Unselfing: Iris Murdoch’s Philosophy on Quietening the Ego
Explore Iris Murdoch’s philosophy of unselfing. Learn how to quiet the relentless ego and internal noise through a gladsome relaxing into the reality of the world.
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Love is the extremely difficult realization that something other than oneself is real; it is the patient act of seeing without trying to rearrange the other person to fit your own narrative.
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Unselfing is a philosophical concept introduced by Iris Murdoch that describes the sudden silence of the self. It occurs when an individual shifts focus away from their own internal noise, anxieties, and wounded pride to truly see the reality of the world around them. This shift allows the internal chatter to stop, replacing the projection of the ego with a direct and clear perception of external existence, such as the sight of a hovering kestrel.
Iris Murdoch characterizes the ego as a 'fat, relentless ego' that acts like a hungry machine. It is constantly looking after its own interests, daydreaming to avoid reality, and weaving a veil of fantasy to protect the individual from pain. This ego often keeps us trapped in a cycle of resentment and reputation-based anxiety, preventing us from engaging with the world as it actually is beyond our personal projections.
A gladsome relaxing of the spirit refers to the positive and non-punitive nature of unselfing. Rather than being a chore or involving self-hatred, it is a refreshing release from the burden of the self. This process allows a person to relax into the reality of the world, quieting the 'fifty tabs' of mental anxiety and ego-driven distractions to find a sense of peace and clarity in the present moment.
No, unselfing is not about hating yourself or becoming a doormat. While modern culture often focuses on finding oneself or building self-esteem, Murdoch’s philosophy suggests that the ego is actually a hurdle to living a good life. Unselfing is the opposite of self-obsession; it is the practice of quieting the internal noise so that you can see the world clearly without the interference of your own pride or fantasies.
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