmatizes vulnerability and burdens women with emotional labor. The book calls for redefining masculinity to prioritize emotional openness.

How does *Boys & Sex* critique toxic masculinity?

The book links toxic masculinity to peer pressure, frat culture, and performative hyper-sexuality. Orenstein interviews boys who’ve enacted abuse, revealing how unchecked norms escalate into harm. Solutions include mentorship programs and redefining strength beyond dominance.

Garçons et Sexe

Les jeunes hommes face aux aventures d'un soir, à l'amour, au porno, au consentement et à la navigation au sein de la nouvelle masculinité

Peggy Orenstein

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Chapitre 1

Unveiling the Hidden World of Boys' Sexual Development

When the #MeToo movement exploded across America, it exposed not just individual acts of misconduct but an entire culture in crisis. Suddenly, parents who once felt "relieved" to have sons realized they faced perhaps the more challenging task-raising good men in a world where masculinity was increasingly described as "toxic" and "broken." This revelation prompted award-winning journalist Peggy Orenstein, already renowned for her groundbreaking work on girls' development, to turn her investigative lens toward boys. The result, "Boys & Sex," quickly became a cultural phenomenon, praised by educators and psychologists alike for its unflinching examination of young masculinity. Even former President Barack Obama included it on his 2020 summer reading list, recognizing its vital contribution to understanding the challenges facing young men today. Through intimate conversations with over 100 young men aged 16-22 across America, Orenstein uncovers a generation caught between old masculine ideals and new expectations-boys who desperately want guidance but rarely receive it from the adults in their lives.

Chapitre 2

The Narrow Path to Manhood

For young men across America, the journey to manhood follows a remarkably narrow path. Despite holding seemingly progressive views about gender equality in public spheres, boys described a definition of masculinity that remains stubbornly rooted in the 1950s-centered on emotional stoicism, dominance, athleticism, wealth, and sexual conquest. Nearly 60% reported their parents, especially fathers, as the primary enforcers of these restrictive expectations. Cole, a self-described "typical tall, white athlete guy" headed to a military academy, articulated this struggle perfectly. Though proud of his feminist girlfriend, he confided his early anxieties about male friendship: "I could talk to girls platonically...but being around guys was different. Because I needed to be a 'bro,' and I didn't know how to do that." Eventually finding his place on a crew team, Cole witnessed the toxic aspects of male bonding-senior teammates engaging in misogynistic locker room talk while he remained silent, afraid to spend his precious "social currency" by speaking up. This emotional restriction creates profound loneliness. Many boys described building psychological "walls" to hide vulnerability, comparing showing feelings to taboos like incest. Though born with the same capacity for emotional expression as girls, boys are quickly socialized to suppress all emotions except anger. By kindergarten, they've learned to disconnect from feelings and become more hierarchical in their interactions. The inability to cry or express vulnerability becomes a source of shame and isolation, with strict cultural rules about when men can acceptably shed tears. The consequences extend beyond emotional health. Boys often quit sports teams they loved because of oppressive "bro culture" demanding they prove toughness through misogynistic language and homophobia. In locker rooms, words like "pussy" and "bitch" remain common insults, while "fag" polices masculinity by punishing any display of emotion or vulnerability. Sexual conquest becomes the third pillar of toxic masculinity, with boys using violent language ("destroyed," "slammed") to describe sex-not to discuss pleasure but to assert power through the dehumanization of female partners. This language reveals how male bonding often occurs through shared misogyny, creating a culture where even well-intentioned young men like Cole find themselves increasingly desensitized to troubling behaviors they once opposed. The pressure to conform overwhelms their better instincts, leaving them questioning whether passive resistance-simply being "a decent guy" and "leading by example"-is enough to make a difference.

