What is *It's My Life Now* about?

*It's My Life Now* by Meg Kennedy Dugan is a practical guide for survivors rebuilding lives after leaving abusive relationships. It addresses emotional recovery, safety planning, legal challenges, financial independence, and parenting post-abuse, blending self-reflection exercises with actionable strategies. Updated in its third edition, it includes modern resources and emphasizes reclaiming personal agency.

Who should read *It's My Life Now*?

This book is essential for domestic violence survivors, therapists, social workers, and advocates. It’s tailored for those navigating post-abuse challenges like trauma healing, custody battles, or financial instability. Professionals supporting survivors will also find its evidence-based frameworks valuable for client guidance.

What are the main themes in *It's My Life Now*?

Key themes include rebuilding self-worth, safety assessment, and overcoming psychological trauma. The book focuses on practical steps for housing, employment, and legal rights while emphasizing emotional resilience. Dugan also explores managing grief over lost relationships and creating new support networks.

Does *It's My Life Now* include worksheets or exercises?

Yes, the book features self-exploration activities, journaling prompts, and safety-planning templates. These tools help survivors identify triggers, set boundaries, and track progress. Worksheets for financial planning and custody arrangements are included to foster tangible accountability.

How does *It's My Life Now* address parenting after abuse?

Dugan provides strategies for co-parenting with abusers, explaining custody laws and communication techniques to protect children. She highlights age-appropriate conversations about abuse and methods to rebuild trust. The book also covers recognizing signs of trauma in children.

What makes *It's My Life Now* different from other recovery guides?

Unlike generic self-help books, this guide offers trauma-informed, survivor-centric advice validated by the National Coalition of Domestic Violence. Its structured approach balances emotional healing with logistical steps like securing housing or restraining orders. The third edition adds modern insights on digital safety and workplace harassment.

Are there critiques of *It's My Life Now*?

Some reviewers note the book focuses more on heterosexual relationships, though newer editions include broader perspectives. A few survivors mention wanting deeper dives into LGBTQ+-specific challenges. However, its actionable frameworks are widely praised for clarity and practicality.

How does *It's My Life Now* help with financial independence?

Dugan outlines steps to rebuild credit, budget effectively, and navigate public assistance programs. She includes templates for expense tracking and negotiating debt, alongside advice for career retraining. Case studies illustrate overcoming economic coercion.

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When Love Turns to Terror: Breaking Free from Abuse

Every 9 seconds, a woman in America is assaulted or beaten by her intimate partner. Yet behind this shocking statistic lies an even more disturbing reality-millions remain trapped in these relationships, unable to escape the cycle of abuse. "It's My Life Now" has become a lifeline for countless survivors since its publication, offering both practical guidance and emotional support during the critical period after leaving an abuser. Endorsed by trauma specialists and embraced by celebrities like Oprah Winfrey, who featured similar resources on her groundbreaking episodes about domestic violence, this book addresses the questions that haunt survivors: "Why did I stay so long?" "How do I rebuild my life?" and perhaps most terrifying, "Am I truly safe now?"

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Understanding the Cycle That Trapped You

Recognizing your experience as abuse often proves surprisingly difficult. The cycle of abuse creates a disorienting pattern that masks the relationship's true nature, especially since violence typically increases gradually over time. Even in frequently violent relationships, periods without overt abuse occur, creating a false sense of hope. This cycle begins with a "honeymoon" phase-a period of harmony and apparent devotion. Eventually, tension builds from some disagreement. Initially, you likely "gave in" to restore peace, but over time, these tensions escalate into explosive incidents of abuse. After each explosion, your partner apologizes profusely, promises change, and temporarily returns to loving behavior, restarting the "honeymoon" phase. This creates a psychological roller coaster where you experience extreme emotional highs followed by devastating lows. You never know what frightening events might come next during the inevitable "free fall" toward the next explosion. The unpredictability itself becomes a form of psychological torture. The abuse you endured likely took multiple forms. Emotional abuse-making you feel unworthy, blaming you for the abuse, threatening harm, and minimizing incidents-often causes deeper, longer-lasting damage than physical violence. Your abuser likely employed tactics like withholding affection, misrepresenting your emotions, acting out jealousy, threatening self-harm, controlling your movements, and making all relationship decisions. Verbal abuse-using words to attack and belittle you-left equally painful wounds. Your partner may have yelled, ridiculed, accused, blamed, used sarcasm, disparaged your ideas, threatened, called you names, insulted you, belittled you, rejected your opinions, criticized you, humiliated you, mocked you, used put-downs, or trivialized your needs. If spirituality forms part of your identity, you may have experienced spiritual abuse-the exploitation of your sacred beliefs and values. Perhaps your abuser misinterpreted religious texts to justify control, trivialized principles important to you, discredited your values, prevented religious participation, ridiculed spiritual practices, intimidated with religious threats, defiled sacred materials, or rejected your cultural heritage. Physical abuse often leaves no visible marks, as abusers become experts at inflicting pain without leaving evidence. Actions like pushing, grabbing to prevent leaving, twisting arms, throwing you against walls, strangling without leaving marks, or hitting only on body parts others won't see allowed the abuse to remain hidden from friends, family, and even medical professionals.

