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    Managing Infidelity Triggers and Distress Intolerance in Relationships

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    Learn how to manage racing thoughts and distress intolerance during infidelity recovery. Discover strategies for impulse control and healing relationship trauma.

    Managing Infidelity Triggers and Distress Intolerance in Relationships

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    Infidelity isn’t just a relationship crisis—it’s actually a form of integrity abuse. For the person on the receiving end, it’s a total nervous system eruption where the body literally treats the betrayal like a predatory animal attack.

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    My fiancé is having raving thoughts and a lot of stuff coming up for him pertaining to the past and and infedelity on my part and he’s supposed to be working on his distress intolerance and impulse control what can help him here

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