What is *Created for Connection* about?

*Created for Connection* by Dr. Sue Johnson and Kenneth Sanderfer merges Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with Christian principles to help couples build secure emotional bonds. It focuses on repairing relationships through seven structured conversations that address attachment needs, conflict patterns, and spiritual connection, emphasizing emotional responsiveness over communication tactics.

Who should read *Created for Connection*?

Christian couples seeking to deepen their emotional and spiritual connection, therapists interested in faith-integrated EFT, or anyone navigating marital conflict will benefit. It’s ideal for those valuing Biblical teachings alongside science-backed strategies for relationship repair.

Who are the authors of *Created for Connection*?

Dr. Sue Johnson, founder of EFT, and Kenneth Sanderfer, a licensed marriage therapist and certified EFT trainer, co-authored the book. Sanderfer integrates Christian theology with EFT principles, drawing from his clinical practice and role as an adjunct professor.

What are the “Seven Conversations” in *Created for Connection*?

The seven conversations guide couples to: * Recognize destructive “Demon Dialogues” (blame-shame cycles). * Identify raw emotional triggers. * Revisit pivotal conflicts. * Rebuild trust through emotional engagement. * Practice forgiveness. * Strengthen intimacy via physical touch. * Maintain long-term connection.

How does *Created for Connection* blend faith and science?

The book pairs attachment theory with Biblical teachings, framing marital love as a reflection of God’s covenant. Verses like Ephesians 4:2-3 support its emphasis on humility, patience, and unity, while EFT research validates its therapeutic framework.

What are “Demon Dialogues” in *Created for Connection*?

“Demon Dialogues” describe toxic interaction patterns like “Find the Bad Guy” (mutual blame) or “Freeze and Flee” (emotional withdrawal). These cycles erode trust, and the book provides tools to replace them with vulnerable, attachment-focused communication.

Can *Created for Connection* help save a failing marriage?

Yes. The book offers actionable steps to break negative cycles, rebuild emotional safety, and foster forgiveness. Case studies show its efficacy for couples in crisis, especially when combined with professional EFT therapy.

How does *Created for Connection* differ from secular EFT books like *Hold Me Tight*?

Unlike Johnson’s secular works, this edition explicitly ties EFT to Scripture, prayer, and Christian marriage values. It reframes attachment needs as God-given desires for relational security.

Créés pour la connexion

Le guide « Serre-moi fort » pour les couples chrétiens

Kenneth Sanderfer & Sue Johnson

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Chapitre 1

When Love Becomes a Lifeline: Reconnecting Through Emotional Presence

Have you ever wondered why some relationships thrive while others wither, despite similar challenges? Created for Connection offers a revolutionary answer that's transforming millions of relationships worldwide. This groundbreaking work by Dr. Sue Johnson and Kenneth Sanderfer has become a relationship bible for couples seeking deeper connection, endorsed by relationship experts and celebrities like Gwyneth Paltrow who called it "life-changing" on her Goop platform. The book's approach-Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)-has been featured in The New York Times, The Washington Post, and Psychology Today for its remarkable 75% success rate in helping distressed couples recover. What makes this approach so powerful? It taps into our most fundamental human need-secure emotional connection-and shows how modern attachment science aligns perfectly with timeless spiritual wisdom about love. In a world where nearly half of marriages end in divorce, including those within faith communities, this book offers a scientifically-validated path to the kind of love we all crave-one where we feel truly seen, valued, and held by another.

