Who should read *Sacred Cows: The Truth About Divorce and Marriage*?

This book suits anyone questioning societal norms about relationships, including those facing marital struggles, therapists, or individuals seeking data-driven insights. It’s ideal for readers valuing critical thinking over tradition, especially if navigating divorce or reevaluating partnerships.

Is *Sacred Cows: The Truth About Divorce and Marriage* worth reading?

Yes, for its evidence-based approach to dismantling myths. The Tellers combine personal experience (both divorced and remarried) with rigorous research, offering fresh perspectives without advocating for or against divorce. It’s praised for its humor and relatable tone.

What are the seven sacred cows discussed in the book?

The authors identify: - **Holy Cow** (moral obligation to marry/stay married) - **Expert Cow** (overvaluing authority opinions) - **Selfish Cow** (divorce as inherently self-serving) - **Defective Cow** (blaming individuals for failed marriages) - **Innocent Victim Cow** (simplifying marital issues into victim/perpetrator roles) - **One True Cow** (idealizing a single relationship model) - **Other Cow** (fear of societal judgment)

How does *Sacred Cows* address the myth that divorce harms children?

The book cites studies showing children’s well-being hinges on parental conflict levels, not divorce itself. High-conflict homes harm kids more than amicable separations, challenging the notion that staying married "for the children" is always best.

What makes *Sacred Cows* different from other marriage/divorce books?

Unlike prescriptive guides, it avoids taking sides. The Tellers focus on debunking myths using data, akin to Esther Perel’s *Mating in Captivity*, but with a stronger emphasis on societal misconceptions rather than relationship dynamics.

Are there critiques of *Sacred Cows*?

Some may argue it underestimates marriage’s cultural significance or oversimplifies complex issues. However, its reliance on empirical evidence and balanced tone mitigates these concerns, offering nuance rare in self-help literature.

How does *Sacred Cows* remain relevant in 2025?

With shifting attitudes toward marriage and rising interest in non-traditional relationships, the book’s data-driven critique of outdated norms aligns with modern debates about autonomy, mental health, and societal expectations.

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Q: What is *Sacred Cows: The Truth About Divorce and Marriage* about?

*Sacred Cows* challenges societal myths about marriage and divorce, urging readers to rethink assumptions like rising divorce rates or harm to children. Authors Danielle and Astro Teller analyze seven "sacred cows," such as the **Holy Cow** (marriage as a moral imperative) and the **Expert Cow** (blind trust in authorities), using data to debunk misconceptions.

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第1章

When Sacred Cows Come Home to Roost

Imagine discovering that everything you've been told about one of life's most significant decisions is based on myths, half-truths, and cultural dogma. This is precisely what Danielle and Astro Teller expose in their provocative book "Sacred Cows," which has become something of an underground sensation among therapists, relationship coaches, and those questioning their marriages. While not a mainstream bestseller, this book has developed a devoted following among intellectuals and celebrities like Gwyneth Paltrow, who cited it as influential in her own "conscious uncoupling" philosophy. What makes this book particularly powerful is the authors' unique qualifications-both are accomplished scientists (Danielle a physician specializing in intensive care and Astro a computer scientist who oversaw Google[x]) who have experienced divorce firsthand. Their approach combines rigorous analytical thinking with deep compassion, challenging our cultural narratives about marriage and divorce at a time when nearly half of all marriages end in divorce, yet we still stigmatize those who choose to leave unhappy unions.

