Nia and Eli deliver harsh truths about how emotionally absent parents wire us to sabotage relationships. From the 'Little Me Pact' to avoidant attachment, discover why your nervous system treats intimacy like danger-and how to rewire it.

Pushing people away isn't a character flaw; it's an adaptation that served us once but might not be serving us anymore. It's our nervous system trying to protect us based on what it learned way back when we were kids.
Pushing people away and why childhood can cause that


Creado por exalumnos de la Universidad de Columbia en San Francisco
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Creado por exalumnos de la Universidad de Columbia en San Francisco

Nia: Hey everyone, welcome back to another personalized episode from BeFreed! I'm Nia, and I'm here with my co-host Eli, and honestly, we are both so excited to dive into today's topic because it's something that hits close to home for so many of us.
Eli: Absolutely, Nia! And you know what? Today we're tackling something that might make some of our listeners go "Oh wow, that's exactly what I do"-we're exploring why some of us have this almost automatic response to push people away, especially when things start getting real or intimate. And spoiler alert: it usually goes way back to childhood.
Nia: Right? It's like we have this invisible force field that goes up the moment someone tries to get close. And here's the thing-it's not because we don't want connection. It's actually our nervous system trying to protect us based on what it learned way back when we were kids.