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Chapitre 3

The Pornography Education

Today's young men are unwitting subjects in a massive experiment-the first generation with unlimited access to online pornography from their earliest developmental stages. Unlike previous generations who might have glimpsed the occasional magazine, anyone with internet access can instantly view endless explicit content across countless categories. When Pornhub launched in 2007, it revolutionized access by allowing free viewing and sharing of videos, creating what amounts to a virtual monopoly through parent company MindGeek. Most boys first encounter porn between ages 9-13, often involuntarily through older brothers or friends, before they've even experienced masturbation. What begins as disturbing soon becomes compelling, with many learning masturbation entirely in tandem with porn. This creates a troubling foundation for their sexual development-one boy's friend who could masturbate using only imagination was considered "legendary" among peers. The content they consume typically portrays sex as something men do to rather than with women, shot from the male perspective and reflecting traditional gender dynamics. With 100 million daily visitors to Pornhub alone, these images shape young people's erotic imaginations before their first real sexual experiences. Research shows teenagers consume significantly more porn, and harder-core porn, than their parents realize. Mason's experience illustrates this perfectly. With parents who never discussed sex and a father who modeled disrespect toward women, he began his porn journey in seventh grade by Googling "Playboy." His curiosity escalated from simple nudity to increasingly extreme content, eventually consuming an hour of porn daily-watching everywhere from his bedroom to school bathrooms to the family car. Despite never having kissed a girl, porn warped his expectations, making him believe "hot women" might randomly appear demanding sex. Similarly, Daniel, despite having feminist parents and valuing "spiritual" intimacy in relationships, struggled to reconcile his values with his porn habits. He found himself unable to orgasm during intimate sex with his girlfriend but could climax during aggressive encounters. Both boys' experiences reveal how porn becomes the default sex educator, creating disconnects between stated values and sexual behaviors. While some young men eventually reject explicit media as dehumanizing, many believe it doesn't affect them-though decades of research contradicts this assumption. Media psychology shows that what we consume becomes part of our psyches, unconsciously affecting feelings, thoughts, and behaviors. Studies reveal porn correlates with both liberalizing effects (supporting same-sex marriage) and concerning ones: less support for gender equality, earlier sexual activity, more partners, higher pregnancy rates, more positive views of sexual aggression, and increased engagement in riskier behaviors. Perhaps most troubling is how pornography desensitizes young men to "lighter" aggression during sex-slapping, choking, hair-pulling-which they often don't even register as violent. This desensitization extends beyond porn to media across all platforms, from Adult Swim cartoons to video games to hip-hop, all "priming" boys to objectify women in ways that correlate with higher rates of sexism and "rape-supportive" attitudes.

Chapitre 4

Navigating Hookup Culture's Unwritten Rules

At a typical college pregame party, students drink from Dixie cups while blasting music, the atmosphere buzzing with alcohol-fueled confidence and sexual tension. When conversation turns to sexual assault, several young men insist that men at their school are "respectful" unlike those at "Big Ten schools." They emphasize the importance of "communication" with partners, though when questioned, they admit this rarely happens in practice. Two contradictory narratives exist about young people's sex lives today: either they're virtually celibate, lost in screen-mediated lives, or they're constantly bed-hopping in an app-fueled bacchanal. The truth lies somewhere in between. Students are having less vaginal intercourse than 25 years ago, though oral and anal sex have become more common. The term "hookup" itself is intentionally vague, encompassing anything from making out to intercourse. This ambiguity leads students to overestimate their peers' sexual activities, creating pressure and FOMO. According to the Online College Social Life Survey of over 20,000 students, about three-quarters will hook up at least once by senior year, averaging seven to eight partners total-roughly one per semester. Forty percent hook up fewer than three times throughout college, 25% never hook up, and 20% hook up ten times or more. The real shift isn't hookups themselves but "hookup culture"-the expectation that casual sex precedes rather than follows emotional intimacy. Most students see hooking up as the first step toward relationships, though few hookups lead there. This leaves many feeling disappointed and confused, with 85% reporting ambivalence about hookup culture and one-third describing intimate relationships as "traumatic." Alcohol plays a crucial role, creating what sociologist Lisa Wade calls "compulsory carelessness." Students deliberately get drunk to establish indifference-hooking up sober signals seriousness. This creates dangerous situations where students must be "wasted enough to want to do it but sober enough to consent," a precarious balance that puts both parties at risk. While both genders struggle with hookup culture, it generally advantages boys by aligning with conventional masculinity: conquest over connection, sex as status-seeking. This contributes to a significant "orgasm gap"-only 29-53% of women climax in hookups versus 56-81% of men. This gap narrows in relationships, attributed to greater familiarity, better communication, sobriety, and emotional investment from male partners. Post-hookup communication becomes a complex game with unwritten rules. As Caleb explains, "I hate texting girls. It's more anxiety-provoking than the actual hookup." Every aspect becomes fraught with meaning-the timing between messages, word choice, even spelling decisions. The communication hierarchy reveals different levels of interest-DMs are most casual and purely sexual, while texting signals genuine interest. Many maintain emotional distance after hookups, avoiding eye contact when passing on campus. This performance of detachment follows sociologist Lisa Wade's observation that partners are expected to be less friendly after a hookup, with the first person to "catch feelings" considered the "loser." Wyatt, a handsome junior at a predominantly female liberal arts college, embodies these contradictions. As a rare straight male dance major, he benefits from what his campus calls "Golden Dick Syndrome"-the overwhelming attention from women. Despite leading consent workshops and being scrupulous about asking permission, Wyatt has had countless hookups, explicitly stating he wants only casual sex and "floating away" when partners show emotional interest. When confronted about his behavior, he realizes he's become "a feminist fuckboy"-someone who "says all the right things, but still treats women badly." Over time, Wyatt grows disillusioned with hookup culture's "businesslike" nature, tired of treating partners like objects and feeling like one himself. When he eventually falls in love, he discovers the difference between transactional hookups and meaningful connection: "having sex with someone you love, with this person who's happy that it's me, Wyatt, her boyfriend, not just some body? That's amazing."