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Why Leaving Was So Much Harder Than Others Understand

"Why didn't you just leave?" This question haunts many survivors, implying a simplicity that never existed. The reality involves complex psychological and practical factors that outsiders rarely comprehend. You likely stayed because you believed your partner's promises of change. Perhaps you thought you needed to try harder or that the abuse stemmed from personal problems your partner could overcome with your help. Financial dependence may have trapped you, especially if your abuser controlled all money and assets. Concern for your children's wellbeing or fear of losing custody kept many in dangerous situations. After years of degradation, you may have believed no one else would want you-a message your abuser reinforced constantly. Most terrifying, you may have stayed because your abuser threatened to kill you, your children, or themselves if you left. The powerful emotional attachment you felt toward your abuser often confuses survivors. This phenomenon, called traumatic bonding, creates connections in abusive relationships through four key elements: a power imbalance where one partner controls decisions and resources; intermittent abuse interspersed with loving periods; denial mechanisms where victims minimize abuse through cognitive dissonance; and coping techniques to mask the reality of the situation. Similarly, Stockholm syndrome explains why victims develop attachments to abusers through perceived threats to survival, isolation from others' perspectives, feelings of helplessness, and intermittent kindness from the abuser. These psychological phenomena help explain why victims develop such strong attachments and why these bonds can feel even stronger than those in healthy relationships. Understanding these dynamics helps explain both why you stayed and why leaving was so extraordinarily difficult. The recognition that you were manipulated through sophisticated psychological mechanisms rather than personal weakness or stupidity represents a crucial step in healing.

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The Hidden Danger: Why Leaving Doesn't Guarantee Safety

The belief that leaving an abusive relationship guarantees safety represents a dangerous myth. In reality, statistics reveal that 75% of domestic assaults reported to law enforcement occur after separation, and nearly three-quarters of battered women seeking emergency medical services were injured after leaving. The most dangerous time for an abuse victim is often immediately after escape, when the abuser's control is threatened. Your risk level depends on several factors in your abuser's history: threats about what would happen if you left; access to weapons and comfort using them; escalating violence during your relationship; and direct or veiled threats against you, your children, family members, or pets. Psychological factors like impulsivity, unpredictable mood swings, depression combined with controlling behavior, and substance abuse further increase danger. While complete safety may be impossible, you can take decisive steps to decrease your risk. In immediate danger, consider temporary relocation to a safe house or crisis center shelter. Prepare escape routes from every entry point of your home and keep essentials (keys, money, restraining orders, medications) in an accessible location. Build a personal alliance with at least one officer at your local police department, providing them with your abuser's photo, description, and copies of restraining orders. Create a safety network by ensuring access to phones throughout your home with emergency numbers programmed. Enlist at least two neighbors as allies, sharing your abuser's photo and creating a signal system to indicate when police should be called. Include children in your safety planning if they're old enough to understand, teaching them where to go if your abuser enters the home. Inform schools, daycare providers and babysitters about who may and may not pick up your children. Consider installing a security system with panic buttons if affordable. Ensure strong locks on all windows and doors, with steel or solid wood doors replacing weaker ones. Install motion-sensing outdoor lighting and create escape routes from all rooms. Your vulnerability extends beyond your home. Share your situation with workplace security and trusted colleagues. Arrange escorts to your car and consider relocating your workspace to a more secure location. Vary your commuting routes and have emergency plans ready. If followed, drive to a police station or crowded area-never home. Be assertive about your boundaries and safety needs. Call police immediately if your ex shows up uninvited or if you sense danger. Never worry about overreacting-always err on the side of caution.

