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    Nia and Miles deliver harsh truths with humor about the real psychology behind "protecting others" by staying away. Spoiler: it's not noble, it's just fear dressed up pretty.

    Stop Romanticizing Isolation: You're Not That Special

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    We're not noble protectors; we're scared humans trying to avoid more hurt. We take our shame and turn it into a reason to avoid the very connections that could actually heal it.

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    Romanticizing being alone to not hurt other people cause I’m not worth being with

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