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Chapitre 5

Beyond the Binary: LGBTQ+ Experiences

Zane's journey toward sexual self-discovery begins during his freshman year of college when he unexpectedly kisses another boy at a party. Initially identifying as bisexual, by spring he recognizes he's only sexually attracted to men. Coming from a Baptist background where he learned to "pray away the gay," this self-discovery represents a significant break from his conservative upbringing. For transgender men like Devon, the path involves additional complexities. During treatment for an eating disorder, Devon had an epiphany while noticing his "man jeans"-realizing his body discomfort wasn't about weight but gender. After seeing a 13-year-old trans boy at a workshop who reminded him of himself, Devon "started bawling" with recognition. He began hormone therapy and eventually had top surgery, which brought tremendous relief. Devon noted the stark difference in how he's treated now versus when he presented as female, particularly appreciating freedom from harassment. On his swim team, he confronted teammates about sexist jokes, explaining his unique perspective from having lived as female. The team captain listened, and over time, Devon saw positive changes in team culture. Both young men navigate dating apps with increasing self-awareness. After a disturbing encounter with a man who physically restrained him and ignored his boundaries, Zane deleted the apps, traumatized by how it affected subsequent hookups. Months later, he experienced what he called his "healthiest sex in ten months" through Grindr-a connection marked by conversation, gradual intimacy, and mutual attentiveness. This experience led him to question hookup culture's emphasis on anonymous encounters, finding that "demanding more intimacy actually feels subversive" within gay culture. Devon struggled with disclosure ethics in hookup culture and dating apps, uncertain when or how to reveal his transgender status. His sexual journey transformed when he met Mia, who made him feel truly desired as a man. Devon believes all men would benefit from questioning gender: "I am required to answer 'What does it mean to be transgender?' But what does it really mean to be straight? What does it mean to be cis?" This self-reflection creates space for exploring identity beyond rigid norms.