Chapitre 2

Love: Not Just an Emotion, But Our Survival Code

Love may be the most powerful word in language-we write about it, sing about it, and build monuments to it. We soar when hearing "I love you" and plummet at "I don't love you anymore." Despite its central importance, love remains deeply misunderstood, especially in our relationships. Even with churches devoting tremendous resources to marriage support, Christian couples struggle at the same rate as those outside faith communities. Today's understanding of love has been revolutionized by attachment science, which reveals that romantic love isn't just a mysterious emotion but our most compelling survival mechanism. John Bowlby, a British psychiatrist, developed attachment theory by observing children separated from parents. Unlike Freudian views that problems stemmed from internal conflicts, Bowlby insisted they were rooted in real relationships with real people. Working with troubled youngsters, he recognized that problematic relationships with parents left them with limited ways to handle basic feelings and needs. Bowlby's theory faced fierce opposition from conventional wisdom, which held that emotional distance was proper child-rearing. His colleague Mary Ainsworth devised the "Strange Situation" experiment demonstrating how children with responsive mothers showed emotional resilience, while those with unpredictable or cold mothers became anxious, aggressive, or detached. Through these simple studies of disconnection and reconnection, Bowlby observed love in action and began decoding its patterns. Though initially ridiculed, Bowlby's attachment theory eventually revolutionized child-rearing methods, establishing that children have an absolute requirement for safe, ongoing physical and emotional closeness-a principle reflected in Scripture where Jesus frequently uses touch in acts of care and healing. This understanding of attachment has now extended to adult relationships, revealing that our deepest instinct throughout life is to seek close connection with precious loved ones who provide a safe haven and secure base. Research confirms that secure connection empowers us-those who feel safely connected understand themselves better, are more curious and open to new information, and paradoxically, are more independent. The quality of our relationships directly impacts our physical health-emotional isolation doubles the risk of heart attacks and strokes, while positive connections protect us from stress. Even holding a loved one's hand can reduce pain and stress responses in the brain. Love isn't just the icing on the cake of life but a basic primary need, like oxygen-exactly as Genesis 2:18 declares: "It is not good for man to be alone."

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Chapitre 3

When Connection Breaks: The Anatomy of Relationship Distress

Couples in distress often misdiagnose their problems. They blame money management, parenting differences, or sexual issues, while therapists might focus on communication skills or negotiation techniques. But these explanations only scratch the surface. The real problem lies deeper: emotional disconnection. Most relationship fights are actually protests over this disconnection. Beneath the anger, criticism and demands are desperate questions: Can I count on you? Are you there for me? Do I matter to you? The hostility is really a cry to draw their partners back emotionally and reestablish a sense of safe connection. Attachment theory reveals that our loved one is our shelter in life. When they're emotionally unavailable, we face primal panic-a fear response triggered in the brain's amygdala when our survival feels threatened through disconnection. For securely bonded couples, this fear is momentary. For those with weaker bonds, it's overwhelming, leading to either clingy demands or protective withdrawal. These unconscious strategies initially work but create vicious spirals of insecurity that push partners apart. We often miss each other's calls for connection because we're distracted, speak tentatively about our needs, or mask our longing with anger and frustration. The longer disconnection persists, the more negative interactions become, eroding trust in the relationship entirely. The most damaging relationship patterns are what Johnson calls "Demon Dialogues"-destructive cycles that trap couples in emotional hell. The most common is the Protest Polka, where one partner becomes critical and aggressive while the other grows defensive and distant. Research shows couples stuck in this pattern early in marriage have over 80% chance of divorcing within five years. Like Carol and Jim arguing about lateness, couples caught in these cycles focus on factual content rather than the underlying attachment fears. Eventually, the specific issue doesn't matter as their entire relationship becomes marked by resentment and distance. Partners may glimpse these patterns but feel powerless to stop them, often blaming themselves or concluding love itself is untrustworthy. Attachment theory reveals critical turning points in relationships. These key moments occur when attachment needs suddenly arise, transforming mundane conversations into matters of emotional survival. The first moment happens when we perceive a threat to connection-like Peter feeling threatened watching his wife Linda talk to a handsome stranger. The second occurs after the threat passes, when reconnection is possible. The third emerges when we reach for reassurance and our partner responds-but we must be able to receive this comfort. Finally, our everyday connection patterns either reinforce security or maintain insecurity. Research shows marriages fail not from increasing conflict but decreasing affection and emotional responsiveness.

