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    The Gap Between Expectation and Reality

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    16. Jan. 2026
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    Explore how our reactions to events are shaped not by what happens, but by the gap between reality and our deeply-rooted values and expectations that begin forming in infancy.

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    Our reactions aren't really about what happens to us, but about the gap between what happens and our personal set of values, assumptions, and expectations. Understanding that your brain is a prediction machine gives you the power to choose how you want to act in that moment between stimulus and response.

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    The Gap That Shapes Us

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    The Bias Advantage

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