Chapitre 6

Navigating Race and Masculinity

At a large Midwestern university, Xavier and Emmett, two African American freshmen, regularly face skepticism about their right to be on campus, with Emmett frequently stopped by security guards demanding proof he's a student. The author acknowledges the uneven playing field in higher education, where only 40% of African American men graduate from predominantly white colleges within six years, facing financial pressure, isolation, racism, and cultural expectations to assimilate rather than be included. At twelve, Xavier received a full scholarship to an exclusive private school-an escape from his low-income neighborhood. Before starting, his mother showed him the Rodney King beating video, saying, "I'm not showing you this to scare you, but to show you what you're about to walk into"-a preparation no white classmate received. As the only boy of color in his grade, Xavier struggled to connect with classmates who "demonized" him as "this big, black guy who acted sort of funny." While African American boys often integrate more easily than girls in white schools-viewed as "cool" and "street smart" while girls are labeled "loud" or "ghetto"-Xavier and his friend Aidan found themselves measured against commercialized stereotypes of Black hypermasculinity that bore little resemblance to their actual identities as an Eagle Scout and consent advocate. Spencer, a twenty-year-old Korean American college student, found his racial identity suddenly more salient in the Midwest after growing up in a diverse California suburb. Despite being athletic and personable, he struggled with dating in college. Having only had sex twice (both drunken encounters with white women), Spencer admitted preferring white women partly because dating them made him feel "special" and "not the typical Asian guy." This preference reflected broader patterns of racial bias in dating-OkCupid data showed Asian men consistently rated least attractive, even by women claiming openness to all races. Spencer's relationship with his own identity was complicated; he sometimes felt "racist to your own kind," disgusted by peers who seemed to embody Asian stereotypes. He worked to defy these stereotypes through sports and dating white women, yet still encountered microaggressions, like when white men at a concert called him and another Asian friend "strange little fellows" until realizing they were with white friends. Young men of color also face unique risks in sexual encounters. Xavier witnessed two incidents at his high school where boys of color were expelled for sexual misconduct with white girls. While not disputing their actions, Xavier questioned whether white boys would have received the same harsh punishments. This disparity triggered historical fears about Black men being punished disproportionately for alleged crimes against white women. Research suggests Black men at predominantly white institutions are more likely to be reported for sexual assault and face formal hearings. For young men of color like Xavier and his friend Aidan, this reality created constant anxiety. "It feels like you always have to be on edge and watch yourself," Aidan explained, "because you never know who you can trust and at any moment your life could be taken away." This fear led both to avoid parties and drinking, with Aidan noting he felt particularly vulnerable when hooking up with white girls who didn't understand his need for explicit consent.

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Chapitre 7

Consent, Misconduct, and Accountability

The modern debate over sexual consent intensified in 2011 when the Obama administration reminded universities of their Title IX responsibilities regarding sexual misconduct. Studies revealed that 23.1% of female college students experienced sexual assault through force or incapacitation. By 2014, California mandated "affirmative consent" standards at public universities, requiring "affirmative, conscious, and voluntary" agreement at each stage of intimate encounters. This "yes means yes" approach marked a dramatic shift from previous norms. Young men's responses vary widely-some find affirmative consent "really hot," while others avoid initiating sexual activity out of fear. Research by Nicole Bedera found that while most college men could define affirmative consent and claimed to practice it, only 13% actually engaged in conversations about intentions during hookups. When confronted with this contradiction, men typically expanded their definition of consent rather than questioning their behavior, sometimes rationalizing actions that met legal criteria for assault. They demonstrate a sophisticated understanding of sexual refusal despite claiming they "can't tell" or "aren't mind readers," yet they're remarkably perceptive about perceived sexual invitations. This selective perception intensifies with alcohol, as men overestimate women's sexual interest and underestimate their own responsibility. Despite evidence to the contrary, society still believes only "monsters" commit assault. Even young men who've crossed serious boundaries describe themselves as "good guys." Elite white men often employ what sociologists call the "good guy defense," exemplified by Brock Turner's case, where his father described a six-month sentence for sexual assault as "a steep price for twenty minutes of action." Liam, an eighteen-year-old high school graduate, reveals how he used hookups to gain social status among his peers. With 51 hookups (though only four involving intercourse), he admits treating girls as "numbers" to brag about rather than people. Despite claiming to be "communicative and compassionate," he acknowledges problematic behaviors like pushing girls' heads down during oral sex. Liam recounts a troubling incident where he had sex with a girl at camp without clear consent. Though she didn't say no, she also didn't say yes. After hooking up a few more times, she abruptly stopped speaking to him. Initially feeling victimized, he's now grappling with the realization that he "took advantage of her" but struggles with how to categorize his actions compared to more "forceful, aggressive" assaults. Sameer's story illustrates how young men can change. Raised as the only boy among five children, he received minimal guidance about sex and relationships. On his eighteenth birthday, his uncles and cousins initiated him into manhood by taking him clubbing, instructing him to "just go up and start dancing on" attractive girls and try to "bang each and every piece of ass" he could. At a fraternity party, circumstances left a young woman named Anwen stranded without her belongings. Through manipulation and persistence, Sameer convinced her to go to his room. Despite her clearly stating "I don't want to have sex with you," he pushed physical boundaries, eventually coercing her into oral sex. A year later, after attending training about power-based violence, Sameer recognized his actions as assault. When Anwen filed a complaint, she wanted a different approach than the standard disciplinary proceeding. The school's director of student conduct proposed using restorative justice (RJ) practices. Unlike conventional disciplinary proceedings where a panel determines punishment, RJ seeks to "repair harm" through a collaborative process involving all affected parties. Over a semester, they prepared to meet. Anwen shared everything she'd written about the incident-poems, essays, journal entries, her formal impact statement. Reading these was devastating for Sameer: "I saw that what I had thought was an 'awkward hookup' where I was trying to be kind of a teacher was, for her, an account of fear and discomfort and violation and-just pain." Together they developed a plan. Sameer would tell his story publicly: writing an article for a campus magazine under his real name, co-writing a spoken-word piece with Anwen for consent training, and speaking for this book. He also attempted to educate other men about consent and began challenging his male friends' hookup narratives. Today, Sameer rejects when people minimize his actions, saying "forcing someone to do sexual things against her will, emotionally manipulating her, wasn't that bad?" He continues working toward seeing himself as "a person who has done bad things, not just as a bad person" while actively striving to be better.