Chapitre 4

A.R.E.: The Secret Language of Secure Connection

The foundation of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) consists of seven conversations designed to foster emotional responsiveness-the key to lasting love. This responsiveness has three essential components forming the acronym A.R.E.: Accessibility (Can I reach you?), which means staying open to your partner despite insecurities and learning to manage overwhelming emotions; Responsiveness (Can I rely on you to respond emotionally?), which involves showing your partner they matter by engaging with their emotional signals; and Engagement (Do I know you will value me and stay close?), which refers to the special attention given only to loved ones. This A.R.E. framework echoes biblical examples, such as Christ's response to the woman with the issue of blood in Luke 8, demonstrating perfect accessibility, responsiveness, and engagement. When Jesus felt her touch amid the crowd, he stopped, turned to her, and engaged with her need for healing-the perfect model of emotional presence. Consider Tim and Sarah, a couple in crisis. Tim doesn't understand why he's there, believing they have a good marriage despite Sarah accusing him of ignoring her at a party. He dismisses her concerns as immaturity, claiming work pressure prevents him from remembering the "hearts and flowers part of marriage." Sarah responds with bitterness, calling Tim a "communication cretin" before her anger collapses into profound sadness. Through tears, she confesses she's stopped attending her Bible study group to hide her failing marriage, and laments that Tim is a "stone" who turns away when she is "dying." The seven conversations of EFT transform relationships by helping couples recognize destructive patterns and build secure connections. Using Sarah and Tim as examples, the first three conversations de-escalate tension: Recognizing the Demon Dialogues helps them identify their negative dance (Sarah's angry protests and Tim's defensive withdrawal); Finding the Raw Spots reveals their deeper attachment fears; and Revisiting a Rocky Moment allows them to replay difficult interactions with new understanding. The fourth conversation, Hold Me Tight, is transformative-Tim becomes vulnerable about his fears of disappointing Sarah, while she softens and asks for reassurance. This emotional engagement creates the foundation for the final three conversations: Forgiving Injuries, Bonding Through Sex and Touch, and Keeping Your Love Alive. To apply attachment principles to your own relationship, consider measuring three dimensions of connection: accessibility (can I get my partner's attention?), responsiveness (will my partner be there when needed?), and emotional engagement (can we trust and confide in each other?). Secure bonds score highly across all three dimensions, while lower scores suggest areas to strengthen through intentional conversations about emotional needs.

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Chapitre 5

Breaking Free from Destructive Patterns: The First Three Conversations

The first transforming conversation focuses on identifying destructive interaction patterns that block connection. When we feel unsafe with our partner, the very person who can send us soaring can also crash us back to earth with just a slight turning away or careless remark. These moments can either bring couples closer or, when safety is missing, spark relationship wildfires. Three destructive patterns-"Demon Dialogues"-emerge: Find the Bad Guy (mutual blame), the Protest Polka (demand-withdraw), and Freeze and Flee (mutual withdrawal). The first pattern involves mutual attack and accusation, where partners define each other negatively to regain control when feeling vulnerable. This "It's Not Me, It's You" dynamic creates a vicious cycle where partners anticipate hurt, restrict their emotional range, and view each other as defective. The key to escaping this pattern is recognizing that the negative cycle itself-not either partner-is the true enemy. The Protest Polka creates a stable negative loop where one partner pursues connection through criticism while the other withdraws. Distancing partners often describe feeling hopeless, inadequate, judged, and numb-using phrases like "I shut down," "I go into my shell," and "I feel empty." They cope by numbing out, denying problems, avoiding conflict, and retreating into problem-solving. Meanwhile, pursuing partners feel invisible and abandoned. Gender often influences these roles, with women typically being relationship caretakers who pursue connection, while men have been taught to suppress emotions and focus on problem-solving. This creates mismatches where one partner seeks emotional engagement while the other offers solutions. Jesus demonstrated the importance of emotional responsiveness through his interactions with children and the blind man. Freeze and Flee represents the final, most dangerous stage of relationship disconnection-a deadly silence where both partners have shut down completely. This pattern evolves when one partner finally gives up after repeated failed attempts to connect, leading to mutual withdrawal and emotional death of the relationship. The hopelessness pervading this pattern leads partners to blame their own innate flaws rather than the relationship dynamic. As they hide their "unlovable" selves, attachment behaviors like eye contact and physical touch disappear completely. The second conversation explores how certain emotional vulnerabilities-"raw spots"-can trigger relationship distress. Raw spots are hypersensitivities formed when attachment needs have been repeatedly neglected or dismissed, resulting in feelings of being emotionally deprived or deserted. These sensitivities often originate from wounding past relationships but can also develop within current relationships during transitions or crises when support is lacking. When a raw spot gets triggered, two clear signs emerge. First, there's a sudden radical shift in the emotional tone of conversation-from joking to upset or chilly in an instant. Second, the reaction seems disproportionate to the perceived offense. These reactions happen because primal attachment needs and fears suddenly activate. The process unfolds in milliseconds: an attachment cue (like a critical tone or withheld affection) grabs attention; the body responds physiologically; the intellect catches up and interprets the meaning; and we prepare to move toward, away from, or against our partner. The third conversation teaches couples to de-escalate conflicts by shifting from antagonistic "I/you" language to collaborative "we" language, identifying specific behaviors in negative cycles, expressing authentic emotions rather than disguising them as blame, recognizing how reactions trigger partner's attachment fears, being curious about softer feelings beneath anger, and revealing attachment fears to create a renewed partnership where couples face insecurities as allies rather than adversaries.