第2章

The Holy Cow: Marriage as Religion

The Holy Cow represents society's most fundamental belief about marriage: that it represents a moral good in itself, and divorce equals failure. This Sacred Cow promotes the idea that married people are inherently superior to divorced people, and marriage commitments should override personal happiness at all costs. Our culture equates divorce with failure and quitting, applying this label not just to marriages but to the people themselves. As anthropologist Margaret Mead once challenged this notion by saying of her three marriages that "none of them was a failure." Despite divorce becoming more socially acceptable over the past sixty years, the stigma may actually be increasing among educated, upper-middle-class Americans. Sociologist Laurie Essig notes that among the affluent, divorce has become "a source of shame, a mark of failure, a sign that you just aren't working hard enough." When we examine marriage vows, most contain some version of "I promise to love you forever" or promise undying faithfulness. But what does it mean to promise that feelings will never change? No one would sign a job contract promising eternal enthusiasm regardless of how the job evolves. Yet in marriage, we promise perpetual feelings despite experience teaching us that feelings inevitably change. A more realistic marriage contract might acknowledge that love isn't entirely within our control. The Holy Cow extends beyond individual relationships into politics, with the U.S. government spending millions promoting marriage as society's cornerstone. During the second Bush administration, Congress allocated $750 million for marriage preservation programs, based on the flawed logic that since married people are healthier and wealthier, marriage itself must cause these benefits. Organizations like the National Marriage Project, despite claiming objectivity, primarily exist to promote marriage while portraying divorce negatively. What's particularly troubling is how these organizations manipulate statistics to support their agenda. Between 2009-2012, they pushed a narrative claiming economic recessions strengthen marriages, based on a minor 3% drop in divorce rates during the recession. This narrative spread through major publications while ignoring that divorce rates had been steadily declining for decades regardless of economic conditions. If marriage truly created social stability and prosperity as the Holy Cow claims, then countries with the highest marriage rates and lowest divorce rates should be the most successful. Yet when we examine countries at opposite ends of the marriage spectrum, we find Sweden (with low marriage rates and high divorce rates) ranks as the fourth happiest country globally and 13th richest, while Libya (with divorce rates fifteen times lower than the US) ranks 67th in happiness despite its oil wealth.

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第3章

The Expert Cow: When Professional Help Hurts

The Expert Cow represents the marriage industry professionals who approach vulnerable people with predetermined solutions and an air of authority. This Sacred Cow appears when experts prioritize their dogma or financial gain over clients' happiness, or when they fail to acknowledge their limitations and biases. While nearly all troubled relationships consider couples counseling at some point, the scientific evidence supporting marriage therapy's effectiveness is surprisingly limited. Research shows therapy can improve couples' scores on relationship quality measures, but there's no reliable evidence it prevents divorce or fixes specific problems. Before seeking marriage counseling, try this thought experiment: imagine a Marriage Fairy granting your deepest wish about your marriage. Would you wish for your spouse to change specific behaviors, rekindle passion, make yourself feel more love, or have your spouse leave? Identifying your true desire helps select appropriate tools for addressing problems. Most marriage counselors focus on reducing conflict and rekindling romance, which may not address fundamental issues. Consider Justine and Antoine-communication exercises become pointless when one spouse no longer loves the other. Many therapists avoid discussing divorce, seeing it as failure, which limits their ability to help clients evaluate all options. Similarly, most marriage self-help books promise salvation rather than helping readers determine if staying married is best. Their diagnostic questionnaires focus on common conflicts like money, in-laws, and chores while avoiding deeper questions about whether you still love your spouse, are in an abusive relationship, or find your partner fundamentally incompatible. Despite claims about marriage counseling's effectiveness, no randomized trials exist showing it prevents divorce. Unlike medical treatments requiring FDA approval, marriage counseling lacks rigorous research. The authors examined a rare German study on preventative behavioral therapy that attempted a longitudinal design but was deeply flawed, comparing couples willing to attend communication seminars with those who refused-an inherently biased comparison. Even the marriage guru industry is problematic. John Gottman claims to predict divorce with 91% accuracy after just five minutes of observation. However, his famous 1998 study wasn't predictive at all-it merely identified correlations after divorces had already occurred. When researchers Heyman and Slep tested Gottman's approach, an equation with initial 90% "accuracy" dropped to just 21% positive predictive value when applied to new samples. Perhaps most importantly, the authors identify a "bittersun" period that marks a marriage's end-when one or both spouses lose the desire to stay married. During this bitter year, everything a spouse does causes unhappiness. Marriage counseling sought during this period typically comes too late, as no therapist can save a marriage after one's heart has quit.

第4章

The Selfish Cow: Who's Really Being Selfish?