Chapitre 8

Understanding Male Victimization

At seventeen, Dylan experienced a traumatic incident at a party after consuming excessive alcohol. While unconscious, his friend Julia, who was not drinking, took advantage of his incapacitated state. Upon learning what occurred the next day, Dylan expressed his distress about the unwanted encounter, but his concerns were dismissed with harmful stereotypes about male consent. Research demonstrates that young men report experiences of relationship violence at frequencies comparable to young women. A significant study revealed that approximately 12.5% of male college students had experienced sexual victimization, with female perpetrators accounting for more than 60% of cases. This reality challenges societal assumptions about consent and gender. Dylan, despite his athletic build and leadership role as soccer captain, felt unable to discuss his experience with family due to cultural and religious expectations. His mother's strict religious views and father's traditional masculinity created barriers to communication. His emotional response manifested in behavioral changes, cycling through anger, sadness, and shame about his feelings. Similar experiences affected other young men. Leo, a high school senior, encountered an non-consensual situation while under the influence, leading to anxiety disorders and increased substance use. Many males minimize such experiences, categorizing them as unfortunate learning moments rather than acknowledging their impact. Sociologist Jessie Ford's research reveals how social pressure and masculine stereotypes often lead college men to participate in unwanted intimate encounters. While both males and females experience unwanted advances, research indicates that women face additional challenges including threats of physical harm and generally report more severe psychological consequences. Dylan's journey toward healing began when he shared his experience with supportive male friends. However, he faced continued challenges in romantic relationships, including a partner who perpetuated harmful myths about male victimization. Eventually, he found acceptance with a compassionate girlfriend who provided emotional support during his recovery process. The experience culminated in a breakthrough moment six months into his current relationship, when Dylan finally expressed his suppressed emotions. His girlfriend's empathetic response marked a significant step in his healing journey, demonstrating the importance of supportive relationships in recovery.