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How Cultural Messages Set the Stage for Abuse

Abuse doesn't happen in a vacuum. Cultural stereotypes about gender roles create environments where abuse can flourish, though these social factors never excuse abusive behavior or shift responsibility away from the abuser. From childhood, boys are typically rewarded for assertive and aggressive behaviors while passive behaviors are discouraged. The phrase "boys will be boys" normalizes aggression, and boys who don't "stand up for themselves" face ridicule. Boys learn early that they're expected to protect and control others, especially females. Meanwhile, girls are positioned as men's opposites-submissive where men are dominant, passive where men are active, obedient where men control. Boys raised in households where fathers rule as "king" learn male entitlement early. When fathers control household possessions, finances, and discipline-including the mother's behavior-they model controlling relationships. Conversely, girls are expected to be demure and dependent rather than assertive. When mothers defer to fathers' demands and phrases like "wait until your father gets home" are common, children learn that power belongs to men. While men are generally physically stronger than women, this biological difference becomes exaggerated in cultural expectations. Boys are encouraged to participate in sports and be competitive and aggressive, while using phrases like "you throw like a girl" as insults reinforces the message that girls are inherently weaker. Boys are discouraged from expressing sadness, fear, or anxiety, and are typically permitted only one emotion: anger. Meanwhile, women receive contradictory messages-expected to be more emotional than men yet condemned for being "overly emotional." This makes it nearly impossible for women to assume positions of power without facing criticism about their emotional nature. Society teaches boys they should control sexual situations, make the first move, and take an active role, while their sexual needs are portrayed as more urgent than girls'. Sexual slang often frames intercourse as something men do to women rather than a mutual act. Girls learn to wait for boys to initiate romance, and female virginity is portrayed as something men "take" from women, suggesting women lack control over their own sexuality. The phrase "behind closed doors" reinforces the idea that relationship matters shouldn't be discussed publicly. This cultural norm discourages people from seeking help when relationships become abusive.

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The Devastating Impact of Sexual Abuse Within Relationships

Sexual abuse in intimate relationships is fundamentally about power and control, not sex. Many survivors struggle to recognize they were sexually assaulted by their partner, but unwanted sexual contact is assault regardless of relationship status. Sexual assault includes forced touching of private body parts, coerced sexual acts, and rape (forced penetration), whether through violence, threats, intimidation, or coercion. Society perpetuates harmful myths about sexual assault. Contrary to popular belief, rape isn't caused by unusually strong sexual drives-rapists don't have higher sex drives than other men. The "blue balls" myth falsely claims men experience unbearable pain without orgasm after arousal, which abusers use to coerce unwanted sex. Perhaps most damaging is the myth that stranger rape is more traumatic than intimate partner rape, when often the opposite is true. Being assaulted by someone you trusted and loved can cause more profound shock and lasting trauma than assault by a stranger. Abusers use various tactics to force unwanted sex. They may claim religious duty, use sex to "make up" after violence, emotionally wear down resistance, threaten greater violence or abandonment, or even force victims into sexual acts with others. Some victims endure sexual abuse to avoid worse violence or other consequences. Sexual abuse causes numerous, sometimes lasting effects. Many survivors experience profound shock after sexual assault, especially from an intimate partner. The violation feels like a nightmare that doesn't fit into their understanding of relationships or reality. Nightmares are common, often reenacting the assault or depicting other terrifying situations. After sexual assault, survivors often block the event from conscious memory or mentally alter it to seem less traumatic. This denial serves a protective function-feeling the full psychological force during the assault might have made life unbearable. Sexual assaults often intensify the isolation victims already experience. Feelings of guilt, embarrassment, depression, and decreased self-esteem make survivors avoid the very people who might help them. Following sexual abuse, many survivors feel dirty and ashamed, taking numerous showers yet never feeling clean. Their relationship with their bodies often changes dramatically-they may hide their sexuality with baggy clothes, neglect personal hygiene, or alter eating patterns. Sexual assault destroys whatever trust remained in the relationship. Survivors begin questioning what other harm their partner might inflict and whether there are any limits to the abuse. After sexual assault, many survivors fear their partner might be capable of killing them. Even without previous physical violence, the unthinkable nature of sexual assault creates terror about what might happen next. This heightened fear often persists after escaping the relationship, particularly regarding physical touch or intimacy.