The Selfish Cow promotes the idea that staying married is unselfish while getting divorced is selfish. This cow appears everywhere-in comments from family and friends, popular media, and even in our own minds. To challenge this assumption, the authors present five hypothetical scenarios that reveal the complexity of selfishness in marriage decisions. In "House Beautiful," Ayelet stays in a loveless marriage primarily to maintain her lifestyle. In "No Exit," both Bob and Sally display selfishness-him for wanting to leave, her for manipulating him to stay. "Holier Than Thou" features Malcolm hiding his homosexuality from his wife Chanelle. "War of the Roses" shows Angela and Pierre staying together "for the children" while creating a toxic environment. "Baby Blues" examines Ivan and Soledad's struggles after having a child. Through these examples, the authors demonstrate that labeling divorce as inherently selfish oversimplifies complex situations-sometimes staying married can be the more selfish choice. The authors compare the airline safety instruction to "put on your oxygen mask before assisting others" to marriage dynamics. While self-help books encourage taking responsibility for your own happiness within marriage, there's a contradiction: if you stand up for yourself within marriage, you're brave, but if you leave to pursue happiness, you're selfish. Many people remain in unhappy marriages because the persistent low-grade ache feels more manageable than the concentrated pain of leaving. This avoidance strategy makes people vulnerable to the Selfish Sacred Cow-they reframe their pain-avoidance choice as noble selflessness, which allows them to label those who divorce as selfish. The Selfish Cow insists unhappy marriages simply need more work. When asked how to determine if lack of work causes marital unhappiness, the Cow reveals her circular logic: "I can tell because the marriage is unhappy. If the couple were working hard, the marriage would be happy!" The authors analyze what "hard work of marriage" actually means, identifying six common definitions: experiencing and resolving conflicts, compromise, treating spouses nicely, keeping romance alive, weathering life's challenges, and sticking with commitment regardless of feelings. While relationships require effort, not all problems can be solved through hard work alone-some marriages lack fundamental compatibility or mutual investment. The Selfish Cow's circular reasoning ultimately serves to make people feel like failures for ending unhappy marriages.

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第5章

The Defective Cow: It's Not You, It's the Relationship

The Defective Cow operates through disguise, using fear and shame to convince unhappy spouses they are personally flawed. This Sacred Cow suggests only defective people experience marital unhappiness, and divorcing would only expose this defectiveness to everyone. The authors challenge cultural stereotypes about women losing sexual interest after marriage. While society typically blames women's diminished desire on fixable problems like fatigue, stress, hormones, or poor self-image, the authors suggest there are other unexplored reasons why perfectly normal, well-adjusted women might lose interest in sex with their husbands. They propose that sometimes women simply aren't attracted to their partners anymore-a phenomenon society readily accepts in dating relationships but refuses to acknowledge in marriage. This creates a trap where women like "Barbara" feel defective when medical interventions fail to restore their desire for "William." Unlike men who can take Viagra, women have no equivalent pill, and the intimacy-creation industry often misses the point that intimacy doesn't necessarily create desire. The authors examine common solutions for rekindling marital passion, explaining why none offers a guaranteed fix. Empathetic listening and sharing may not help if intimacy doesn't lead to desire. Adding romance through candlelit dinners or lingerie likely won't work if partners have fundamentally lost attraction. "Fake it till you make it" exercises only help if Barbara still fundamentally admires William. Our culture holds contradictory views of marriage: as both a business partnership where passion isn't expected and as the ultimate expression of love and passion. These incompatible perspectives create confused advice for those considering divorce. Through "mad cow libs" examples, the authors demonstrate how we react differently to identical situations when marriage is involved: we're more likely to question divorce decisions than marriage ones, encourage married couples to persevere through unhappiness more than unmarried ones, and view divorced people as somehow damaged compared to those with ended non-marital relationships. When considering divorce, people often hear "You two seem so happy. Why would you throw that away?" This reveals the gulf between how marriages appear externally versus how they feel internally. The authors challenge this perception by imagining two futures for an unhappy friend named Susie-one where she remains in her miserable marriage with Larry, and another where she lives alone after divorce. While observers might pity "Divorced Susie" in her apartment, she might actually be happier, relaxed, and free from the hostility that pervaded her marriage.

