I'd Like You More If You Were More like Me by John Ortberg Summary
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Ortberg's guide to authentic connection tackles our deepest intimacy fears with biblical wisdom and psychological insight. Holding a 4.1/5 Goodreads rating, this book reveals why vulnerability - not similarity - creates the profound connections we secretly crave but rarely achieve.
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When Your Favorite Chair Says More Than Words and the Myths That Keep Us Distant
Think about your dinner table. Not the furniture itself, but who sits where. Nobody assigned those seats, yet everyone knows their spot. Your dad's chair at the head. Mom's place closest to the kitchen. The corner where your teenager hunches over their phone. These invisible boundaries aren't about territory - they're about something deeper. Having a place at the table means you belong. You're known. You're in. This simple truth unlocks something profound about human nature: we're wired for connection in ways we rarely acknowledge. Watch a newborn lock eyes with their mother, or elderly couples shuffling arm-in-arm through grocery stores, and you'll see it - this desperate, beautiful need to be known and loved despite our flaws. Yet here's the paradox: the very thing we crave most terrifies us. Intimacy requires vulnerability, and vulnerability means someone can use their knowledge of us either to embrace us or wound us. It demands we admit neediness when everything in us screams to appear strong and self-sufficient. Whether you're an extrovert or introvert, whether you realize it or not, you were made for this kind of connection. With it, you can face anything. Without it, even your greatest achievements taste like dust. Unlike old Model T cars that lacked gas gauges, people don't come with visible intimacy meters. Yet we all carry an emotional tank waiting to be filled with love. Several myths keep this tank perpetually low, starting with the belief that intimacy should be easy. It's not. Moving from Scotland with his wife, where they'd built a solid relationship, to having children, the author discovered early parenthood was like a grenade exploding their marriage into something entirely different. Just when you reach a happy place, something changes - new roles, aging parents, difficult coworkers. Another myth suggests intimacy erases your identity, like blowing out individual candles after lighting the unity candle at weddings. But true intimacy differs from fusion. Fusion occurs when boundaries disappear and one person's neediness consumes the other. Healthy intimacy enhances rather than erases identity - two flames burning brighter together. Perhaps the biggest myth equates intimacy with sex. Sex is physical; intimacy is emotional investment. When combined, they're extraordinary, but prioritizing physical over emotional leads to problems.
The 10,000-Hour Apprenticeship in Love and What Shared Experience Really Means
The Architecture of Attachment, the Bids That Build Connection, and the Secret of Feeling Felt
Islands of Certainty, the Walls That Separate Us, and the Barriers We Build
When Your Limp Becomes Your Strength and Vulnerability Makes You Real
From Rupture to Repair and the Power of Creating Your Private Culture
Bring in the Love, Find Your Place at the Table, and Become Real
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"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."
"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."
"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."
"BeFreed replaced my podcast queue. Imagine Spotify for books — that’s it. 🙌"
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