What is *Created for Connection* about?

*Created for Connection* by Dr. Sue Johnson and Kenneth Sanderfer merges Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with Christian principles to help couples build secure emotional bonds. It focuses on repairing relationships through seven structured conversations that address attachment needs, conflict patterns, and spiritual connection, emphasizing emotional responsiveness over communication tactics.

Who should read *Created for Connection*?

Christian couples seeking to deepen their emotional and spiritual connection, therapists interested in faith-integrated EFT, or anyone navigating marital conflict will benefit. It’s ideal for those valuing Biblical teachings alongside science-backed strategies for relationship repair.

Who are the authors of *Created for Connection*?

Dr. Sue Johnson, founder of EFT, and Kenneth Sanderfer, a licensed marriage therapist and certified EFT trainer, co-authored the book. Sanderfer integrates Christian theology with EFT principles, drawing from his clinical practice and role as an adjunct professor.

What are the “Seven Conversations” in *Created for Connection*?

The seven conversations guide couples to: * Recognize destructive “Demon Dialogues” (blame-shame cycles). * Identify raw emotional triggers. * Revisit pivotal conflicts. * Rebuild trust through emotional engagement. * Practice forgiveness. * Strengthen intimacy via physical touch. * Maintain long-term connection.

How does *Created for Connection* blend faith and science?

The book pairs attachment theory with Biblical teachings, framing marital love as a reflection of God’s covenant. Verses like Ephesians 4:2-3 support its emphasis on humility, patience, and unity, while EFT research validates its therapeutic framework.

What are “Demon Dialogues” in *Created for Connection*?

“Demon Dialogues” describe toxic interaction patterns like “Find the Bad Guy” (mutual blame) or “Freeze and Flee” (emotional withdrawal). These cycles erode trust, and the book provides tools to replace them with vulnerable, attachment-focused communication.

Can *Created for Connection* help save a failing marriage?

Yes. The book offers actionable steps to break negative cycles, rebuild emotional safety, and foster forgiveness. Case studies show its efficacy for couples in crisis, especially when combined with professional EFT therapy.

How does *Created for Connection* differ from secular EFT books like *Hold Me Tight*?

Unlike Johnson’s secular works, this edition explicitly ties EFT to Scripture, prayer, and Christian marriage values. It reframes attachment needs as God-given desires for relational security.

Created for Connection Summary, PDF, EPUB, Audio

Created for Connection

Kenneth Sanderfer & Sue Johnson

4.22 (570 Reviews)

Relationship Psychology Communication skill Self-growth

Überblick

Wichtige Erkenntnisse

Autor

Häufige Fragen

Discover the science-backed guide merging Christian faith with attachment therapy, hailed by relationship expert Dr. John Gottman as the work of "the best couple therapist in the world." What if emotional safety - not communication skills - is what your marriage truly needs?

Entdecke Deine Art zu Lernen

Kurzfassung11Min

Erlebe das Buch durch die Stimme des Autors

Vertiefung42Min

Verwandle Wissen in fesselnde, beispielreiche Erkenntnisse

Lernkarten10 Erkenntnisse

Erfasse Schlüsselideen blitzschnell für effektives Lernen

Spaß23Min

Genieße das Buch auf unterhaltsame und ansprechende Weise

Bestes Zitat aus Created for Connection

Love isn't just the icing on the cake of life but a basic primary need, like oxygen-exactly as Genesis 2:18 declares: "It is not good for man to be alone."

Entdecke Deine Art zu Lernen

Created for Connection ist nicht nur ein Buch — es ist eine Meisterklasse in Relationship. Um Ihnen zu helfen, die Lektionen auf die für Sie beste Weise aufzunehmen, bieten wir fünf einzigartige Lernmodi an. Ob Sie ein Tiefdenker, ein schneller Lerner oder ein Geschichtenliebhaber sind, es gibt einen Modus, der zu Ihrem Stil passt.

Kurzfassung

Zusammenfassung von Created for Connection in 11 Minuten

Zerlegen Sie die Kernideen von Created for Connection in leicht verständliche Punkte, um zu verstehen, wie innovative Teams kreieren, zusammenarbeiten und wachsen.