第6章

The Innocent Victim Cow: What About the Children?

The Innocent Victim Cow manipulates through heartstrings and parental instincts to keep people married. Her vulnerability lies in her pile of fake data that can be easily disproven. While children do find divorce difficult and sad, this Sacred Cow represents the unproven idea that children in unhappy marriages fare better than those whose parents divorce. Society weaponizes the argument that "innocent children" suffer when marriages end. This emotional appeal-"Are you such a monster that you're willing to sacrifice their well-being for your freedom?"-creates intense parental guilt. "Staying married for the children" has become a societal cliche that needs examination. Statistics about divorce's impact on children can be misleading. One commonly cited statistic-that children of divorced parents are more likely to divorce themselves-ignores that correlation doesn't equal causation. Factors like poor impulse control or poverty might be the root causes of both parental divorce and children's later struggles. Researchers face significant challenges with selection bias since people who divorce differ fundamentally from those who stay married. Most studies fail to adequately control for these differences. Even when researchers try to adjust for factors like education levels, they often miss harder-to-measure variables like job stress or empathy. When examining statistics about divorce, we must remember that correlation doesn't reveal root causes. Just as buying a horse won't make you wealthy (despite the correlation between wealth and horse ownership), a child's divorce may not be caused by their parents' divorce. Other factors like poor impulse control could be passed genetically or behaviorally from parent to child, making both generations prone to divorce regardless of whether the parents stayed together. The gold standard for eliminating selection bias would be randomized studies, but these are impossible for divorce research. No ethical study could randomly assign couples to "divorce" or "stay married" groups. Without such randomization, divorce studies can never reach the scientific rigor required for FDA drug approval. Despite methodological limitations, Paul Amato's meta-analysis of 67 studies from the 1990s revealed that more than half showed no statistical differences between children of divorced versus married parents. Importantly, the most rigorous studies were least likely to find significant differences, suggesting that flawed study designs artificially inflate negative outcomes. Even in studies that did find statistical differences in areas like academic achievement, the average effect size was modest-only about one quarter of one standard deviation. To put this in perspective, this means the difference between children of divorced versus intact families is equivalent to men in Boston being 5'1034" tall versus men in New York being 5'10" tall. With such minimal differences, it's impossible to reliably predict a child's outcomes based on parental marital status.

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第7章

The One True Cow: Love Before Marriage, Duty After

The One True Cow operates with a confusing double standard-she's both romantic and cynical. She enthusiastically promotes true love as the path to marriage, but once people are unhappily married, she insists true love was always an illusion. Our cultural definitions of true love range wildly from the poetic ("space and time measured by the heart") to the practical ("taking out the garbage without being asked"). This inconsistency creates confusion about what true love actually means, leaving us unable to identify it with certainty despite our cultural obsession with finding it. The concept of finding one's "other half" dates back to Plato, who described how Zeus punished humans by cutting them in half, leaving each person longing to be reunited with their missing piece. When true halves meet, Plato says they experience something beyond mere physical attraction-"the soul of every lover longs for something else." Our culture sends contradictory messages about true love: before marriage, it's our highest aspiration; after marriage, it's a dangerous myth. The moment before a wedding, abandoning a relationship for true love is romantic; the moment after, it's forbidden. This cultural whiplash-believing in true love before marriage but abandoning those aspirations afterward-exemplifies a Sacred Cow that tries to have it both ways. The One True Cow wants everyone both married and staying married. She tells unhappily married people that true love is a myth to keep them committed, convincing them their relationship is as good as it gets. Yet before marriage, she promotes the ideal of true love because people need strong motivation to commit. Marriage self-help books studiously avoid mentioning "love," instead using euphemisms like "deep friendship" or "mutual respect." This avoidance occurs because authors can't offer actionable advice for creating love-there's no switch to flip. While books can suggest practices to improve intimacy and respect, they can't guarantee these will trigger love. If happy marriages truly require love, and love can't be manufactured at will, then logically some marriages can't be saved. George and Brenda's story illustrates the One True Cow's limited playbook. After years of growing apart despite outward success, Brenda wants to leave while George wants to save their marriage. The couple has three options: work to uncover Brenda's buried love, convince her that true love is mythical, or acknowledge the love is gone and determine next steps. The One True Cow would push only the first two options-either insisting love will return any moment or denying its existence altogether.