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Confronting the Confusing Question: How Could You Have Loved an Abuser?

"How could I have loved someone who treated me so terribly?" This question haunts many survivors, creating profound confusion and self-doubt. Understanding this paradox is crucial for healing. Love isn't always rational or predictable. It's a complex set of emotions that doesn't necessarily correlate with how you're treated. People often fall in love without knowing everything about their partner or how they'll be treated. This self-questioning is normal and doesn't indicate anything wrong with you. Most abusive relationships don't start out that way-they begin wonderfully with attentiveness, charm, and commitment. No one is all good or all bad, and your abuser's genuinely positive qualities initially drew you in. Early on, your partner likely made you feel special and deserving of love. What seemed like protective jealousy was misinterpreted as flattering devotion, especially if you had previous experiences with abuse that normalized mistreatment. The painful discovery that your partner's "special" characteristics were actually warning signs of abuse often leads to self-doubt. The attentiveness and jealousy that seemed so endearing transformed into control and violence. Leaving the relationship may have felt like abandoning your ability to love and be loved. Abuse typically creeps into relationships gradually over months or years, making it difficult to identify when things turned bad. Your love and devotion grew alongside the abuse, which followed a cycle with periods of apparent harmony between episodes. Your partner's promises to change, conditional apologies that blamed you, and claims that the abuse was your fault convinced you that you could prevent it by changing your behavior. Your abuser systematically undermined your self-worth while convincing you no one else would ever love you. When you sought support, others often saw only your partner's charming public persona. Your partner may have blamed their behavior on childhood trauma or external stressors, making you feel responsible for helping them heal. Cultural norms or religious teachings that hold women responsible for relationship success further complicated your ability to recognize the abuse as wrong and leave.

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The Complex Grief of Losing an Abusive Relationship

When any relationship ends, pain follows-even abusive ones. Despite the relief of escape, survivors experience profound losses: parts of themselves, companionship, sexual intimacy, trust, life dreams, and economic security. Many mourn their lost ability to trust others, the shattering of family dreams, and separation from children, friends and valued possessions. Survivors often feel fundamentally changed by abuse-once outgoing personalities become withdrawn, assertive people turn passive, carefree spirits grow rigid. These personality shifts represent real losses, though the authentic self typically remains intact beneath the trauma and can gradually reemerge with time and healing. Despite the abuse, survivors often miss having someone to share daily experiences with, discuss problems, and confide in. This creates an emotional void that contributes to loneliness, even when the survivor knows leaving was necessary. Survivors mourn both physical intimacy and their "sexual innocence"-the ability to feel comfortable and trusting with a partner. Sexual abuse particularly damages one's sense of bodily autonomy and sexual agency. Many survivors mourn the life they once envisioned-marriage, children, growing old together, owning a home, building a career. Even knowing the relationship was unhealthy doesn't diminish the grief for these lost dreams and opportunities, especially when escape required sacrificing career advancement or starting over elsewhere. Survivors with children grieve the loss of a stable family environment, while those without may wonder if they'll ever feel secure enough to have children. Parents often feel guilt about exposing children to abuse and mourn their lost innocence. Leaving an abuser often means losing connections to the abuser's family and mutual friends who either disbelieve the abuse claims or remain loyal to the abuser. Even the survivor's own family and friends may withdraw support if they refuse to acknowledge the abuse or blame the victim. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross's grief stages apply to relationship loss, though abuse survivors experience them in less predictable patterns. The first stage is denial-despite planning to leave, the reality feels unreal. The second stage, anger, emerges more safely after escape, often directed both at the abuser and oneself for not leaving sooner. Depression follows with sadness, tearfulness, disrupted sleep patterns, and poor concentration. Finally, acceptance comes gradually over months or years, when the abuse no longer dominates daily life.