00:00

Lernkarten

Top 10 Erkenntnisse aus Created for Connection auf einen Blick

Destillieren Sie Created for Connection in schnelle Gedächtnisstützen, die die Schlüsselprinzipien von Offenheit, Teamarbeit und kreativer Resilienz hervorheben.

Spaß

Lektionen aus Created for Connection erzählt in 23-Min Geschichten

Erleben Sie Created for Connection durch lebhafte Erzählungen, die Innovationslektionen in unvergessliche und anwendbare Momente verwandeln.

00:00

Personalisieren

Erleben Sie Created for Connection auf Ihre Weise.

Fragen Sie alles, wählen Sie die Stimme und erschaffen Sie gemeinsam Erkenntnisse, die wirklich bei Ihnen ankommen.

Von Columbia University Alumni in San Francisco entwickelt

BeFreed vereint eine globale Gemeinschaft von über 200.000 wissbegierigen Menschen

Erfahren Sie mehr darüber, wie BeFreed im Web diskutiert wird

"Instead of endless scrolling, I just hit play on BeFreed. It saves me so much time."

@Moemenn

"I never knew where to start with nonfiction—BeFreed’s book lists turned into podcasts gave me a clear path."

@Chloe, Solo founder, LA

117

"Perfect balance between learning and entertainment. Finished ‘Thinking, Fast and Slow’ on my commute this week."

@Raaaaaachelw

"Crazy how much I learned while walking the dog. BeFreed = small habits → big gains."

@Matt, YC alum

108

"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."

@Erin, Investment Banking Associate , NYC

254

"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."

@djmikemoore

"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."

@Pitiful

4.5K

"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."

@SofiaP

"BeFreed replaced my podcast queue. Imagine Spotify for books — that’s it. 🙌"

@Jaded_Falcon

201

"It is great for me to learn something from the book without reading it."

@OojasSalunke

"The themed book list podcasts help me connect ideas across authors—like a guided audio journey."

@Leo, Law Student, UPenn

483

"Makes me feel smarter every time before going to work"

@Cashflowbubu

Von Columbia University Alumni in San Francisco entwickelt

BeFreed vereint eine globale Gemeinschaft von über 200.000 wissbegierigen Menschen

Erfahren Sie mehr darüber, wie BeFreed im Web diskutiert wird

"Instead of endless scrolling, I just hit play on BeFreed. It saves me so much time."

@Moemenn

"I never knew where to start with nonfiction—BeFreed’s book lists turned into podcasts gave me a clear path."

@Chloe, Solo founder, LA

117

"Perfect balance between learning and entertainment. Finished ‘Thinking, Fast and Slow’ on my commute this week."

@Raaaaaachelw

"Crazy how much I learned while walking the dog. BeFreed = small habits → big gains."

@Matt, YC alum

108

"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."

@Erin, Investment Banking Associate , NYC

254

"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."

@djmikemoore

"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."

@Pitiful

4.5K

"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."

@SofiaP

"BeFreed replaced my podcast queue. Imagine Spotify for books — that’s it. 🙌"

@Jaded_Falcon

201

"It is great for me to learn something from the book without reading it."

@OojasSalunke

"The themed book list podcasts help me connect ideas across authors—like a guided audio journey."

@Leo, Law Student, UPenn

483

"Makes me feel smarter every time before going to work"

@Cashflowbubu

"Instead of endless scrolling, I just hit play on BeFreed. It saves me so much time."

@Moemenn

"I never knew where to start with nonfiction—BeFreed’s book lists turned into podcasts gave me a clear path."

@Chloe, Solo founder, LA

117

"Perfect balance between learning and entertainment. Finished ‘Thinking, Fast and Slow’ on my commute this week."

@Raaaaaachelw

"Crazy how much I learned while walking the dog. BeFreed = small habits → big gains."

@Matt, YC alum

108

"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."

@Erin, Investment Banking Associate , NYC

254

"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."

@djmikemoore

"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."

@Pitiful

4.5K

"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."

@SofiaP

"BeFreed replaced my podcast queue. Imagine Spotify for books — that’s it. 🙌"

@Jaded_Falcon

201

"It is great for me to learn something from the book without reading it."

@OojasSalunke

"The themed book list podcasts help me connect ideas across authors—like a guided audio journey."

@Leo, Law Student, UPenn

483

"Makes me feel smarter every time before going to work"

@Cashflowbubu

"Instead of endless scrolling, I just hit play on BeFreed. It saves me so much time."