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Chapitre 9

Creating a Better Path Forward

While restorative justice shows promise, it remains a reactive approach. Until young people receive proper education about gender, consent, ethics, and relationships, we'll remain stuck in damage control. Though schools should integrate these lessons, only twenty-four states mandate sex education, with just ten requiring medical accuracy. Parents need ongoing conversations about intimacy rather than a single ten-minute "talk." These discussions should evolve in complexity as children mature, covering not just biology but what it means to be a caring, respectful partner. Parents must understand and clearly communicate that consent must be affirmative, knowing, ongoing, revocable, and freely given. Consent makes sex legal but doesn't make it ethical or good. Ethical sex considers everyone's wellbeing, including those affected by the actions. Good sex requires understanding female bodies and responses. Beyond mechanics, young people want guidance on emotional intimacy-how to build relationships, manage conflict, and handle breakups. Parents must challenge the unwritten rules of male socialization that promote entitlement, emotional suppression, and hostility toward femininity. Though the "man box" offers rewards, it ultimately traps boys, sabotaging authenticity and promoting isolation and violence. Close relationships are key to wellbeing, but male conditioning numbs boys emotionally. By adulthood, most men struggle to identify their own emotions (alexithymia), with mothers typically using richer emotional language with infant daughters than sons. Parents can no longer avoid discussing porn with sons. Beyond dismissing it as "unrealistic," explain specifically how porn distorts sexuality: performers are paid to fake enjoyment; bodies and behaviors aren't typical; content often eroticizes inequality and racism; and it can create false expectations and hijack sexual imagination. While Americans typically forbid teen sex "under my roof," Dutch parents normalize sexuality within committed relationships, allowing them more control over their children's behavior. Dutch teens begin sex education at age four, focusing on body awareness and respect, and consequently become sexually active later than Americans, have fewer partners, use more contraception, and report more positive first experiences. All-male groups can sometimes foster aggression and misogyny. When considering colleges, boys should investigate alternatives to Greek life and research fraternity reputations thoroughly. Fraternity members are up to three times more likely to commit sexual assault, often because fraternities validate pre-existing problematic attitudes. Similarly, athletes are overrepresented in sexual misconduct cases. Coaches must establish zero tolerance for degrading talk about women, sexual misconduct, and homophobic language. Research shows that coach-led discussions about respect and consent significantly reduce dating violence among high school athletes. Through these conversations and interventions, we can help young men develop healthier relationships with themselves, their bodies, and their partners-creating a generation of men who understand that true masculinity lies not in dominance or emotional suppression but in authenticity, empathy, and genuine connection.

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Thèmes clés dans Garçons et Sexe

modern masculinity
hookup culture
pornography consumption
emotional stoicism
male socialization

Citations de Garçons et Sexe

Masculinity was increasingly described as 'toxic' and 'broken.'
The journey to manhood follows a remarkably narrow path.
Showing feelings [is like] taboos like incest.
Porn becomes the default sex educator.
What we consume becomes part of our psyches.

Personnages de Garçons et Sexe

Peggy OrensteinAuthor and journalist investigating masculinity
ColeStudent athlete struggling with 'bro culture'
MasonYoung man whose expectations were warped by porn

À propos de l'auteur

Peggy Orenstein est l'auteure à succès du New York Times de Boys & Sex, une exploration révolutionnaire de la masculinité moderne et de la sexualité des adolescents masculins.

Journaliste de renom et experte des questions de genre, Orenstein a passé des décennies à enquêter sur les forces culturelles qui façonnent la vie des jeunes. Son travail, notamment le livre compagnon Girls & Sex et l'influent Cinderella Ate My Daughter, mêle une recherche rigoureuse à des entretiens sincères pour remettre en question les normes sociétales entourant le genre et l'intimité.

Collaboratrice fréquente du The New York Times Magazine et de NPR, la conférence TED d'Orenstein de 2016 sur le plaisir sexuel féminin a été visionnée plus de 6 millions de fois, consolidant son statut de voix de premier plan sur le développement de la jeunesse. Reconnue par la Columbia Journalism Review comme l'une des « 40 femmes qui ont changé le secteur des médias », elle allie profondeur d'investigation et narration compatissante.

Boys & Sex approfondit son examen de la dynamique de genre, offrant des perspectives cruciales sur le consentement, la littératie émotionnelle et l'évolution des définitions de la masculinité. Les livres d'Orenstein ont été traduits dans de nombreuses langues et sont largement cités dans les communautés éducatives et parentales.

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