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Legacy of Brotherhood: When One Falls, Another Rises
Amos Benjamin stands as a towering figure, both physically and symbolically. As one of twelve children from northeast Ohio, he grew up idolizing his oldest brother Adam, who seemed larger than life - a uniformed Marine with medals who would suddenly appear between long deployments with stories about Malta, the Mediterranean, Kosovo, and Iraq. "I want to be just like him," Amos thought as a boy.
Military service ran in their family lineage. Their Army uncle and Marine grandfather influenced both brothers to join the service, though their grandfather rarely discussed his war experiences, likely suffering from PTSD as evidenced by the separate bedrooms his grandparents maintained.
When Amos graduated from boot camp in 2007, Adam returned from Ramadi, Iraq just in time for the ceremony. Despite suffering from a traumatic brain injury that affected his daily memory, Amos vividly recalls Adam's appearance that day in khaki shorts and a blue T-shirt. Adam's affirmation that joining was "the best decision" Amos had made came at a crucial moment of doubt, transforming Amos's perspective and helping him embrace Marine standards.
In 2009, Adam made an extraordinary sacrifice, volunteering to deploy to Afghanistan in place of his friend Chris, whose wife Brandy was nine months pregnant. This selfless act meant Adam would miss the hunting and fishing time he and Amos had planned after Amos returned from Iraq.
The morning before Adam's death, they spoke by phone, with Adam sounding unusually exhausted. After completing a combat endurance course that day, Amos was preparing for a weekend at Myrtle Beach when ordered to see the colonel. After an anxious wait, he encountered Adam's friend Chris in service uniform, who handed him papers and said, "Your brother was killed this afternoon."
Amos collapsed in grief. The Marine Corps, which had felt like home because of his brother's presence, suddenly felt alien. The overwhelming combination of grief, anger, and impending deployment nearly broke him.
After Adam's death, Amos found support from Gunnery Sergeant Ralph "EJ" Pate, who became like a big brother to him. Despite being offered the option to stay home, Amos chose deployment as an escape from his grief, bottling up his anger and hate as fuel to get through deployment.
During his deployment in Afghanistan, Amos received unexpected support from Staff Sergeant Collins, an EOD tech who knew his brother - "as if I had a guardian angel." After just two months back at Camp Lejeune, Amos reenlisted and arranged another deployment, joining his childhood friend rather than returning home to Ohio.
During a clearing operation in Sangin Valley, Amos was knocked unconscious when his team got too close to a wall being hit by airstrikes. Despite being heavily concussed with shrapnel wounds, he refused medevac, fearing he'd never be allowed to return. This proved "one of the worst decisions I have ever made" as his condition deteriorated - he couldn't taste or smell, grew increasingly angry, struggled with memory, and barely slept.
Tests revealed brain swelling, leading to four months of hyperbaric oxygen therapy in Florida. Isolated from his teammates and struggling with debilitating symptoms, Amos turned to alcohol to cope. With a resting heart rate of 140 and unable to process years of suppressed emotions, he found himself "absolutely stuck. For the first time in my life, just stuck."
After treatment, Amos returned to Camp Lejeune expecting to rejoin his team, only to face devastating news: his brain injury disqualified him from service. The isolation crushed him - "I went from ultimate stability to having to figure out what I was going to do next in four months." His identity as a Marine and physical capabilities were stripped away.
Courteney, the woman Amos met during treatment in Florida, became his lifeline, helping him navigate college using his GI Bill. But his brain injury and emotional instability made civilian life overwhelming. Medical support proved frustratingly limited - VA hospitals lacked neurology clinics, and treatments available to active duty members weren't offered to veterans.
During a deer hunt in Texas, Amos received devastating news - his father had taken his own life. Already struggling with his brain injury, loss of military identity, and his brother's death, this final blow pushed him to the edge. Sitting in a deer blind with a rifle, he made the conscious decision to end his life. In that moment, he challenged God: "if you are real, and have something more for me, then you had better do something right now." Unexpectedly, he experienced a profound spiritual moment where his burdens lifted.
Weeks later, a connection through Joey Jones led to treatment with a doctor in Boston who discovered Amos's traumatic brain injury had caused chemical and hormonal imbalances. This connection - Joey to Randy to Kara to Dr. Kathleen - created a ripple effect that saved Amos's life. Now happily married to Courteney with a child, Amos travels the country encouraging veterans not to give up, grateful for the bonds that sustained him through his darkest times.
