The Coaching Habit: 7 Questions to Lead Better
Stop giving advice and start asking questions. Learn how to tame your inner advice monster and use curiosity to build a more independent, focused team.
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The secret to impactful leadership isn't having better answers—it's about staying curious a little bit longer, saying less, and asking more.
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The Advice Monster is a metaphorical term for the natural reflex leaders have to provide immediate solutions and orders when someone presents a problem. While it feels helpful, this behavior creates a "vicious circle" of over-dependence where team members stop thinking for themselves and the leader becomes overwhelmed by being the sole problem solver. Taming this monster requires staying curious longer and resisting the urge to offer advice prematurely.
This question, known as the AWE question, is powerful because the first challenge someone mentions is rarely the actual root issue; it is usually just the "vanguard" problem that is easiest to talk about. By asking "And what else?" multiple times, a leader gives the other person space to explore deeper layers of a situation. This shifts the cognitive load to the team member, training them to think strategically while preventing the leader from wasting time solving the wrong problem.
The Focus Question—"What’s the real challenge here for you?"—acts as a surgical tool to cut through noise and "Small Talk Tangos." By adding the specific phrase "for you," the leader forces the individual to move away from complaining about external systems or other people and instead take ownership of their specific struggle. This helps identify the one thing that, if resolved, would provide the most significant relief and progress.
The Lazy Question is "How can I help?" or the more direct "What do you want from me?" It is considered strategic because it prevents a leader from "jumping in" and doing the work for someone else. By forcing the other person to make a specific request, the leader avoids assuming a role they aren't needed for—such as fixing a budget when the person only needed a quick approval—thereby empowering the employee and protecting the leader's own schedule.
To make learning stick, leaders should use the "Learning Question" at the end of an interaction: "What was most useful for you?" This prompt forces the team member to reflect, retrieve information, and articulate a specific insight, which neuroscience suggests helps wire new information into the brain. It also provides a feedback loop for the leader to understand what resonated most, turning a standard transaction into a transformative learning moment.
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