@Moemenn

"I never knew where to start with nonfiction—BeFreed’s book lists turned into podcasts gave me a clear path."

@Chloe, Solo founder, LA

117

"Perfect balance between learning and entertainment. Finished ‘Thinking, Fast and Slow’ on my commute this week."

@Raaaaaachelw

"Crazy how much I learned while walking the dog. BeFreed = small habits → big gains."

@Matt, YC alum

108

"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."

@Erin, Investment Banking Associate , NYC

254

"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."

@djmikemoore

"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."

@Pitiful

4.5K

"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."

@SofiaP

"BeFreed replaced my podcast queue. Imagine Spotify for books — that’s it. 🙌"

@Jaded_Falcon

201

"It is great for me to learn something from the book without reading it."

@OojasSalunke

"The themed book list podcasts help me connect ideas across authors—like a guided audio journey."

@Leo, Law Student, UPenn

483

"Makes me feel smarter every time before going to work"

@Cashflowbubu

1.5K Ratings4.7

Starten Sie Ihre Lernreise, jetzt

Diese Zusammenfassung herunterladen

Erhalten Sie die Created for Connection-Zusammenfassung als kostenloses PDF oder EPUB. Drucken Sie es aus oder lesen Sie es jederzeit offline.

Created for Connection

Kenneth Sanderfer & Sue Johnson

4.22 (570 Reviews)

Relationship Psychology Communication skill Self-growth

Überblick

Wichtige Erkenntnisse

Autor

Häufige Fragen

Entdecke Deine Art zu Lernen

Kurzfassung11Min

Erlebe das Buch durch die Stimme des Autors

Vertiefung42Min

Verwandle Wissen in fesselnde, beispielreiche Erkenntnisse

Lernkarten10 Erkenntnisse

Erfasse Schlüsselideen blitzschnell für effektives Lernen

Spaß23Min

Genieße das Buch auf unterhaltsame und ansprechende Weise

Bestes Zitat aus Created for Connection

Love isn't just the icing on the cake of life but a basic primary need, like oxygen-exactly as Genesis 2:18 declares: "It is not good for man to be alone."

Mehr wie dieses

Created for Connection

Sue Johnson

The Relationship Cure

6 sources

The Science and Soul of Intimate Connection

6 sources

The Science of Secure Love

How to Build Connection in a Relationship: Gottman ...

6 sources

Building Deeper Intimacy Through Science-Backed Connection

Wichtigste Erkenntnisse

Why Some Marriages Thrive While Others Barely Survive

00:00

A wife stands at her kitchen counter, tears streaming down her face as her husband scrolls through his phone, oblivious. She's not crying about the dishes or the bills or even his late nights at work. She's crying because she feels invisible. Across town, a husband lies awake, his wife's back turned toward him, the space between them on the bed feeling like an ocean. He wants to reach out but doesn't know how. These scenes play out in millions of homes every night - even among couples who once couldn't keep their hands off each other, even in marriages rooted in faith and commitment. Here's the startling truth: nearly half of all marriages fail, and Christian couples divorce at virtually the same rate as everyone else. Despite countless marriage seminars, relationship books, and well-meaning advice, something fundamental is being missed. The answer isn't about better communication techniques or learning to fight fair. It's about something far more primal: our desperate, hardwired need for secure emotional connection. When that connection breaks, everything else crumbles. When it's strong, couples don't just survive - they flourish. We've all heard love described as a beautiful mystery, an inexplicable force that brings two souls together. But attachment science reveals something more profound: love isn't just an emotion or a choice - it's our most powerful survival mechanism, coded into our biology as deeply as hunger or thirst. British psychiatrist John Bowlby revolutionized our understanding by observing children separated from their parents, discovering that their distress wasn't weakness but a survival response. His work eventually transformed child-rearing worldwide, but here's what changes everything for adult relationships: this attachment need doesn't disappear when we grow up. Throughout our entire lives, we're wired to seek close connection with someone who becomes our safe haven - a person whose presence calms our nervous system and whose absence triggers primal panic.

