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    Love and Money: The Hidden Contracts That Make or Break Relationships

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    21. Sept. 2025
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    Discover why money conflicts predict divorce more accurately than any other issue, and how the 5-to-1 ratio of positive interactions can save your relationship. Drawing from John Gottman's groundbreaking research, Ramit Sethi's financial wisdom, and Esther Perel's insights on desire, learn to design relationship contracts that last.

    Love and Money: The Hidden Contracts That Make or Break Relationships

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    The strongest relationships aren't those without conflict—they're those with robust repair systems. Most relationship friction comes from unspoken expectations, not bad intentions.

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    The Five-to-One Ratio: How We Fight Determines Everything

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    Bank Account Architecture: A Relationship Choice, Not Just Financial

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