第8章

The Other Cow: When New Love Arrives

The Other Cow is an easily titillated creature feeding on jealousy and gossip. Though she appears as a mere busybody, her agenda is clear: making it socially unacceptable to divorce for a new partner. As the most judgmental and spiteful Cow, she weaponizes guilt and shame. From Tristan and Iseult to Anna Karenina, Western culture has harshly condemned adultery. While extramarital affairs occur in roughly one-fifth to one-quarter of marriages, and are associated with about one-third of divorces, the relationship between affairs and divorce is complex. Affairs may cause divorce, or unhappy marriages may independently cause both. The Other Cow exploits our negative feelings about adultery to pressure people into staying married. Through a thought experiment about Jose considering divorce, we see how the Cow blurs moral lines. Most people find adultery unacceptable but remarriage acceptable, yet between them lies a continuum based on when a new partner appears relative to the marriage's end. Anna Karenina represents the quintessential cautionary tale about adultery. When speaking to Levin, Anna acknowledges that his wife Kitty may never forgive her situation, saying that to truly forgive, Kitty would need to experience Anna's suffering-something Anna wouldn't wish on her. Through Anna's passion, humiliation and eventual suicide, Tolstoy guides readers toward a more compassionate view of her transgressions than society might offer. When affairs are discovered, betrayers often receive lectures from those more invested in preserving the marriage than the adulterer's happiness. Arnold's letter to Ann exemplifies this, urging her to appreciate her "perfect" husband Jeff while warning that passion is fleeting and new relationships bring their own problems. In comparing first and second marriages, the authors conduct a thought experiment using sports teams. The "first marriage" team includes teenagers (statistically prone to divorce) and many who refuse divorce regardless of happiness. The "second marriage" team includes people with proven willingness to divorce, those with past mental illness or substance issues, and those dealing with ex-spouses and stepchildren. Despite these disadvantages, second marriages only fail at 3-6% higher rates. This suggests that many people are actually happier with their second spouses, challenging the notion that second marriages are doomed. We display cultural hypocrisy in our attitudes toward affairs, condemning them harshly while many Americans admit to having them. This hypocrisy extends to romantic comedies like "Sleepless in Seattle," where Annie's pursuit of Sam while engaged to Walter is portrayed as romantic. Yet if Annie were married instead of engaged, audiences would condemn her actions. We cheer when Annie avoids marrying Walter, recognizing she'd be happier with Sam, but wouldn't support her leaving a marriage for the same reason.

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第9章

Breaking Free from the Sacred Cows

The Tellers' book doesn't provide a formula for happy marriages or decision frameworks for divorce. Instead, it offers a liberating perspective on the cultural myths that unnecessarily increase the emotional costs of divorce. Through careful examination of research and countless personal stories, they demonstrate how these deeply ingrained beliefs often cause more harm than the divorce itself. These Sacred Cows manifest in various ways: the belief that "marriage is forever," that "divorce will destroy the children," or that "staying together for the kids is always best." The authors systematically dismantle these beliefs by presenting both research evidence and real-world examples of how clinging to these myths can lead to prolonged suffering and delayed healing for all involved parties. By exposing these Sacred Cows, the authors help readers understand that whether marriages improve or end, life gets better, and compassion for all involved is essential. They emphasize that marriage should be a choice made freely, not a prison maintained by social pressure. The book highlights numerous cases where couples who divorced amicably and thoughtfully created better outcomes than those who remained in dysfunctional marriages due to societal expectations. The research presented shows that children of divorce often develop remarkable resilience, emotional intelligence, and adaptability. While divorce certainly presents challenges, studies indicate that it's the level of conflict children are exposed to-not the divorce itself-that most impacts their well-being. Children from homes with high conflict, whether divorced or intact, tend to face similar challenges. Perhaps the most powerful insight is that divorce, while difficult, doesn't ruin lives-neither for adults nor for children. The evidence simply doesn't support claims that divorce meaningfully impacts what kind of adults children become or that divorced people are destined for unhappiness. In fact, many people report personal growth, improved relationships, and greater life satisfaction after divorce when compared to their married lives. The authors present compelling evidence that the quality of post-divorce relationships between parents, and how they manage their separation, matters far more than the divorce itself. They provide examples of couples who maintained respectful co-parenting relationships and whose children thrived, alongside stories of personal reinvention and growth following divorce. In the end, the Tellers argue for a more compassionate, honest, and evidence-based approach to marriage and divorce decisions-one that acknowledges the complexity of human relationships and respects individual circumstances over cultural dogma. By challenging these Sacred Cows, we can free ourselves from unnecessary guilt and make clearer decisions about our relationships based on our authentic needs rather than societal pressure. This approach allows for more thoughtful consideration of what truly serves the well-being of all family members, whether that means working to improve a marriage or mindfully ending it.