Chapitre 6

The Hold Me Tight Conversation: The Heart of Emotional Connection

The Hold Me Tight conversation represents the tipping point in EFT, moving couples from merely defusing conflict to actively creating positive connection. While intense emotional responsiveness naturally occurs in new relationships, it requires deliberate cultivation in long-term partnerships. This conversation builds on the safety established in previous conversations, teaching couples to speak the language of attachment by acknowledging vulnerabilities and clearly expressing needs. For Christians, this process parallels prayer-opening one's heart vulnerably to God and seeking connection. Charlie and Kyoko, a young immigrant couple from an Asian culture, struggle with rigid gender roles and emotional expression. Their Demon Dialogue consists of Charlie remaining emotionally distant while giving logical lectures, while Kyoko responds with angry outbursts and tears. Through therapy, they begin recognizing their pattern: Charlie becomes overwhelmed by Kyoko's emotions and withdraws, while Kyoko feels "discarded" and pushes harder for connection. Initially uncomfortable with the "foreign" world of feelings, Charlie discovers that examining what blocks his emotions helps him identify his fears. With Kyoko's support, he explores emotional "handles"-descriptive words like "shattered heart" and "overwhelmed"-that open doors to his vulnerabilities. Charlie ultimately confesses his deepest fear: that if he stays present with Kyoko's emotions, he'll be "shattered" and lose control. He admits feeling helpless when his logical approaches fail, and fears losing Kyoko-the person who crossed the world with him. This emotional revelation brings tears but also surprising relief. Charlie discovers that expressing vulnerability doesn't destroy him but makes him feel stronger. Kyoko responds with understanding rather than rejection, recognizing for the first time how much she matters to him, creating a new sense of closeness between them. The crucial second part of this conversation focuses on directly expressing attachment needs that only one's partner can satisfy. Charlie courageously tells Kyoko he needs reassurance that she'll stay even when he's imperfect or makes mistakes. Kyoko responds warmly, affirming she doesn't need perfection-just closeness. When Kyoko shares her needs, she asks Charlie to accept her emotional nature, stay present during her distress, and physically comfort her. Charlie is stunned by the simplicity of her request: "You mean you just want me to come close?" When couples experience a Hold Me Tight conversation, they achieve a deep emotional synchrony comparable to what physicists call "resonance." This connection is reflected in our biology through mirror neurons in the prefrontal cortex that allow us to literally feel what another experiences. Direct eye contact enhances this connection, allowing couples to move from disconnection to emotional attunement. Additionally, during these intimate moments, our brains release oxytocin-the "cuddle hormone"-which creates feelings of bliss and calm while reducing stress hormones.