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Navigating Overwhelming Emotions on the Path to Healing

Contrary to expectations, strong emotions like fear, anxiety, anger, and depression don't immediately subside after leaving an abuser-they often linger for months or years, while new difficult emotions may emerge. Healing requires understanding these feelings are normal and will diminish over time, either through personal effort or with professional help. Fear persists after leaving an abuser for valid reasons-the danger may follow beyond the relationship, as abusers often escalate violence after separation. Even when intellectually safe, survivors may experience conditioned fear responses to triggers that previously "set off" the abuser. These associations were gradually learned as defense mechanisms and take time to unlearn, as the body and mind became conditioned to associate everyday occurrences with aggression. Guilt persists even when survivors intellectually know the abuse wasn't their fault. This emotion often begins before the relationship, with abusers using subtle guilt tactics to initiate the relationship, then escalating to make victims feel wrong for any disagreement. Abusers use guilt as a control tool, blaming victims for circumstances beyond anyone's control, imagined offenses like nonexistent flirting, and ultimately for the abuse itself ("I'm sorry, but if only you hadn't..."). These deeply instilled patterns don't simply disappear after leaving. After escaping abuse, many survivors feel an overwhelming urge to change everything at once-jobs, living arrangements, friendships-seeking to make life "new." While moving forward is important, hasty decisions made during emotional crisis may lead to regrets. Many survivors conceal anger as a survival strategy that becomes routine and difficult to unlearn. The anger may emerge months or years later, sometimes explosively. This delayed reaction is normal, as survivors often fear fully releasing their anger and losing control over these strong emotions. Depression is the most universal emotional experience for abuse survivors. Once safe, contemplating the relationship creates sadness and loss similar to grieving a death. Signs include changes in eating and sleeping patterns, feelings of hopelessness, loss of interest in activities, and overwhelming sadness. Depression may be situational and temporary, or it could indicate a deeper chemical imbalance, especially if there's a history of depression. Some survivors experience urges to hurt themselves after leaving abusive relationships. This isn't "crazy" but stems from several psychological factors: testing emotional numbness to ensure you can still feel something; reclaiming control over your body that was previously controlled by your abuser; acting on learned associations between anxiety and pain; or reinforcing negative self-concepts instilled by your abuser. Survivors of particularly abusive relationships may develop PTSD, similar to war veterans. Symptoms include extreme responses to startling events (heart palpitations, rapid breathing, profuse sweating), persistent feelings that something terrible is about to happen despite no actual threat, and intrusive thoughts or images of abuse that feel like you're reliving them.

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Rebuilding Self-Worth After Systematic Destruction

After abuse, rebuilding self-esteem is essential but challenging. Many survivors struggle to recognize their positive qualities or feel uncomfortable acknowledging them. Understanding the origins of poor self-image is crucial-while abuse certainly damages self-worth, some survivors had self-esteem issues even before the relationship began. Healthy self-esteem means believing you deserve happiness and satisfaction as much as anyone else. Many abuse survivors find it difficult to list their positive attributes because they've spent little time considering their good qualities. Recognizing your worth isn't conceit-it's essential to healing. Self-critical thoughts often echo words from abusers or others who undermined your confidence. Identifying whose voice you hear when self-doubt arises helps challenge these internalized criticisms. Abusers strategically target their victims' insecurities to maintain control. Their criticisms were weapons, not truths-even when containing a grain of truth, they were exaggerated and weaponized. Sometimes self-criticism stems from pre-abuse relationships with family members or friends who undermined your confidence. Recognizing these influences doesn't require blaming or confronting them-they may have been unaware of their impact or were repeating patterns from their own upbringing. Have you become your own abuser, belittling yourself? When someone degrades you long enough, you begin to believe it's true. Their controlling judgments eat away at your self-image until you internalize that critical voice as your own. This self-criticism has the greatest power over you because it comes from within. Unlearning these unhealthy beliefs requires extra time and work. Change is difficult, even positive change. Knowing you deserve to feel better won't automatically make it happen-you need patience and time. Letting go of negative self-perceptions can feel frightening as it leads to unfamiliar feelings and new expectations. Remember that perfection isn't required; allow yourself to be human with faults while still recognizing your worth as you rediscover yourself and take control of your life.

