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When Socialism Gives Women More Than Pantsuits
In the summer of 2017, a provocative headline swept across the internet: "Why Women Had Better Sex Under Socialism." The New York Times op-ed by Kristen Ghodsee sparked fierce debate, with some dismissing it as naive nostalgia for failed communist regimes and others finding a refreshing challenge to capitalism's impact on gender relations. The piece resonated so powerfully that it expanded into this book, which quickly became required reading in gender studies programs across America and Europe. Beyonce reportedly recommended it to her book club, while Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez cited it during congressional debates on family policy. The book's central premise-that unregulated capitalism harms women more than men, and that socialist policies could improve women's lives-arrived at a moment when millennials were already questioning the economic status quo, creating a perfect storm of relevance that continues to influence policy discussions today.
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The Hidden Gender Costs of Free Markets
When we talk about capitalism's impact on society, we rarely focus on its disproportionate effects on women. Yet the evidence is clear: women face higher rates of unemployment, poverty, and workplace discrimination in free market economies. This isn't just unfortunate-it's by design. Capitalism benefits from women's unpaid domestic labor, which subsidizes the entire economic system by reproducing and maintaining the workforce without compensation. Studies estimate that if women's unpaid work were compensated at market rates, it would add between $10-39 trillion to global GDP annually.
Consider how this plays out in everyday life. When governments cut social services to lower taxes, who picks up the slack? Women. When eldercare facilities become too expensive, who quits their job to care for aging parents? Usually women, who provide an estimated 75% of unpaid caregiving hours. When childcare costs consume an entire salary, who steps back from their career? Typically women, with mothers being three times more likely than fathers to leave the workforce for family responsibilities. These aren't just personal choices-they're predictable outcomes of a system that privatizes care work while pretending it has no economic value. The "motherhood penalty" in wages can reach up to 15% per child, while fathers often see a wage increase after having children.
Before the Berlin Wall fell in 1989, state socialist countries provided an important counterbalance to capitalism's worst excesses. The Cold War rivalry actually benefited Western women, as capitalist governments expanded social safety nets to demonstrate their system's superiority. When Soviet cosmonaut Valentina Tereshkova became the first woman in space in 1963, America responded by establishing the Presidential Commission on the Status of Women. When Eastern Bloc women dominated Olympic competitions, the U.S. passed Title IX to develop female athletic talent. Socialist countries also pioneered policies like universal childcare, paid maternity leave, and equal pay legislation decades before Western nations considered them.
Without this competitive pressure after 1989, many Western countries rolled back social programs that had particularly benefited women. Meanwhile, newly capitalist Eastern European economies dismantled their comprehensive childcare networks, extended maternity leaves, and guaranteed employment-creating what economists call a "natural experiment" showing exactly how free markets affect women's lives. The results weren't pretty: female poverty rates soared by up to 50% in some countries, political representation plummeted from near-parity to below 10% in many parliaments, and many women found themselves economically dependent on men for the first time in generations. In Russia alone, women lost over 12 million jobs in the decade following market reforms.
Why does this matter? Because economic independence gives women choices-about their relationships, their families, and their futures. Without it, many find themselves trapped in situations they would otherwise leave, making compromises they wouldn't otherwise make, and accepting treatment they wouldn't otherwise tolerate. Research shows that women with financial independence are 60% more likely to leave abusive relationships and have significantly better health outcomes. The gender wage gap, which persists at 16-20% across most developed economies, isn't just about fairness - it's about freedom, safety, and basic human dignity.
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Working Women: More Than Just Pin Money
In my twenties, I watched my friend Lisa quit her human resources career to become a stay-at-home mom. Years later during a girls' night out, I overheard her begging her husband for access to their credit card. When I paid the dinner bill, she whispered she'd "fuck him tonight" to repay me for covering her share. I resolved never to put myself in such a financially dependent position.
Lisa's situation illustrates how capitalism creates female dependency. Despite performing essential labor-raising children, maintaining their home, managing social calendars-she accumulates no wages, work experience, or social security credits. She accesses healthcare only through her husband's employer. Her economic vulnerability isn't accidental but structural.