The Science Behind Our Deepest Needs and Destructive Patterns

Breaking Free by Recognizing Your Patterns and Raw Spots

The Three Questions and the Moment That Changes Everything

Healing Wounds, Reclaiming Passion, and Maintaining Connection

The Divine Design: Connection as Our Deepest Purpose

The Promise: Becoming Fully Human Through Love

Entdecke Deine Art zu Lernen

Kurzfassung

Zusammenfassung von Created for Connection in 11 Minuten

Zerlegen Sie die Kernideen von Created for Connection in leicht verständliche Punkte, um zu verstehen, wie innovative Teams kreieren, zusammenarbeiten und wachsen.

00:00

Lernkarten

Top 10 Erkenntnisse aus Created for Connection auf einen Blick

Destillieren Sie Created for Connection in schnelle Gedächtnisstützen, die die Schlüsselprinzipien von Offenheit, Teamarbeit und kreativer Resilienz hervorheben.

Spaß

Lektionen aus Created for Connection erzählt in 23-Min Geschichten

Erleben Sie Created for Connection durch lebhafte Erzählungen, die Innovationslektionen in unvergessliche und anwendbare Momente verwandeln.

00:00

Personalisieren

Erleben Sie Created for Connection auf Ihre Weise.

Fragen Sie alles, wählen Sie die Stimme und erschaffen Sie gemeinsam Erkenntnisse, die wirklich bei Ihnen ankommen.

Von Columbia University Alumni in San Francisco entwickelt

BeFreed vereint eine globale Gemeinschaft von über 200.000 wissbegierigen Menschen

Erfahren Sie mehr darüber, wie BeFreed im Web diskutiert wird

"Instead of endless scrolling, I just hit play on BeFreed. It saves me so much time."

@Moemenn

"I never knew where to start with nonfiction—BeFreed’s book lists turned into podcasts gave me a clear path."

@Chloe, Solo founder, LA

117

"Perfect balance between learning and entertainment. Finished ‘Thinking, Fast and Slow’ on my commute this week."

@Raaaaaachelw

"Crazy how much I learned while walking the dog. BeFreed = small habits → big gains."

@Matt, YC alum

108

"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."

@Erin, Investment Banking Associate , NYC

254

"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."

@djmikemoore

"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."

@Pitiful

4.5K

"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."

@SofiaP

"BeFreed replaced my podcast queue. Imagine Spotify for books — that’s it. 🙌"

@Jaded_Falcon

201

"It is great for me to learn something from the book without reading it."

@OojasSalunke

"The themed book list podcasts help me connect ideas across authors—like a guided audio journey."

@Leo, Law Student, UPenn

483

"Makes me feel smarter every time before going to work"

@Cashflowbubu

Von Columbia University Alumni in San Francisco entwickelt

BeFreed vereint eine globale Gemeinschaft von über 200.000 wissbegierigen Menschen

Erfahren Sie mehr darüber, wie BeFreed im Web diskutiert wird

"Instead of endless scrolling, I just hit play on BeFreed. It saves me so much time."

@Moemenn

"I never knew where to start with nonfiction—BeFreed’s book lists turned into podcasts gave me a clear path."

@Chloe, Solo founder, LA

117

"Perfect balance between learning and entertainment. Finished ‘Thinking, Fast and Slow’ on my commute this week."

@Raaaaaachelw

"Crazy how much I learned while walking the dog. BeFreed = small habits → big gains."

@Matt, YC alum

108

"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."

@Erin, Investment Banking Associate , NYC

254

"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."

@djmikemoore

"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."

@Pitiful

4.5K

"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."

@SofiaP

"BeFreed replaced my podcast queue. Imagine Spotify for books — that’s it. 🙌"

@Jaded_Falcon

201

"It is great for me to learn something from the book without reading it."

@OojasSalunke

"The themed book list podcasts help me connect ideas across authors—like a guided audio journey."

@Leo, Law Student, UPenn

483

"Makes me feel smarter every time before going to work"

@Cashflowbubu

"Instead of endless scrolling, I just hit play on BeFreed. It saves me so much time."

@Moemenn

"I never knew where to start with nonfiction—BeFreed’s book lists turned into podcasts gave me a clear path."

@Chloe, Solo founder, LA

117

"Perfect balance between learning and entertainment. Finished ‘Thinking, Fast and Slow’ on my commute this week."

@Raaaaaachelw

"Crazy how much I learned while walking the dog. BeFreed = small habits → big gains."