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Chapitre 7

Healing Wounds and Deepening Intimacy: The Final Conversations

Certain incidents in relationships aren't merely disagreements but profound traumas that overturn our sense of security. These relationship injuries, especially when they involve abandonment during moments of vulnerability, can eclipse hundreds of positive interactions. Harvard psychiatrist Judith Herman notes that the most severe traumas involve "violation of human connection"-being wounded by those we count on for protection. When partners fail to provide emotional support during critical moments, it creates devastating "Never Again" moments where the injured partner refuses to risk vulnerability again. These moments shatter our assumptions about love and dependability, answering the eternal questions "Are you there for me when I need you?" with a resounding no. Such wounds typically occur during times of intense emotional stress when attachment needs are naturally high-births, deaths, illness diagnoses, or job losses. True forgiveness involves specific elements: showing genuine care about a partner's pain, validating that their hurt is legitimate, owning exactly what was done wrong, expressing shame about the behavior, and reassuring them of help in healing. This kind of apology isn't just an expression of contrition but an invitation to reconnect. The final steps of forgiveness include having a Hold Me Tight conversation centered on the attachment injury, where the hurt partner identifies current needs and directly asks for them, creating a healing A.R.E. conversation. While passion comes naturally in early relationships, sex plays a more profound role than our culture typically recognizes. Rather than being merely about physical satisfaction or a passing sensation that inevitably fades, science confirms what spiritual wisdom has long taught-secure bonding and fulfilling sexuality enhance each other in a beautiful cycle. When partners feel emotionally safe, sex becomes intimate play and a safe adventure where they can surrender to sensation and share their deepest vulnerabilities. Research shows that while satisfied couples attribute only 15-20% of their happiness to good sex, unhappy partners blame 50-70% of their distress on sexual problems. This is because sexual issues are often symptoms rather than causes-the "canary in the mine" signaling lost emotional connection. Humans uniquely engage in face-to-face sex with vulnerable body exposure, making emotional safety essential for arousal. The quality of emotional connection shapes three distinct sexual experiences: Sealed-Off Sex (focusing on physical sensation without emotional connection), Solace Sex (seeking reassurance rather than pleasure), and Synchrony Sex (integrating emotional openness with erotic exploration). In securely attached relationships, physical intimacy maintains its ardor while allowing partners to be both tender and fiery, playful and passionate. Connected partners can reveal sexual vulnerabilities without fear of rejection, talk openly about desires, and navigate inevitable awkward moments with humor and grace. The final conversation addresses the challenge of maintaining love over time. Couples can identify and navigate their relationship danger points by recognizing triggers for their negative cycles and developing specific requests to help each other stay emotionally balanced. They learn to celebrate small moments of connection, create rituals that mark separations and reunions, and address practical problems from a foundation of emotional safety. Most importantly, they craft a coherent story of their relationship that makes sense of their past and provides a blueprint for their future together.

Chapitre 8

Love Beyond the Relationship: Connecting with God and Community

Our most basic instinct and compelling need as humans is for connection. For people of faith, the connection with God provides comfort, safety and equilibrium in an ever-changing world. Scripture repeatedly refers to God as a refuge, parent, friend and lover-weaving love, attachment, trust and comfort into the fabric of faith. This relationship with God reflects the same key elements outlined in bonding science for earthly attachments. We all have a built-in longing for connection with someone who will respond to us and keep us safe. This longing is wired into our nervous system and shapes our brain development. As Henri Nouwen writes, "The mystery of God's presence can be touched only by a deep awareness of His absence." This longing isn't for abstract knowledge but for a felt sense of belonging-experienced when we're moved by nature's majesty, spiritual truths in Scripture, or worship music. Closeness to a loved one offers a safe haven-a place of peace, comfort and consolation. For Christians, connection with God is the ultimate source of safety. Studies show that connection with a loving attachment figure calms our nervous system, deactivates our brain's fear center, and brings emotional balance. As the hymn "Abide with Me" expresses, the felt presence of God offers safe haven and release from fear when "other helpers fail and comforts flee." Loving connection makes us stronger by providing a secure base from which to explore and grow. In attachment theory, children who know they have a safe haven are more adventurous and confident. Similarly, acknowledging our dependence on God makes us stronger. Psalm 138:3 affirms, "On the day I called, You answered me; You made me bold with strength in my soul." There are three fundamental ways we engage with those we depend on: secure reaching, anxious demanding, and avoidant distancing. These patterns extend to our relationship with God. Amy exemplifies secure connection: "I know I can reach for Him and find that still moment of peace." Kate demonstrates anxious connection, oscillating between anger and desperation: "I just want to stand and yell, 'Are you listening to me at all?'" Tom shows avoidant connection, dismissing his need: "There is no point in spending your life on your knees praying." When lovers form secure bonds, the circle of loving responsiveness expands outward like ripples in water. This connection enhances compassion for others in our families, churches, and communities. Research shows that even young children who feel secure with caregivers demonstrate more empathy. Simply recalling times when someone cared for you reduces hostility toward those different from you. Happy families begin with happy partnerships. Research confirms that parental conflict harms children, while emotional distancing between partners often leads to distancing from children. When stressed by relationship problems, we become harsher and less consistent with our children. Conversely, secure attachment between partners creates better parenting. Even parents with difficult childhoods can become good parents through creating loving marriages. Loving families form the foundation of humane society. Our nature as humans is to bond intimately with a few, then extend that connection to friends, colleagues, and communities. While abstract moral rules about loving others often fail to move us, personal emotional connections inspire action. To thrive together, we must recognize our need for secure connection with others. The wisdom in our souls, Scripture, and science converge on this truth: we are created for connection-Homo vinculum, the one who bonds-as Christians have always known.