Margaret Atwood understood this dynamic perfectly in "The Handmaid's Tale." The Republic of Gilead begins its subjugation of women by firing them from jobs and transferring their bank accounts to male relatives. Economic dependence is the first step in controlling women's bodies and lives. Without money or means to earn it, women cannot determine their own futures.
Free markets have discriminated against women since the industrial revolution. The "family wage" concept meant women were paid as single persons regardless of their actual responsibilities, while employers conveniently imagined working women as wives earning pocket money while husbands provided their basic needs. This perception that women's labor is less valuable persists today-we pay premiums for male service in expensive restaurants, male authors command higher advances, and students consistently rate identical online courses higher when they believe the professor is male.
Socialist countries countered this discrimination through policies requiring women's formal labor participation. Unlike the U.S. and West Germany, which dismissed women workers after WWII, Eastern European states guaranteed women's employment and invested in their education. By 1975, women comprised 49.7% of the Soviet workforce compared to just 37.4% in North America. Despite persisting gender pay gaps, socialist employment guaranteed women pensions, healthcare, and economic independence.
Today, Nordic countries lead in both gender equality and public employment, with 24-30% of total employment being government jobs compared to just 15.3% in the US. Women comprise 70% of public employees in Nordic countries, benefiting from more flexible working conditions and smaller gender wage gaps. This isn't coincidence-public sector employment provides a counterweight to private sector discrimination.
As automation threatens jobs across industries, we need new approaches to ensure women's economic security. Job guarantees, like those in state socialist countries, could prevent suffering during economic downturns. Universal Basic Income could promote gender equality by compensating women's unpaid domestic labor. Without such interventions, capitalism will continue exploiting women's unpaid work while denying them full economic citizenship.
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The Motherhood Penalty: Biology Meets Economics
When my friend Jake hired a promising young woman at his tech startup in 1997, everything changed when she became pregnant. Despite receiving twelve weeks of paid maternity leave, she struggled upon returning-dealing with nursing, sleepless nights, and childcare challenges. Six months later she quit, prompting Jake to declare he would never hire a woman again: "I can be certain that a man won't have a baby."
This reaction exemplifies "statistical discrimination"-employers making decisions based on demographic averages rather than individual productivity. Women's perceived inferiority as workers stems from their biological capacity for childbearing and societal expectations that they'll be primary caregivers. This creates a vicious cycle where women are paid less because employers fear they might quit, and they quit because they're paid less, justifying government intervention.
Imagine a society like Ursula Le Guin's novel "The Left Hand of Darkness," featuring "bisexual hermaphrodites" who randomly become male or female during sexual encounters. In this world, where everyone can both father and bear children, sex discrimination would disappear. Social structures would naturally accommodate pregnancy and childbirth since everyone would benefit from collective support systems.
Socialists recognized early that gender equity required collective support for childrearing. German feminist Lily Braun proposed state-funded "maternity insurance" in 1897, arguing that since society benefits from children as future workers and citizens, it should help bear childrearing costs. While Alexandra Kollontai's attempts to implement similar policies after the Bolshevik revolution ultimately failed due to economic constraints, Braun's ideas flourished in Scandinavian social democracies and Eastern European countries.
Bulgaria's 1973 Politburo decision included language about reeducating men to participate equally in household work, combating "outdated views" about family labor division. Socialist countries expanded nursery schools and kindergartens, though quality was uneven and demand exceeded supply. By the Cold War's end, Scandinavian female labor participation rates were second only to Eastern Bloc women.
Many Eastern Bloc women confirmed that life behind the Iron Curtain had advantages for working mothers. One Swiss-Czechoslovak woman described her experience in 1960s Czechoslovakia: despite her eight-month maternity leave, state-funded daycare, husband who finished work at 2pm to handle childcare and cooking, and their own private flat, she felt her routine was too exhausting for intimacy. Yet these conditions-which she presented as criticism-would seem luxurious to many working mothers today.