@Matt, YC alum

108

"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."

@Erin, Investment Banking Associate , NYC

254

"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."

@djmikemoore

"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."

@Pitiful

4.5K

"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."

@SofiaP

"BeFreed replaced my podcast queue. Imagine Spotify for books — that’s it. 🙌"

@Jaded_Falcon

201

"It is great for me to learn something from the book without reading it."

@OojasSalunke

"The themed book list podcasts help me connect ideas across authors—like a guided audio journey."

@Leo, Law Student, UPenn

483

"Makes me feel smarter every time before going to work"

@Cashflowbubu

"Instead of endless scrolling, I just hit play on BeFreed. It saves me so much time."

@Moemenn

"I never knew where to start with nonfiction—BeFreed’s book lists turned into podcasts gave me a clear path."

@Chloe, Solo founder, LA

117

"Perfect balance between learning and entertainment. Finished ‘Thinking, Fast and Slow’ on my commute this week."

@Raaaaaachelw

"Crazy how much I learned while walking the dog. BeFreed = small habits → big gains."

@Matt, YC alum

108

"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."

@Erin, Investment Banking Associate , NYC

254

"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."

@djmikemoore

"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."

@Pitiful

4.5K

"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."

@SofiaP

"BeFreed replaced my podcast queue. Imagine Spotify for books — that’s it. 🙌"

@Jaded_Falcon

201

"It is great for me to learn something from the book without reading it."

@OojasSalunke

"The themed book list podcasts help me connect ideas across authors—like a guided audio journey."

@Leo, Law Student, UPenn

483

"Makes me feel smarter every time before going to work"

@Cashflowbubu

1.5K Ratings4.7

Starten Sie Ihre Lernreise, jetzt

Diese Zusammenfassung herunterladen

Erhalten Sie die Created for Connection-Zusammenfassung als kostenloses PDF oder EPUB. Drucken Sie es aus oder lesen Sie es jederzeit offline.

Created for Connection by Kenneth Sanderfer & Sue Johnson Summary

Overview of Created for Connection

Similar books to Created for Connection

Bestes Zitat aus Created for Connection

Kurzfassungs-Modus - Lesen oder hören Sie die Zusammenfassung von Created for Connection in 11 Minuten

Lernkarten-Modus - Top 10 Erkenntnisse aus Created for Connection auf einen Blick

Spaß-Modus - Lektionen aus Created for Connection erzählt in 23-Min Geschichten

Personalisieren-Modus - Lesen oder hören Sie die Zusammenfassung von Created for Connection in 0 Minuten

Created for Connection PDF herunterladen

Created for Connection EPUB herunterladen

Created for Connection by Kenneth Sanderfer & Sue Johnson Summary

Overview of Created for Connection

Similar books to Created for Connection

Bestes Zitat aus Created for Connection

Mehr wie dieses

Wichtigste Erkenntnisse

Why Some Marriages Thrive While Others Barely Survive

The Science Behind Our Deepest Needs and Destructive Patterns

Breaking Free by Recognizing Your Patterns and Raw Spots

The Three Questions and the Moment That Changes Everything

Healing Wounds, Reclaiming Passion, and Maintaining Connection

The Divine Design: Connection as Our Deepest Purpose

The Promise: Becoming Fully Human Through Love

Kurzfassungs-Modus - Lesen oder hören Sie die Zusammenfassung von Created for Connection in 11 Minuten

Lernkarten-Modus - Top 10 Erkenntnisse aus Created for Connection auf einen Blick

Spaß-Modus - Lektionen aus Created for Connection erzählt in 23-Min Geschichten

Personalisieren-Modus - Lesen oder hören Sie die Zusammenfassung von Created for Connection in 0 Minuten

Created for Connection PDF herunterladen

Created for Connection EPUB herunterladen

Mehr wie dieses

Wichtigste Erkenntnisse

Why Some Marriages Thrive While Others Barely Survive

The Science Behind Our Deepest Needs and Destructive Patterns

Breaking Free by Recognizing Your Patterns and Raw Spots

The Three Questions and the Moment That Changes Everything

Healing Wounds, Reclaiming Passion, and Maintaining Connection

The Divine Design: Connection as Our Deepest Purpose

The Promise: Becoming Fully Human Through Love