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    Explore how fearful avoidance and a fear of intimacy can trigger deactivating behaviors and rapid rebound relationships as a defense against internal distress.

    Fearful Avoidance: Why Fear of Intimacy Triggers Rebound Relationships

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    The 'shocker' speed of these rebounds is a measure of the avoidance, not a measure of how little the previous relationship meant. In many cases, the faster the rebound, the bigger the 'threat' the original relationship posed because it was so good.

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    What does the academic research about fearful avoidance rebounding after deactivating and ending a good relationship due to fear of intimacy

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    知識ソース
    Fearful Avoidant Rebounds: The Intimacy Shield
    Attachment Styles and Personal Growth following Romantic Breakups: The Mediating Roles of Distress, Rumination, and Tendency to Rebound | PLOS One
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    https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371%2Fjournal.pone.0075161
    How Quickly Do Fearful Avoidants Rebound? (Shocker) – Ask The Love Doctor || Yangki Akiteng
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    https://askthelovedoctor.com/how-quickly-do-fearful-avoidants-rebound-shocker/
    Adult Avoidant Attachment, Attention Bias, and Emotional Regulation ...
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    https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9855192/
    The Psychodynamics of Fearful Avoidant Attachment | Psychology Today Canada
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    https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/manners-of-relating/202305/the-psychodynamics-of-fearful-avoidant-attachment

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    Fearful avoidance is an attachment style where an individual’s internal alarm system is triggered by intimacy. Even in a healthy and supportive relationship, the person may perceive closeness as a threat. This psychological glitch often leads them to bolt from functional partnerships because the very goodness they desire starts to feel overwhelming, causing them to end the connection abruptly to manage their internal distress.

    Deactivating is a defensive maneuver used to end a solid relationship when intimacy becomes too intense. According to academic research, this behavior allows an individual to escape the perceived threat of a close bond. By deactivating, the person attempts to regulate their emotional state and distance themselves from the vulnerability that comes with a functional, supportive partner, often leading to a sudden exit from the relationship.

    A lightning-fast rebound relationship often acts as a defensive shield rather than a genuine attempt at moving on. Research suggests that jumping into something new with a stranger helps the individual manage intense internal distress without having to process the loss of a previous 'good' partner. This rebound serves as a distraction, allowing them to avoid the emotional weight of the breakup they just initiated.

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