Explore the psychology behind our desperate need for external validation and discover how to break free from seeking others' approval to feel worthy and beautiful.

Like we should not be bothered if someone doesn't find us pretty ..like why do we need that others say to us that you are pretty than you feel it ..we don't need validation


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Lena: Hey there, welcome to today's episode! I was scrolling through social media yesterday and noticed something that really got me thinking. There was this post where someone was desperately fishing for compliments about their appearance, and the comments section was just filled with validation. And I couldn't help but wonder—why do we get so caught up in needing others to tell us we're pretty or handsome or whatever?
Miles: Oh my gosh, yes! It's such a common thing, isn't it? We live in this weird validation culture where external approval has become almost like a currency. You know what's fascinating? According to one of the articles I read, people who constantly seek outside validation often end up feeling worse about themselves, even when they get the compliments they're looking for.
Lena: Wait, really? That seems counterintuitive. You'd think getting compliments would make you feel better, not worse.
Miles: Right? But think about it—if you don't believe something about yourself, hearing it from someone else doesn't magically make you believe it. It's like putting a Band-Aid on a deeper issue.
Lena: That actually makes a lot of sense. I've definitely had moments where someone compliments me, and I'm like, "Oh, they're just being nice" or "They don't really mean that."
Miles: Exactly! And that's what psychologists call emotional invalidation, but in reverse—we're invalidating the positive feedback we receive because it doesn't match our internal narrative. Let's explore why we get caught in this cycle of seeking external validation and how we can break free from needing others to confirm our worth.