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『不道徳な結婚論』の主要テーマ

divorce stigma
marital myths
relationship dogma
conscious uncoupling
marriage counseling critique

『不道徳な結婚論』の名言

Divorce equals failure.
Marriage commitments should override personal happiness at all costs.
Love isn't entirely within our control.
Divorce has become a source of shame.
Staying married is unselfish while getting divorced is selfish.

『不道徳な結婚論』の登場人物

Danielle TellerAuthor, physician, and scientist
Astro TellerAuthor, computer scientist, and head of Google[x]
Margaret MeadAnthropologist who challenged notions of divorce
JustineCase study of a spouse in marriage counseling
AntoineCase study of a spouse in marriage counseling

著者について

ダニエル・テラーとアストロ・テラーは、『Sacred Cows: The Truth About Divorce and Marriage』の著者であり、社会規範や人間関係のダイナミクスにおける尊敬される論客です。イェール大学とハーバード大学で学んだ医師から作家に転身したダニエルは、科学的な厳密さと鋭い社会分析を組み合わせ、結婚に関する文化的仮説に疑問を投げかけています。

技術者であり起業家でもあるアストロは、シリコンバレーでのリーダーシップ経験を通じて磨かれた、データ駆動型の視点を提供しています。二人の共同作業は、個人の経験と研究を融合させて結婚制度を解剖し、現代の人間関係に対してより思いやりのある、エビデンスに基づいたアプローチを提唱しています。

ダニエルはまた、高く評価された歴史小説『All the Ever Afters: The Untold Story of Cinderella’s Stepmother』の著者でもあり、疎外された人々の視点を通して古典的な物語を再構築しています。彼女が『Quartz』に寄稿しているノンフィクションのコラムは、ジェンダーや社会構造における思想的リーダーとしての地位をさらに確固たるものにしています。『Sacred Cows』は結婚改革に関する全国的な議論を巻き起こし、その洞察はNPRや『The Atlantic』などの主要メディアでも取り上げられました。

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第9章

不道徳な結婚論

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When Sacred Cows Come Home to Roost

The Holy Cow: Marriage as Religion

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The Expert Cow: When Professional Help Hurts

The Selfish Cow: Who's Really Being Selfish?

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The Defective Cow: It's Not You, It's the Relationship

The Innocent Victim Cow: What About the Children?

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The One True Cow: Love Before Marriage, Duty After

The Other Cow: When New Love Arrives

『不道徳な結婚論』をもっと深く楽しむ

Breaking Free from the Sacred Cows

『不道徳な結婚論』を最後まで読み終えました

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『不道徳な結婚論』の名言

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The Expert Cow: When Professional Help Hurts

The Selfish Cow: Who's Really Being Selfish?

『不道徳な結婚論』をもっと深く楽しむ

The Defective Cow: It's Not You, It's the Relationship

The Innocent Victim Cow: What About the Children?

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The One True Cow: Love Before Marriage, Duty After

The Other Cow: When New Love Arrives

『不道徳な結婚論』をもっと深く楽しむ

Breaking Free from the Sacred Cows

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