East Germany idealized early motherhood, built special university housing for student mothers, subsidized child-related expenses, and provided universal childcare. By 1989, 34% of births occurred outside marriage without leading to poverty. Meanwhile, West German women remained confined to "Kinder, Kuche, Kirche" (children, kitchen, church), with laws until 1977 requiring that jobs not interfere with household duties.
After 1989, post-communist governments pursued deliberate "refamilization" policies, defunding childcare while extending parental leaves with lower compensation and no job protection. Without state-funded childcare or well-paid maternity leave, and facing high unemployment, women were pushed back into unpaid domestic work-saving governments money as women performed care work previously subsidized by the state.
No business wants generous maternity policies fearing they'll attract women planning pregnancies. But if laws require universal job-protected leave with government support, employers would embrace these policies, knowing they could hire and train the best candidates with confidence. America nearly had universal childcare in 1971 with the bipartisan Comprehensive Child Development Act, but Nixon vetoed it, criticizing its "family-weakening implications" and "communal approaches to child rearing"-revealing conservatives' fear of women's economic independence.
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Breaking the Glass Ceiling: Women in Leadership
Despite decades of women's activism, men still maintain a stranglehold on political and economic power in Western democracies. While some blame women's ambition levels or family responsibilities for their absence in leadership positions, the underlying issue is persistent gender stereotypes internalized from childhood.
In corporate leadership, America falls behind countries with quota systems. While women comprised 45% of Fortune 500 employees in 2016, they held only 21% of board seats and 11% of top-earning positions. By contrast, Norway's quota laws ensure 42% female board representation. Even Nordic countries struggle with executive positions-under 15% of Swedish executives were women in 2012, and only 3% of large Nordic companies had female CEOs in 2014.
State socialist countries had a complex record on women's leadership. While they established quotas for women in parliaments, the elite Political Bureau remained overwhelmingly male. Women's political participation increased at local levels but was constrained by the centralized one-party state. In economic leadership, results were mixed-central planners were predominantly male, but women dominated fields like medicine, law, academia, and banking.
The idea of shared political power between sexes emerged in early socialist movements. The Saint-Simonians proposed male-female leadership pairs at all levels, believing men and women had complementary natures. Charles Fourier, who coined "feminism" in 1837, advocated for women's professional freedom and collective communities where men and women worked side by side.
World War II inspired thousands of Eastern European women to become anti-Nazi partisans who later entered politics. Bulgaria produced Elena Lagadinova, the youngest female partisan who later became a scientist, parliamentarian, and women's rights advocate. Romania's Ana Pauker became Foreign Minister in 1948-the first woman worldwide to hold this position.
The Eastern Bloc excelled at demonstrating their commitment to women's rights internationally. In 1963, Valentina Tereshkova became the first woman in space, while Betty Friedan was publishing The Feminine Mystique. By 1989, women represented 50 percent of Soviet engineering and technical specialists, and 73 percent of scientific workers, teachers and educators. Today, eight of the top ten European countries with the highest rates of women in tech are in Eastern Europe-a direct legacy of Soviet-era policies.
Since 1991, over ninety countries have implemented quota systems for women in national parliaments, dramatically increasing female representation. Of the forty-six countries with 30+ percent women in parliament, forty use quotas. Corporate board quotas have also proven effective-Norway's strict 40 percent requirement led to 39 percent female representation, while countries with voluntary quotas like Germany (26 percent) and quota-free UK (22 percent) lag behind.
Discrimination against women in leadership isn't about ability-a 2014 Pew survey found Americans saw no difference between men's and women's innate leadership capabilities. The problem stems from social attitudes and lack of role models. KPMG's 2015 Women's Leadership Study found 67 percent of women learned leadership primarily from other women, while 86 percent felt encouraged seeing women in leadership positions. This creates a vicious cycle: we don't associate women with authority because we've seen so few female leaders, which discourages women from pursuing leadership roles.