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Chapitre 9

Creating a Lifetime of Love: The Power of Emotional Presence

Creating lasting bonds requires tuning into our deepest needs and translating them into clear signals our lover can respond to. We must recognize and accept the predesigned code of attachment rather than dismissing it. Love requires emotional and physical openness and responsiveness. Studies of titi monkeys show that emotional engagement, not just practical care, is what creates secure bonds. Adult love integrates attachment with sexuality and caretaking-secure attachment forms the scaffold on which these other elements build. When we feel close and connected, caretaking comes naturally. Partners create a positive loop of closeness, responsiveness, caring, and desire. But love is always a work in progress, needing to be "remade all the time, made new" as Ursula Le Guin says. The key lessons of attachment science are clear: our need for safe haven is absolute, emotional starvation causes pain and panic, and emotional balance and joy are the rewards of true love. The blueprint for connection embedded in our nervous system by the Creator manifests in all primary relationships: parent-child bonds, partnerships, and our relationship with God. There's no conflict between science and faith here-the workings of the human heart lead directly to understanding the nature of the One who shaped it. In our fundamental nature as Homo vinculum-the one who bonds-we glimpse the divine design. When we create secure attachments with our partners, we're not just improving our relationships; we're fulfilling our deepest purpose as human beings created for connection. As we learn to be emotionally accessible, responsive, and engaged with each other, we create a safe haven that reflects the ultimate safe haven offered by divine love. The journey to secure connection isn't always easy-it requires courage to face our fears, honesty to acknowledge our needs, and vulnerability to reach for those we love. But the rewards are immeasurable: relationships that heal our wounds, calm our anxieties, and empower us to live with greater compassion and purpose. This is the promise of Created for Connection-not just happier marriages, but more fully human lives, lived in the embrace of love that we were designed to both give and receive.

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Thèmes clés dans Créés pour la connexion

emotionally focused therapy
adult attachment theory
secure emotional bonds
relationship distress cycles
attachment science spirituality

Citations de Créés pour la connexion

Love isn't just the icing on the cake of life but a basic primary need.
The real problem lies deeper: emotional disconnection.
Love may be the most powerful word in language.
The hostility is really a cry to draw their partners back emotionally.
Research shows marriages fail not from increasing conflict but decreasing affection.

Personnages de Créés pour la connexion

Sue JohnsonAuthor and developer of Emotionally Focused Therapy
Kenneth SanderferAuthor and expert in relationship counseling
Mary AinsworthPsychologist who devised the Strange Situation
Carol and JimCase study couple used to illustrate arguments

À propos de l'auteur

Kenneth Sanderfer et la Dre Sue Johnson, auteurs de Created for Connection: The Hold Me Tight Guide for Christian Couples, sont des voix de premier plan dans le domaine de la thérapie relationnelle et du conseil confessionnel.

Sanderfer, superviseur certifié en thérapie centrée sur les émotions (EFT) et directeur du Nashville Center for EFT, se spécialise dans l'aide aux couples chrétiens pour renforcer les liens émotionnels à travers des principes alignés sur la Bible. La Dre Johnson (1947-2024), psychologue clinicienne et fondatrice de l'EFT, a révolutionné la thérapie de couple avec des méthodes scientifiquement prouvées pour favoriser des attachements sécurisants.

Leur travail collaboratif fusionne les recherches de Johnson sur l'attachement adulte avec les enseignements chrétiens, offrant des conversations pratiques pour reconstruire la confiance et l'intimité dans les mariages. Sanderfer dirige des ateliers Created for Connection pour les églises et les thérapeutes, tandis que les livres à succès de Johnson, tels que Hold Me Tight (Serre-moi fort) et Love Sense, se sont vendus à des millions d'exemplaires dans le monde.

Distinguée par l'Ordre du Canada et de nombreux prix de psychologie, le modèle EFT de Johnson demeure la référence absolue en thérapie de couple. Le livre intègre les Écritures à des techniques éprouvées, ce qui en fait une ressource fondamentale pour la guérison des relations fondées sur la foi.

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108

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254

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