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Creating a Future of Love Without Fear

After surviving abuse, forming new intimate relationships becomes challenging. Survivors approach potential partners with caution, carrying the knowledge of how love can turn destructive. While this wariness is both normal and wise, survivors aren't doomed to repeat abusive patterns. In fact, their hard-earned wisdom can help identify warning signs of controlling behavior before entering another dangerous relationship. Surviving an abusive relationship doesn't condemn you to endure others. Your painful experience has equipped you to recognize warning signs of controlling behavior. Remember that you weren't to blame for the past abuse-you weren't stupid, blind or too trusting. Abusers expertly conceal their true nature, but now you can look back and identify the signals that predicted the abuse. While relationship preferences vary individually, healthy relationships share key elements: equality, respect, and trust. Equality doesn't mean identical roles but a balanced partnership with shared decision-making. Respect should permeate all interactions-not just admiration for specific traits but acceptance of your whole person. Trust means relying on your partner's honesty and consistency, never questioning their truthfulness, and above all, trusting you'll never face abuse or violence. Unlike when you met your ex-partner, you can now watch for warning signs of abuse. Abusers often appear extraordinarily gracious, loving and devoted initially, working overtime to charm and entice you. Being placed on a pedestal-transformed into someone's flawless ideal-can actually signal danger. This pedestal represents their expectations, not your authentic self, creating an impossible standard. Extreme persistence-refusing to take no for an answer or pushing for rapid commitment-signals potential abuse. If someone pursues you relentlessly despite your requests for space or presses for exclusivity, cohabitation or marriage shortly after meeting, be alarmed. Test by slowing the pace; a healthy partner will respect your boundaries without pressure or ridicule. While new relationships naturally involve wanting to spend time together, potential controllers may show up unannounced or demand excessive time together. Early or disproportionate jealousy indicates a serious problem. If a potential partner shows possessiveness before you're even a couple, or becomes jealous without reason, recognize this as a red flag. Despite feeling flattering, excessive jealousy stems from insecurity and control needs, not love and caring. Before starting a new relationship, evaluate your own readiness. True readiness means having enough self-esteem to enter as an equal partner, believing you deserve a loving, respectful relationship. You should have addressed issues like depression, fear, trust problems, anger, or substance abuse. Trust your timing-don't let anyone rush you into something before you're ready. Eventually, you'll look forward to a healthy relationship despite lingering fears about risking another abusive partnership. These fears are completely valid, but with caution and the wisdom gained from your experiences, you can develop a healthy connection with a loving partner. This transformation won't happen overnight, but it will come with time.

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Meg Kennedy Dugan ist die Autorin von It's My Life Now: Starting Over After an Abusive Relationship. Sie ist zudem eine erfahrene Fürsprecherin und Beraterin, die auf die Erholung nach häuslicher Gewalt spezialisiert ist. Als Exekutivdirektorin von Voices Against Violence, einem Krisenzentrum in New Hampshire, bringt sie über 17 Jahre direkte Erfahrung in der Unterstützung von Überlebenden von Missbrauch, sexueller Gewalt und Stalking ein.

Ihre Arbeit integriert trauma-informierte Strategien mit praktischer Anleitung und befasst sich mit psychologischer Heilung, rechtlichen Herausforderungen, finanzieller Unabhängigkeit und Sicherheitsplanung. Gemeinsam mit dem Psychologen Roger R. Hock verfasst, wurde It's My Life Now von der National Coalition of Domestic Violence empfohlen und ist seit seinem Debüt im Jahr 2000 in drei aktualisierten Ausgaben erschienen, was die sich entwickelnden Best Practices auf diesem Gebiet widerspiegelt.

Dugans Führung erstreckt sich auch auf ihre Rollen in regionalen Einsatzteams für sexuelle Übergriffe und Initiativen zur Gewaltprävention an Hochschulen. Die dritte Auflage von It’s My Life Now bleibt eine grundlegende Ressource in Programmen zur Bewältigung von Missbrauch im ganzen Land und wird für ihre zugänglichen Übungen und ihren Ansatz zur Entmythologisierung posttraumatischen Wachstums geschätzt.

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