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Capitalism Between the Sheets: How Economics Shapes Intimacy
My friend Ken, a wealthy Wall Street trader who died on 9/11, initially preferred dating less professionally accomplished women who wouldn't challenge his masculinity. After his divorce from a "gold-digger," he began questioning whether more egalitarian relationships with financially independent women might create healthier dynamics with less emotional manipulation. Through our conversations, he revealed how his own insecurities about status and power had shaped his dating choices, reflecting broader societal patterns where economic dynamics influence intimate relationships. He never had the chance to pursue this path before his untimely death in the World Trade Center attacks.
Sexual economics theory proposes that heterosexual interactions function as marketplaces where women sell sex and men buy it with resources. According to theorists Baumeister and Vohs, women control this commodity because they supposedly have weaker sex drives than men. The theory suggests women can exchange sex for various benefits including love, commitment, protection, opportunities, or money. This dynamic manifests in multiple ways - from traditional marriage arrangements to modern dating expectations where men are still often expected to pay for dates and demonstrate financial stability. Proponents argue that women's economic independence lowers the "price" of sex, as women with their own resources don't need to "sell" sex at a premium through marriage. This theory has been particularly influential in explaining changing sexual norms as women gained greater economic autonomy throughout the 20th century.
This theory inadvertently aligns with socialist critiques of capitalism by revealing how market logic commodifies intimate relationships. It suggests that in societies with greater gender equality and strong social safety nets, women's sexuality would cease being a commodity altogether. This connects to Marx and Engels' critique that capitalism "has resolved personal worth into exchange value" and "reduced the family relation to a mere money relation." The commodification extends beyond sexual relationships to impact emotional labor, caregiving, and even basic human connection.
Socialist theorists have long argued that women's economic independence would liberate personal relations from economic calculation. As far back as the 1830s, theorists like August Bebel contended that sexual desire was natural and healthy, and that women needed freedom from property relations that commodified their sexuality. Friedrich Engels similarly argued that women's subjugation resulted from male desire for legitimate heirs, which required controlling women's sexuality through monogamous marriage. These early socialist thinkers saw the connection between economic systems and intimate relationships as fundamental to understanding both gender oppression and human liberation.
Alexandra Kollontai, born to Russian nobility in 1872, rejected marriages of convenience and advocated for relationships based on mutual attraction rather than economic considerations. Her writings specifically addressed how capitalism created a double standard that restricted women's sexual freedom while allowing men greater liberty. Following the 1917 Revolution, she attempted to dismantle traditional marriage by establishing civil ceremonies, liberalizing divorce laws, legalizing abortion, and decriminalizing homosexuality. These reforms were revolutionary for their time, aiming to create a society where intimate relationships could exist outside economic constraints. However, traditional Russian conservatism, combined with lack of birth control and insufficient economic support for women with children, undermined these reforms. Stalin ultimately reversed these progressive policies, outlawing abortion, promoting premarital abstinence, repressing discussions of sexuality, and emphasizing traditional gender roles - demonstrating how economic and political systems directly shape intimate relationships and sexual freedom.
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Better Sex Under Socialism? The Evidence Is Compelling
Russian sociologists Temkina and Zdravomyslova identified five sexual scripts through interviews with Soviet and post-Soviet women. After Stalin's death, women born between 1945-1965 developed new scripts: the romantic script (sex as part of emotional connection) and the friendship script (sex as mutual affection between equals). These scripts emerged as women gained economic independence, reducing sexuality's exchange value.
After the USSR's collapse, new sexual scripts emerged: the hedonistic script (sex for physical pleasure) and the instrumental script (sexuality as a commodity). The latter manifested in increased sex work, strategic marriages, and "sponsorship" arrangements. Peter Pomerantsev's expose revealed "gold digger academies" teaching young women to find wealthy "sponsors," with clubs where "Forbeses" (rich men) shop for "cattle" (women)-a stark example of sexuality's re-commodification under capitalism.
The division of Germany created a natural experiment in sexuality. East Germany promoted gender equality and women's economic independence, while West Germany maintained traditional gender roles. East German women, not financially dependent on men, could leave unsatisfying relationships easily. A 1984 study found two-thirds of young East German women reported achieving orgasm "almost always." Comparative studies in the late 1980s showed East German women reported higher sexual satisfaction than their Western counterparts-75% of East German women felt satisfied after their last sexual encounter compared to only 46% of West German women.
Historians Paul Betts and Josie McLellan confirmed that female economic independence contributed to a unique, noncommodified form of sexuality in East Germany. Additional factors included the diminished role of religious institutions in regulating morality, citizens' retreat to private life as refuge from state surveillance, fewer commercial distractions leaving more time for intimacy, and the regime's encouragement of healthy sex lives as distraction from economic deprivation.
Many East Germans believed their pre-1989 sexuality was more spontaneous, natural and joyful compared to the commercialized sexuality they encountered after reunification. Throughout the 1990s, Easterners repeatedly expressed the conviction that sex in the East had been more genuine, loving, sensual and gratifying-and less grounded in self-involvement-than West German sex.
Hungarian sociologist Judit Takacs found that despite housing shortages and constant surveillance, Hungarians "seemed to be able to negotiate their lives between the constraints of state socialism and their longing for enjoyable relationships." A 1970s study of young Hungarians revealed strong preferences for loving relationships based on mutual affection. They believed prostitutes had no legitimate reason to sell affection since the socialist state met basic needs, and worried that "emotionless sex" harmed personal development.
In Catholic Poland, despite the church's influence, women gained independence through employment while the state ensured abortion access after 1956 and sex education after 1969. The 1970s and 1980s represented a "golden age" for Polish sexology, which developed as "a holistic discipline" drawing from medicine, social sciences and humanities. Unlike the medicalized American approach focused on physiology and pharmaceutical solutions, Polish sexologists explored desires for love, intimacy and meaning.
Recent research continues to support the connection between egalitarian relationships and better sex. American studies show that when couples share domestic duties more evenly, they enjoy more frequent and satisfying sex. A longitudinal study of German couples found that "when men contribute fairly to housework, the couple enjoys more frequent and satisfying sex in the future."
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From Barricades to Ballot Boxes: Creating Change
Political systems that seem permanent can collapse suddenly. Having grown up during the Cold War's end, I understand that massive political changes can happen unexpectedly. In 1989, believing nuclear war was imminent, I left college to travel, only to witness the Berlin Wall fall two months later.
In Eastern Europe during summer 1990, I encountered euphoric young people believing democracy and capitalism would bring prosperity and consumer goods. Later research revealed stories of suicides committed just days before the wall fell-people who couldn't imagine their world changing.
Women stand to lose the most in coming political struggles. The #Repealthe19th Twitter trend before the 2016 election emerged after electoral maps showed Trump would win if only men voted, while Clinton would win with only women voting. Ann Coulter once shared her "personal fantasy" of repealing women's right to vote, claiming Democrats would never win again without women voters.
These sentiments draw on research correlating government spending growth with women's suffrage. Women, particularly single women, tend to vote for progressive taxation and social programs that benefit them economically. While men's rights activists use this research to argue against women's suffrage, it actually demonstrates that redistributive policies better guarantee women's independence than free markets.
Socialists must not let past failures prevent progress. Both government and markets are neutral tools that can be directed toward different ends. Currently, the market serves the super-rich who use wealth to influence government, creating a vicious cycle where unregulated markets erode democratic power.
Young women must vote in their economic interests to prevent social upheavals as programs like Social Security face cuts, which would force women to shoulder more unpaid care work, diminishing their autonomy and trapping them in unhealthy relationships.
Beyond voting, we need political education across ideological perspectives, community engagement, and collective action for policies like expanded public employment, subsidized childcare, and universal healthcare. We must reclaim our emotional energy from capitalism, establishing "affective sovereignty" rather than allowing relationships to become economic transactions.
Drawing lessons from Eastern Europe's transition to capitalism, we should advocate for gradual reform rather than sudden collapse to minimize suffering. Ordinary people working collectively can create meaningful change-we must find common cause while respecting diversity. As Margaret Mead famously said, small groups of committed citizens are the only force that ever has changed the world.
